Crossroads, when will the divorce be complete?

I haven't followed your story terribly closely, but I remember that you were ambivalent about going into Plan B at all. It sounds like you have been done for a while now, which is fine, but I agree with PM:

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Okay, enough of the sermon. But you ARE still married. Set a good example for your children. Their mother hasn't. You can by not getting involved with anyone until you are divorced. And even then, I'd go very very slow.

I understand the temptation. My marriage has been "dead" for a lot longer than yours, so believe me, I understand. But if you're looking for someone to tell you that it's okay for you to start seeing this other woman before your divorce is complete, I don't think you will find it here.