I have ALL titles, it is in his name, he gave it to me after he got the Harley...

What I think happened was HN's have given him some money which he has deposited into his account, hence, his anger...they are going to see the deposit...

The way I figure it, I'm entitled to the part he has collected and half the remaining owed by them...only then, we I hand the title over...I have to remind you that there's a TRO on the sell of ANY community property at this point...I know that the HNs could not afford to pay everything up front!!!

Or there's a thought, I get the A to make H give them back their money and not agree to the sell...I win it int he D and sell it to someone else! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'm going to get him...and I'm not backing down...

Rin??? Rin???

Where are you???

It's so DARK in here I can't see you!!!!

Come out of the dark on Thursday and hit him where it hurts!

{{Rin}}

Good Morning, it was another one of those morning...woke up 15 minutes to 8...I just got to work...hope the lawyer doesn't call for a meeting today...

I look like [email]Cr@p[/email] today...

Bugs, I think personally that the timing for this whole thing was perfect...it was time for me to get angry again...since I have a wondeerful way of making my anger work for me...

I was thinking about the conversation I have with him yesterday...all the blaming, the implied threats, hearing from him that I'm not going to get "his" kids...blah, blah, blah...

Well, partner (STBX), I can't wait to hear that judge this Thurs., becasue you are still screwing up and I'm loving watching it! I'm telling you I'm going to have a really hard time not smiling at him, or winking, or something in court...that will be a true test for me to my being the better person....

AHHHH! Well, let me do some work, get my first cup of coffee...it's one of those no makeup days! It's hard when you have one of "those" morning, because their no one else who can do your job, so you're rushing out the door! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You sound great for having such a crazy morning.

Yes, use your anger to your advantage, not his! You have gathered your strength well

I want you to re-read what you wrote about how there is no one else that can do your job. Think about that -- there is No One Like You! You are special, talentedn gifted, and unique!

Hope your day falls into place

LMAO...thanks Buga...it's the truth...they freak out when I have to take a day off! LMAO

I was just thinking I have a friend that works at the DMV, I was wondering if I called her would she be nice enough to check and see if STBX has applied for duplicate titles...for the Motorcycle and utility trailer...the 4 wheeler title is still in the person's name FIl got it from...

I guess it wouldn't hurt to check...then, I'll know one way or the other...one if the title has been transferred to HNs name...then I really got him! STBX can't explain a deposit away... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Well, talk to my friend at the DMV...STBX has not applied for Dup. titles...didn't think so, he's lazy...

Or not a fast thinker...whatever...

And she was nice enough to give me the plate numbers since I didn't have those on hand...

::::in her head the Rinster thnks: WORK IT GIRL!:::: <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hi Rin,

I thought I would pop in and tell you how great you are doing! Good luck Thursday.

I will try to get some pictures of Cajun Fest '07 (or is it Jambalaya Along the Rockies?) when BC hits town in July.

That would be great! Thank Chris, you got any ideas on how to I don't know, deal with this anger...

Can you believe that STBX told his A that he feared for his life b/c I have the 9mm? I would have took the 45 too, if I had the opportunity to get it out of his truck!

Please don't let BC intoxicate your bloodstream with all of his unhealthy eats...it's SOOOO damaging!

I mow lawns, take fast walks, shoot hoops whatever it takes. Take your pistol to an indoor range and do some target shooting. Work on accuracy not speed. The focus required to target shoot really can clean your head. This has worked for me a few times. Plus if you are going to own a pistol you need to stay competent and qualified.

My coaching basketball has been a great escape from the madness that has dominated my life for the last 7 months.

See if you can get into one of those self defense courses at a Y. Kick the crap out of an innocent instructor! Focused, healthy and good stuff to know. The boys can swim while you are in class.

I think the key is to find an activity that requires a high degree of focus and attention.

My anger has subsided dramatically over the past few weeks. It really is a useless emotion and is hard and time consuming to keep it fueled. I am however getting a strong wave of sadness and mourning for our marriage these past few days now that I am down to the last week.


To quote Bugs Bunny, “What a maroon.” Waywards have to have their drama and will go to great lengths to invent it.

Wayzilla took her Colt Defender .45 the night she left. She has never said anything, but I have the magazines and the bullets. You can hear Nelson from the Simpsons right now, “HAAA HAAA!!!”

Yeah, I hear you, and it HAS been awhile since I've been to the range...10 bucks and I can unload some...great thing about some woman and shooting...LMAO

His dad told him once when we were out shooting to NEVER piss me off...of course, it's not in my personality but if I had to protect myself or the kids I would have no problems doing what I needed to do...


LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I love it!

I wanted to do the same thing with the 45...but b/c of the way that things went down I was unable too!


this is something I've been wanting to get back into for years...L wants to get into Taeknowdo and I want to go with him...but he has to be 5 first...that's this month and once we get through this phase and things settle down and CS starts coming in on a reg. basic then I can so that...

Right now, I'm using the track as my outlet but I'm not going to have the time to get back to it until maybe Thurs. after court or Fri...I would LOVE to have my weights available to me but THAT'S at HOME TOO! I'm planning on turning "OUR" bedroom into a workout room and moving "MY" room to the spare!

One, I'll be closer to the kids!

Thanks Chris, I really appreicate your thoughts, I'm sorry that you are slipping into the sadness...you know things will change and I know that BC will be good for you! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hey Rin,

I was keeping up, I kinda saw it coming this weekend.

Remember someone has to realize they have a problem first.

I don't think your STBX has realized he has a problem. It seems as though it is you and others but not him.

All just misunderstandings.

I would say you are doing great and staying focused.

Keep moving forward with the D.

I will say there is one thing you are missing and that is a R plan. Or conditions for that.

What I mean is at this point your M isn't over and there is always hope.

However there is only hope if he will do the work as well.

I would say it is time to start thinking about that. What do you want and what don't you want.

In black and white. Of course starting with Monogomy.

Now this can be hold a duel purpose. If not with the STBX then when it is time and you are ready you will know exactly what you want and don't want.

Just Plan for the future and all contingencies.

OMG, WOMAN..I SAW THIS....

You have got to get your priorities straight...

Do not ADMIT to this EVER AGAIN...better yet DON'T PUT YOURSELF IN THIS LOW POSITION...

Mimi...GODDESS COP <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

I was wondering if anyone else saw that non-goddess like admission!:)

Rin - in other words RUN, do not WAlK straight to the ladies room and get some makeup on before Mimi writes you a ticket for being out of uniform!

Plus, you will feel better.

What was the Saturday Night Live character -Fernando- "It's not how you feel, it's how you look. And Dahling, you look Mah-ve-lous!". But only if you get that makeup on!

OMG-- I just realized. Eph is Fernando! Eph used the word mah-ve-lous on my thread last night! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You got it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> ...yesterday I had this heaviness in my chest that wouldn't go away, and I HAD to keep pushing the envelope and I know from the past that the only way to find out what he really thinks in too get him mad...

Since he was mad about providing the info to the court, he made it easy for me...Of course, the D is my fault b/c I left...blah, blah, blah...HN1 is the one that's gathering all the info he needs...same old same old...

I was the one doing his stuff for him and now she's doing it for him...another bonus of us moving back into the house, he will not have easy access to HN1 to be his caregiver...this will focus him to handle his responsibilities more until he finds another sucker...

I was happy with the outcome of yesterday's last conversation, I let loose and gave him a piece of my mind about giving my dog away...thanked him for showing his true colors YET once again...but I, Of COurse, don't use threats like he does! Like THAT'S going to make a difference...

I thnk that it will take him some time to figure that out...slow learner! LMAO


I have a pretty good bit from the writing that I did Sat., what I will tolarate, and not...what I want, etc...but there always room for growth on the idea...


LMAO...TOP OF MY LIST!

I can also tell you that I have given it alot of thought about dating and I know that I am in NO way, Shape, OR form ready for any of that...besides I have to be friends with someone first...trust issues, and then I've learned SOMETIMES, even that doesn't help the matter!

We are all weak, human beings at some point in our lives...I like Sawyer brown's song about the mother riding on the bus...you just don't know what OP are dealing with in their our lives.

Healthy is as healthy does! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

[color:"red"] MIMI!!!!! [/color]

LMAO, LMAO...BUT MIMI, I'm a no makeup kind of girl...I wear very little when I do where it..I'm sorry, do me a favor and check out my MB photo and let me know what you think...LMAO... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

YOU ARE SO AWESOME, [color:"red"]I love YOU! GODDESS COP! [/color]LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

LMAO...
I'll be sure to get RIGHT ON IT! But I do feel good without it! I'm a natural GODDESS! LMAO

TIME FOR A CHANGE!!! YOU'RE A BIG GIRL NOW!!! Get yourself to a MAC COUNTER and ask for the "NATURAL LOOK"..wear your NEW LOOK to COURT!!!

I DON'T DO THE MB PHOTOS...How do I know that's REALLY you??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

LMAO...LMAO....LMAO...

Court WILL BE GODDESS DATE!!! And tomorrow!!! I promise!!!

Today, is turning out to be an AWESOME day...my meeting at lunch was cancelled, so I called my boss to find out where they were all eating today! CHINESE! WOOHOO! Sushi!!!

Then, when I got there, I saw two of STBX's co-workers...I was happy and smiling to begin with, so I walked up and kissed the first on the cheek, smiling the whole time...didn't say anything about the D...just that I was doing really great!

Then, he said that he wasn't doing so well and things could be better...all I said was Well, you do good, you get good...do bad, and you get bad!"

Then, i was going to sit down and RIGHT NEXT to me was another friend of ours...his W and I get along good and I've talked to her about the sitch with STBX before...well, he was on the phone with her and she said not to be a stranger...I said okay, I'm coming over this afternoon...

So, being that he was at the next table, I got to talk with him a little...I said that I had court Thurs...and he said he heard...I said well, i only have one thing to say and repeated my saying about good and bad...idol chat from there about camping with them camping and our trip to Avery island...

I'm just really feeling great...took some action today...got to let my light shine through lunch, and I'm all smiles...then, my fortune was:

"Confidence is the hinge on the door to success"... I said well, I've got that covered! Grinning from ear to ear!

Oh, and I've been practicing the univeral sign for "I LOVE YOU!".....something like this: ..l.. (a little sign language with a wink)...get him mad before it's our turn so that he screws up! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

edited for foture!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Well, talk about awareness of emotions today...I'm back in angry mode...just at him!

I was thinking about trying to let it go, but TBH, I don't want to right now and I'm having a really hard time with that b/c I know that I should! I really have to work on this the next 24 hrs.

I mean come on, what good is this for me? would I be temporarily happy that I pissed him off in court? YES! But the thing is I'm pretty confident about the outcome and then there will be his reaction to the outcome and should he decide to make more bad choices, then I'll have to deal with the effects of that too!

I clearly see the rollercoaster today...and I know that I NEED to settle myself down at the same time not stuffing the anger! There's no one reason why I'm mad at him...it's just in general...

Then I'm questioning myself on: Am I trying to do something to get back at him...I'm not thinking in my mind, oh, I'm going to do this or that to make him suffer...so, where does that put me? Is it a healthy response, just to be mad?

I really don't wish him any harm but at the same time think, what he gets, he gets...I'm not making HIM lose everything...and I'm certainly not the person he "SHOULD" be angry with...he should be angry with himself...but it's so easier to be angry with me...

So, BC, you mentioned thinking about this case as a means of protection fro me and the kids...if I do that then, no I'm not trying to get reverge...

Revenge: to inflict punishment in return for (injury or insult)

Okay, so I didn't file to punish him, I left to protect my family...I'm not requesting the house to punish him, it's because I feel that this is in the best interest of the kids...to be close to everything that they know...so, that I am close to them and can be with them in five or ten minutes depending on the traffic...

For structure...so, I'm pretty certain that this is not reverge...it's just being plain pissed off...correct me if I'm wrong...

So, what am I mad at him for? being an [censored]...definition: a stupid, incompetent, or detestable person...and I'm having trouble detaching the person from the behavior, b/c I think that THIS is who he really is!

Harda$$: a tough, demanding, or uncompromising person

Incompetent:1 : not legally qualified
2 : inadequate to or unsuitable for a particular purpose
3 a : lacking the qualities needed for effective action b : unable to function properly

Stupid:1 a : slow of mind b : given to unintelligent decisions or acts : acting in an unintelligent or careless manner c : lacking intelligence or reason : 3 : marked by or resulting from unreasoned thinking or acting

apathetic: having or showing little or no feeling or emotion

selfish:concerned excessively or exclusively with oneself : seeking or concentrating on one's own advantage, pleasure, or well-being without regard for others

Self-centered:concerned solely with one's own desires, needs, or interests

So, there is no compassion, only disgust...hostility!

I'd say you're starting to get a good handle on it. You're obviously still extremely angry, but you're making better sense.

You're getting what I said about proctection.

You're serperating protection from your anger. PERFECT!!

The anger isn't going anywhere for a while. I've been at it for about a month now. It doesn't consume me anymore, but I still feel it. It'll be gone before long.

You're DEFINATELY headed in the right direction. Stay grounded and keep it up.

YOU'RE GONNA BE FINE!

Rin,

My YS plays soccer as well as the baseball.

What I noticed was when the game started he ran around and played really well. But when another kid pushed him down or kicked him or something that made him angry he played differently.

He was aggressive and went right at the goal. It was wierd he went from being a really good player to great.

All because he was mad.

I tried to coax it out of him but it took another kid ticking him off for him to play his best.

I think in a sense he channeled his anger and it made him focus on the goal.

Being driven by anger is not necesarily a good thing but if you have a right to be angry and I think you do it keeps you focused.

It is hard IMVHO to be getting happily divorced.

So the anger is keeping you focused on the D and what needs to be done.

Just remember to keep it in perspective.