Hi, Missing.

I don't know how you are fixed for money, but I have some ideas for you. Maybe you can generate a bit more interest from him.

1) Have a complete makeover, then show up at his work with lunch for him.

2) Get some vacation brochures to exotic places and leave them on the dash of your car (or front seat) in plain site, but make no comment about them if he notices them.

3) Next time you talk to him, mention something interesting about a nearby city. Do it anytime you get a chance with him. If he asks why you brought it up, just say you thought it was interesting.

4) Learn some interesting facts about your car that he knows you wouldn't normally know. You can read users forums or just do searches on the net for the info. Mention the facts to hubby in a way that indicates you two have talked about it before, even though you haven't.

5) Ask him if he thinks motorcycles are safe to ride if you are a passenger.

6) See if you can sneak a pamphlet on STDs in a place he will find it.

7) Wear male cologne at a time you know you will be around him for a BRIEF period of time.

8) Never answer calls from him on a Friday or Saturday evening.

9) Go out and do things with your friends.

10) Totally change something about your lifestyle.

11) Stop telling him that you love him.

He thinks he knows you like a book. Disavow him of the notion <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

God bless,
Gimble

I think I have already gotten the wheels turning.

Based on something he said to me today, I know he has been reading all of my emails. I made it clear in one that the door is open for us to reconcile (as long as he makes the decision to come home to me and only me)

He was so nice today. Nothing like the man I have dealt with the past few weeks. No mention of lawyers, divorce, fights... nothing.

He is slowly stepping out. It'll take some time, I know, but I showed him today who is in charge. And, he wasn't stepping back.

This was my best day. (and, for the record... it was the first time he has seen me since the weight loss (thanks to him)) While he didn't say anything, I caught him taking a glance as I turned to walk away. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So, today, my sister calls me at work. Says that a girl called this afternoon looking for my husband.

At my sister's home. ???

This is how the conversation went.

Girl: "Is ----- there?"

Sis: "No"

Girl: "---- ---- isn't there?"

Sis: "No, he doesn't live here. His wife does though"

Girl: "Is your address -----?"

Sis: "---- is not here"

Girl: "Where can I find him?"

Sis: "At work"

Girl: "Where does he work?"

Sis: "----"

Girl: "What is the number?"

Sis: "Look it up"

My sister then hangs up.

Some interesting things to note...

When I have called my WS at work, his calls are being screened. They will ask who is calling before patching through. I always get through though.

My sister called his work to let him know what was going on with this phone call, and the secretary answered. Sister asks for him, and secretary says, "He is on the other line" then she hung up. Did not take a message.

I am confused by all of this. Doesn't make any sense at all! Am I reading too much into this? ie. Maybe he has dumped OW, and she is harassing him? Calling him all of the time? Is staying away from me to protect me from her? (while still hating himself for what he ahs done???)

I dunno. Just wonderign what everyone's thoughts are?

Hi, missing.

Obviously someone is looking for your husband, but the why is anyone's guess.

Her level of aggression is interesting though. If not a stalker, maybe pregnant?

Remember, don't freak out, just a wild guess.

Do pass on any other weirdness though. Maybe we can put a picture together from the pieces.

God bless,
Gimble

Pregnancy is impossible. This is fact.

I will definitely pass on other stuff. Something isn't adding up completely.

I was out and about today and I came across something that I just had to pick up for my H. It is a framed picture of Tiger's stadium (he is the biggest fan) and is something we have talked about getting forever.

Should I give it to the WS however? I know he would love it, and would most likely add a ton to his bank.

Also, he has his wedding ring. Last I brought it up, it is in a drawar at work (he said) Should I ask him to let me hold onto it, because it means more to me then it obviously does him at this time? I would just hate to see him in any anger lose it in some way.

Thanks for your replies. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Can you hang the picture in your home?


L.

I could, but I want him to see it.

Today was a bad day for me. I am so emotional. I talked for a minute to WH, and that was probably the best part of my day. He is no longer in the angry phase. Now, it's the nice, but not quite friendly part.

What other moods can I expect from him?

I'll explain why I am so depressed today.

Our 5th wedding anniversary is in September. My H is the biggest Tiger's fan in our city. lol

Before we went away on the trip, I had bought tickets for a couple of games the weekend after the anniversary as an anniv gift.

They just came in today. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> (and I had completely forgotten about it in all of the drama)

Should I tell him?

Also... to add.

A friend of ours just posted some pictures from her weekend. She is not a close friend... one that we had a falling outwith, but have recently made up with. Anyway, in looking at the pictures, I see that WH was with her and another friend this weekend (which is kinda a relief that he was not with the affair friends... including OW)

So, that kinda made me feel a bit better. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />