Oh, I'm p!ssed, went to the school and there was a letter in F's file...not in the writing style of STBX, but was signed by him! It was HN1 and the teacher informed me that HN1 has tried several times to get information on F!

The teacher just told her that she couldn't giver her that information! I'm going to have to make a copy of that beautiful four letter word letter that she wrote to me and give that to my A...

Thanks for all the cheers and support...how to you live and let live with someone who's sticking her nose where it doesn't belong? Who has done so much dirt in your life and continues to medal?

I got a good mind to call and tell him VERY politily that if he wants to know something about his children to call!

Might want to start considering having STBX buy you out. That would give you a nice down payment on something else.

I wouldn't want to live in that neighborhood anymore.

JMO.

remind me

who is HN1 ?

Better yet I can force him to sell!

Horrible neighbor one...

Rin,

Please don't call him. He knows he can call you if he wants to know about his children. He knows.

Are you saying the school has a letter on file where STBXH has given permission to allow HN to get info on your kids?

No way.

Oh, wow. Definitely get a copy of that to give to your A and write one which says you recognize no other permitted adult besides STBXH to obtain information besides yourself.

Period.

And thank you, thank you, for the link to Martina's song. Wow. I cried when I listened to it last night, from appreciation and admiration for the privilege to know you...

LA

no, she wrote it and he signed it...he was asking about F's grades and displicine problem at school... the VP told him that he was doing fine and because of the tramaic event at home that he should improve in short order...

If STBX had given her permission, I would certainly be unglued!

I did get a copy, wrote the info on it and will be sending it to A...

um, your welcome! I felt like it was very appropriate...

Depending on how much HN1 tries to stick her nose into F's business, you may need to consider getting a restraining order on her. I mean--it's not as if HN1 and STBX are in a relationship and she's his current new wife or something. She is NOTHING to F other than his former neighbor!! That would be like basically some stranger asking for info on a child at the school...CREEPY.

Yeah--I would DEFINITELY bring it up to your Atty. and let him guide you, as this is decidedly inappropriate. (ewwwwwwww)


--CJ

ditto CJ

Several times? The school should be contacting the police.

stalking a CHILD

not good

I'm going to see what I can do about her...

I failed to mention that her daughter is in the same class and there's another son in the class next door...

this is how she's getting access to the teacher...

You know what I can let this ride...i mean the little world will be different when I'm in the house...


STBX will not have her as his little pet everyday and it would be a temporary move into the house anyway...

After the D, I would like to sell it anyway...

What's that say: I can do something today that I would not usually be able to do for 12 hours...

I'm not going to stress over this...this would be another reaction...I mean if she had any higher brain function we might be able to call her a plant!

Was this the neighbor that kind of had an inappropriate interest in STBX before? Can't remember.

Sounds like she's trying to step in and take care of things for him .... probably why the kids are always over at her house, etc. Funny that she'd write the letter for him, she must be really really curious about what's going on with your DS at school. STBX probably couldn't answer her questions well enough (since he's SOOOO involved....), so she wrote the letter for him.

Interesting lady, that one.

Hang in there. You out-class her all the way.

-AmI.

Yep! She's cooking for him, watching the kids, having the kids sleep at her house, the other neighbor is watching the kids and having them sleep over...

SHe IS THE NOSIEST person I have ever know!

I just copied the letter that she wrote to me last July with all the curse words in case she's a witness for him I can discredit her...saying that she's out to get me!

I'm going to go look for the letter that I wrote back but never sent and included it also!

not to mention, the email from HN2 accusing me of making him out to be a monster and burning bridges becasue she thought I should have handled matters differently!

I've been worked up since yesterday and this only adds fuel to the fire.

My Spon. still gone...i need to stop thinking about the future and get right with today! Same for the past!

Does anyone think that I'm crazy for thinking that I can live across a busy road from these people? I mean I think I can do this for a year, or if the judge forces us to sell! I think I can live there...i figure I'll just call the cops if they start any trouble.

Am I being unrealistic?

Maybe, mostly b/c of the kids. They're gonna want to go across the street and play. If you let them then you're gonna have to deal with the HNs. If you don't, you'll be hurting the kids.

It won't be a comfortable sitch either way. It's gonna be hard to find peace if you live there. Just be prepared to have to be the bigger person once again and do what's best.

I know it's a tough decision.

Wether you sell the house or have STBX buy you out you would get basically the same amount of money.

I just know I wouldn't want to live there.

F those people.

JMO again.

Instead of "Steel Magnolias" or "Pay It Forward," I think you need to rent a Steven Segal movie or another one of those (meaningless) kicking, shooting, whup-up-on-the-bad-guy movies, lady.

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Hang in there, S4B. You’ve come a long way down a very torturous road. Stay with the program and the world is yours for you and your children.

LMAO...i love Steven Segal movies...HE'S cool! Thanks LH...

BC- I agree...the kids will want to go play and it's a shame...fact of the matter...I don't have a whole lot of options right now...

i'd need help getting into a place of my own and to be honest I really don't want the place...memories, neighbors, location, etc.

i talked to my parents yesterday adn they said to sit still, wait for the court date, they can't/won't help right now with it pretty much being a guarantee that I'll get the house...

I certainly don't want to be friends with these people...stabbed in the back not once but twice...

It will not surprised me if HN1 shows up for court...it will surprise me if she doesn't!

LOL...I'm getting use to being the bigger person...

Time is not flying by fast enough for me and I'm getting impatience again becasue I can't control anything that's going on...

I really need help in focusing right now! I was so at peace before yesterday...now it's a flood of emotions...frustration, anger, anxiety, just down right overwhelmed...

I was the bad person from the start...why, because I stayed in my house and didn't visit and gossip with them...I was quite, minded my own business...

Oh, well, whatever happens happens!I have to let it go!Easier said than done!