Strivn,

Hey chick--all I can say is: "I hear ya!" I think it's reasonable for you to feel angry about still being out of the house. This temporary hearing was scheduled long ago -AND- it has been put off and put off and put off. Furthermore, if PODS was any kind of man, he would have put the best interests of his kids ahead of his own "comfort" and "what he wants" and allowed them to come HOME and be in their own beds! What kind of man CHOOSES to have sex with someone other than his kids' mom, and then makes his kids suffer the consequences and keeps them away from their own home? It's despicable and definitely worthy of your anger.

Hopefully, when you do finally go to before the judge, he/she will be just as disgusted as we all are...and it will be NONE TOO SOON!!!!

* * *

Now, regarding your question about how long he will have to get out, that really, REALLY varies. It's kind of up to the court. I've seen 3 days...I've seen a month. And invariably the one who is ordered out drags their heels and blames the other person and leaves it a mess, etc. IMHO, he has known this day is coming and has delayed it for a long time. He could have been packing all this time...or organizing at least...and he has done NOTHING to act like a responsible parent and promote his chances to possibly keep the house. All this time, he could have rented a storage space...or begun packing his stuff and put it in one place in the garage...or SOMETHING. But he has taken no initiative and thus, if it were me, I would give him a SHORTER time to get moved out rather than longer, because he has had plenty of sufficient time to do something if he were going to do it. The fact that he has done nothing speaks volumes to me.

That is JMHO. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Your mama bee,



CJ

my bet is if it goes to court, PODS will be escorted with the sheriff to remove his personal belongings and will have to vacate immediately.
If he settles, most likely two weeks tops.
I would say that you need to make a point to insist that the house is inspected right NOW and when he vacates and that any damage done to the premises will be his responsibility. Cover your bases.

MEDC

He hasn't been Johnny on the spot with CS, so don't expect any miracles with him vacating the home. He's gonna drag his feet, kick, scream, lallygag, you know, act like a child.

He's gonna blame you for everything, cuss you for everything, and be an all around [censored].

So you know what to expect.

and he really thinks he's keeping the house, so I can garauntee you he hasn't lifted a finger in that house and isn't even looking at places to move to.

so expect it to be ugly when you are awarded the house. I don't think he's dumb enough to do anything stupid, I'm thinking he's all bark and no bite.

Unfortunately, I bet BC is right.

Prepare for that scenario and anything better will be a bonus!

Hi, everyone....I was just trying to get an idea...I know he's going to be a pricka and stuff...no, he hasn't lifted a finger...I went with my SPon. to pick up the kids and the YARD LOOKS SOOOOSOSOSOSOSOOSOOOOO HORRIBLE...

"he" said that the lawnmower died, it's maybe a year old! Of course, I use to do the maintance to our old lawnmower, change the oil, spark plugs, filter...he asked about warrnety...I said I didn't know and i didn't know wheret o look for the paperwork...

I know but I sure wasn't going to tell him...I'm not going to care for his co-dependent back side...

I didn't say another word to him...I helped buckle the kids up and got int he car!

Sadmo- Thank you for the compliment...I have never in all my life been told that, so it really made me feel good, and I like to make people laugh!

CJ-We see it the same way...where the honor? Both Spon. and I thought he looked SOO bad...the yard was horrible...the kids were in mismatched clothes and they handed me flowers when I saw them....

Just seeing him that way, has settled my heart...I mean I'm not backing down but you know when you see them in a world of hurt....the kids asked what happen to the TV...

The cables been cut off...another result of bad decision making...his world is crumbling and I have no remorse for him...None...it's sad but not my fault!

BC- At this point, he can say whatever he wants I know better...I may have a dollar to my name right now, but I have gas in my car, food, clothes, a roof, running water...see what I'm saying...the kids and I will be fine...I can hold up my end of the bargain and that's what matters...

So, BC and Bugs...I expect the worse...I'm cool with that, I've survived thus far what's a little longer! All "MY" bills are paid! I'm not worried about where my next dollar is coming from...God will provide and PODS looks wore down, anxiety ridden...

MEDC- I was thinking two weeks...I haven't wrote down a list of things I am willing to agree to let him take but I have a list in mind...

One the martial bed, and two the living room stuff minus the end tables...I can live witht he spare bedroom bed and I can find more living room furniture...

Oh, Sadmo, I didn't get that pedicure this weekend...handling my business with bills and I had to pay for me meds...$70 with insurance...so there's my self-care...it will come...I'm in no hurry, it's a luxury that I will treat myself to one day...

Sis- You're right the weekend's are the hardset part, because the cleaning I'm doing around here I "COULD" be doing at my house and after seeing the yard, you can bet that the first thing I do it repair the lawnmower...the points probably need to be filed, something simple...not making a good connection, spark plugs filed...

I'm going to tackle the yard first...there's some trees that are overgrown from the rental house next door that need to be cut, my flowers are really wild looking...

I will probably ask for some help from some friends to come over and help me give it a good cleaning...then, I'll declutter the house, remove and box up his stuff...some fresh paint...it will all come together!

God will provide me with the things and backing that I need...

I was just thinking of the way that CHrisner described his WW and to see the way that PODS looked was amazing! just amazing!

Rin,

I have been married 26 years and 1 month. I have mowed the lawn hundreds of times with a grand total of 2 lawn mowers.

A can of ether goes a long ways. One shot in the air cleaner and the 2-cycle engine begins:

SUCK SQUEEZE BANG BLOW!

Opps.

BC ignore the prior middle school description of a two-cycle engine in action.

Rin, he does not need you to start the mower. He has to care or want to do this himself.

Wayward.

Exactly, Chris, he knows more about small engines than I do, if he wants he can do it...my point was that I will do it when I return to MY home and he's out...

He needs me, I don't need him...he said that the lawn mower died...that's [email]cr@p...[/email]

Wayward...all the way! Let's change his name to POWS...pile of wayward chit...

Hey, Rin!

I have no clue and no input on the timetable for getting him out of the house. I agree that he's probably not going to leave it sparkling and shiny for you, though. The lawn is probably pretty indicative of what the inside looks like.

What a mess. That mean, hateful lawnmower, picking now to die. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> We just bought a new used lawnmower today. The last one cost us $75 and lasted 9 years. And it still works, but sometimes can be hard to push around ever since it got runover. (H & I still debate exactly who is responsible for that ... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> )

Sounds like you have a good plan for making the house yours again when you get back into it. I'm hoping that happens very quickly, although it will make for a pretty busy summer... (gotta admit, I'm still voting for "cash out your part of the equity and get a place of your own with nice neighbors and a decent lawn").

Glad that you had a pretty decent weekend doing your own thing. Sorry I left too early and missed the party.

I'm not in Denver, and far enough away that I'll be safe from the BC/Chrisner town terrorizing tour. Someone will have to get the warning out over there, though.

-AmI.

careful not to run through him with the lawn mower. That stuff STINKS!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

and Chris, that's also a pretty acurate description of me havin SF. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Thanks BC, I'll try to keep that in mind!

MEDC- I forgot to mention that I video taped the house before I left, do you still recommend that I have the house inspected...I haven't been in there since I left. Do you think that the visoe tape would be enough?

AmI- I honestly would love not to live by HNs but I feel I have a better chance of selling the house if we are forced too. If I leave it to him than he's going to screw me. There are some repairs that need to be made and I can either do them myself or get someone to do them for me.

I would rather live there for a short period of time and deal with the things that I need to do than live somewhere else. And then, if we don't have to sell the house well, I've made the repairs anyway, I can seel it for a profit and move...win, win in my eyes...just not for PODS!

I think that everyone should be safe around Denver if they maintain a radius of at least 100 miles! Meat on a stick you know!!! LMAO Oh, and not to mention tone of "ght"!!!

All these years of PODS being lazy, and not handling his responsiblities has just benefitted me in one way or another. I kNOW that I can handle my stuff!

Thanks for all of your support and wisdom!

Rin,

Sounding good and strong. Making plans. Letting go of POWS. Cool!

Chris - I never thought engie talk could be so erotic!

BC - TMI (too much information). <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Thanks for the laugh!

Thanks Bugs! It has taken a lto of work to come to this point..I'm looking forward to being single...not looking for anyone...and I can remember even a few weeks ago afraid of being alone...not really alone but not having anyone to share stuff with, so the world changes for me daily!

Like I wanted to be active in a group and help OP well, I'm doing that...I'm giving back because I've been helped so much in my life. Kind of like I wanted to adopt a child, there are so many out there that need a good home and POWS wasn't up for that...who knows I may be able to do that one day...same thing with OP who can't have a child...

I wouldn't mind if I had a friend who couldn't carry a child doing it for them...helping give them a blessing...POWS wasn't down for that, at least I don't think so!

Chris- Bugs is right on that one!! SEXY BABY!

BC-Too much man, too much! LMAO

YOu may need some LUBE to get that motor purring, too! Holy Lord, YIKES, that was too far. I've lost my inner typeologue!

Rin, you rock sister, you really do.

Cool, you said LUBE! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks SL! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Well, hey guys! I brough F to the dentist today and then let him come back to work with me...good thing I was swamped when I got back and I'll have to hook him up on Friday...

F had three cavities instead of one! I've been fussing him about brushing his teeth better. Oh, well!

BC- F said if you have a cavity try to sing a song when they are making your lip numb and that's an order!!

ANyway, I was extremely happy to have his help today...we finished cleaning up everything and it started raining...I know I wouldn't have finished in time if it wasn't for him...

When he wants to he works his little bootie off...of course, he likes working in the warehouse...

Well, let me finish up for today, I'm still trying to cool off...there was a light breeze blowing but the humidity is killer!

Sir, Yes Sir!

can it be the theme song to Fat Albert or Scooby Doo?

F said yes, as long as it's a song and he's not playin"!

F wants to know about the potential camping trip to grand Isle...any ideas on when we could do that this summer?

I mentioned that it was a possiblity...something we were all "thinking about" ...

I'm just trying to keep busy? Thinking about stuff not related to POWS...working on an inventory of myself...my fourth step...

Oh, F said that the lawnmower's spark plug was black and that POWS tried to wash it off with some gas...I'm thinking that it's filed and it needs to be replaced...maybe the gap is off...any ideas on that? I'll get a better idea once I get to look at it...F said that it just wouldn't start...

Well, let me go rest a little it's been a long day...I was falling asleep sitting at the dentist waiting on F to come out...

Hum...maybe I need four or five "ght"s and then I can sleep for five hours in a row? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Well, i'm up again...fixin' to head back to bed...half asleep...I wake myself up from a dream I was having and thought I would share what the kids informed me of...

HN1 broke her leg...seems she was on her roof for some reason and fell through it...now Murphy's law DOES apply to her and if someone can get hurt in a sitch IT WILL BE her...

F ended up spending the night at her house Sat. to help her two kids take care of her! L didn't want to, so he slept at the house with his dad...

F told me that she said it was time to sell the house and move...they have been having ALL kinds of trouble with that house since they moved in...POWS and I helped them hook up to the city sewage...according to the paperwork, they should have been but were not...

They tried to sue but couldn't get anywhere with it...POWS helped dig with the backhoe a few years ago and I got under the house and helped run all new hot, cold, and drain lines for the house...

recently, they have been working on the inside of the house, replacing all of the paneling, etc...and now this!

I don't know but I thought that you guys would be interested in hearing the new info. on wayward row over there...and I had to ask who was praying for HN1 to be broke? I asked for POWS to be broke!!!

Well, this is the second night in a row that I went to bed at 9:30 but was/am up again as usual 1 and 1/2 hours later...it's my schedule EVERY NIGHT!!!! Most of the time I just walked outside for five or so minutes and then crawl back into bed...

Some times I remember the dreams, sometimes not...tonight POWS was not in it...but it has SF, bombs, and a cruise boat/large ship in it...BC was there...no SF with BC, sorry! I was just happy that he escaped from the ship and the bomb...happy that he was alive so I hugged him!

Here BC: ((((BC)))) There's your hug b/c I'm happy your alive!!!!

I woke up when we all made it to shore, after I hugged BC...

it must have been taken over my WSs or something for BC to be there! LMAO

well, I'm off to see if I can rest some more...I'm so exhausted these days from lack of sleep...no matter how early I go to bed, how tired I am, if I'm on meds for the sleeping problem or not...I'm up!

I deal with it, figure it'll work itself out in the long run...and I've talked to my IC about it, it's on our list of things to work on...I'm actually hoping that it will resolve itself when there's some stablity in our lives...course, I've been like this for over a year now...

Oh, well, good things come to those who wait...I found myself going down hill tonight and thought it was a good idea to head to bed!

Good night you guys...much love to you all and best wished in your lives...would love to hear anything you think/comments/whatever...supporting all of you each step of the way...Sleep tight!

got sent twice. deleted this one.

Well they can't sell the house, it's got a big hole in it.
At least Karma is on the street. It'll find it's way across.

So if you weren't having SF with POWS or ole 2 cycle then who WERE you having it with. Still's pool boy? Holy's A/C tech? Gollum?(sorry Chris, had to)

and I don't mind going to the beach, just don't want to have to abandon ship to do it.

I'm not one to read into dreams. Last night I won a firetruck in a raffle and was notified by [censored] Van Dyke. Anybody want to guess what that was all about.

Hopefully your sleep will return to normal once you're back in the house and get settled.

Speaking of sleep, I could use some myself.

Have a good night <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />