Well, so much for trust.

I just discovered tonight, that her visit to the hotel was not by herself. What a freakin' surprise....Her student's truck was there, (I just checked a list of licence plates a friend wrote down, and I recognized the plate as his). I now know who he is, everything about him. The son of a ****** even got my 15 year old son a job where he works part time. Oh, the treachery!

The wife was talking today about moving out, as she can't resolve her feelings for me vs him. I now think I may show her the door. I wanted to hold off on exposing this, when there was the 'possibility' this may have been emotional only. Now that that is pretty much a lie, how should I deal with my new found knowledge? If I tell her work, she's almost guaranteed to be fired, then I'll be stuck supporting her!

What is the general opinion about confronting him?

As far as how I got this information confirmed, it was kind of improper, as far as my work is concerned, I could suffer some backlash if they make any noise.

This is ******. I went from feeling ok about things, to being right back to the beginning. I look at my 4 year old daughter, and it kills me. She deserves better. Not to mention my son, who thinks this guy is great for getting him a job......My wife has really thrown a time bomb into things. What to do, what to do?


Ron

that you can't trust your wayward spouse.

Ron...
My 2 cents...

1 Get on anti-Ds now! They will help stabilize the mood swings and keep you from plunging into depression... if you have anxiety anti A meds help 2... don't be proud, I know what i speak of I am in the SH*T too! The merds are trully a life saver.

2 Ok she dosn't do moderan communications... Slap a gps tracker on her car.

3 Plan the exposure and then exacute it... if your friend can get Pics so much the better.

Now when I mean expose I mean her family, your family OM family, OM wife if he has one, Her employer. An A cannot live in the light of day... So I want a milion candle power focused on her!

Ok this is a war, make no mistake, you need a battleplan ASAP and it needs to be good... I am sure some of the pro's will be chiming in shortly...


Also keep the phone handy, start working on you, build your support network.... You are in for a long hard ride my friend... But you can and will make it

Jim

Thanks, Jim, for the advice. My plan for exposure is almost ready to go, I just have to summon up the courage to do it. I have to say, that my Plan A is really taking a beating these last couple of days.. I went from being really good, 'cause things were going really well( so I thought ), to today, which is something like, I couldn't care less if she left, or fell off a cliff...

She doesn't want to think of ourselves as a couple, she wants to be able to 'decide' if she wants to be with anyone. Although it's only been less than two months that I have known there is a problem, my frustration with her not wanting to work on us is building. She tells me one day she wants to work on us, then a couple of days later she tells me that she can't stop thinking of the other man.

I have the patience of a saint, but you can only burn at the stake for so long, before there is nothing left but ashes.

I have spoken with her sister, who says in the best of Quebecois french, that she is "fockais dans la tete" Not much work at translation is needed here.


I appreciate your advice.

Ron