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LMAo...I don't know BC...just accepting those dreams as they come...
Karma's on the street...LOL...could be a good thing!
T minus 25 hours and counting til POWWOW!!! The chieves will be gathering to determine POWS level of stupidity/smelliness!
F's wearing shorts for the second day in a row! Write it down...the child is changing...hated shorts before yesterday! Didn't want to show off his legs!
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Rin:
I think I know what the problem with the mower:
Chis said that it runs like this:
"SUCK SQUEEZE BANG BLOW!"
But I believe that it is:
PUSH, PULL, PUMP, SUCK!
Unless that's for the 4 cycle engine..... Which means you get twice as much!
Maybe I should just return to counting beans....
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LMAO... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />....counting beans or checking into the singing tellograms I asked about! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I'm all about some power too...but the way you guys talk about it...I'll take either one right now! BLAHABAHAHAHHAA! :0 Twice as much cool! I'm use to that! Speaking of...my co-worker...the humorous guy that he is...was nice enough to bring me "ONE CUCUMBER" this morning and told me that I needed to sand it down... Whatever did he mean? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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UUMMM! You all are being sooo baaad!
Push Pull Pump Suck?
LMAO!
Rin,
Didn't you tell your co-worker about Your Secret!:)
Have a great day!
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Now, BUGS, YOU know I can't share that secret!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Well, I hope that POWS it's superstitious with the 13th being tomorrow and Karma already visiting HN1!!!
T minus 24 hours to POWWOW...heck, I'm nervous and I don't have anything to worry about...except him going off the deep in!
My other co-worker said that I need to start watching my back very carefully right now...check my tires before i get into the car, etc...
Him and his W had a rough time with her XH...apparently, b/f my coworker stepped into the pic, her XH burnt part of the house, so, he's really protective of me...always warning me to be careful! His story is one of the reasons I got over my fear of POWS burning the house down...
it's like a great big family here and I like my job a whole lot!
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Rin,
Have so much catching up to do.... but it seems tomorrow you have a court date?
I'll be praying and thinking of you. Will do more reading on everyone's thred a little later.
Going to get my hair cut.
Still
BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
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It's not really a court date...POWS and I will not be there...just the Judge and two lawyers...
On another note, I didn't realize this weekend was Father's day...
So, since it's my weekend, I TMed him with..."Would you like to have the boys for a few hours on Father's day?"
POWS replied "I'll have to get back to u may be going to mom's"
So, I said "K, let me know if u do and if they would like 2 take F for his visit r whatever"
I got back "Yea, alright" For some feeling I think that wasn't a nice reply...knowing him I would have got K or alright...not "yea, Alright"
Whatever...his lose and I guess I'm just going to have to contact IL's myself...co-parenting is not going to be easy with this one! I can't even get an agreement out of him about a simply visit for the kids to his parents! I'm sur ethat they miss the kids!
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save those text messages about father's day .... may be useful
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Rin:
About this:
"I'm just going to have to contact IL's myself"
I do not want to be rude, but WHY?
You asked if PODS (Canine? but I see POWS now? Whale?) wanted the kids for Fathers day.
He said "Get back to U", and "yea, alright" So, leave it up to him.
If you want to take your kids during your time to visit thier Grandparents, then set that up. If he wants to ignore the kids on Fathers Day, that's his choice as well. Don't show him up by "arranging" time with IL's on Fathers Day. Set it up a different day.
JMHO.
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Will do Pep!
LG- I would really appreicate some help in this area...
POWS (Wayward Chit)! Il's are five hours away...I've talked to POWS sereval times about setting up a visit with IL's and kids...over the last month...I'm not getting any help from him on this...
now, when I was growing up...my mom and GPs would talk and make arrangements, my dad wasn't often involved in it...so I spent alot of time with my GPs...
I'm just now sure how to proceed...waiting on POWS has ALWAYS been like waiting on Christmas...I just as soon do it myself, if I want it done...
I want the kids to be able to enjoy their GPs...they all love each other very much and I don't want the kids to miss out b/c of POWS...
I'm open to any ideas...
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Here's what I'm doing. If FM's family contacts me and wants to see DS then I will work with them and do whatever I can to ensure he spends time with his family.
I will NOT be intiating any contact. That is for FM to do. If she doesn't keep her side informed or makes DS available then it is up to her side to initiate contact with me.
Basically, I'll take care of my side and she'll take care of hers unless they contact me personally, which SIL has and my door is open to her.
Just what I'm doing.
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OM1 9/06 - 03/07
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Rin,
Remember back in my sitch when I planned a visit to see the kids g-g-grandmother who is 1.5 hours away? I planned it, asked WW if she wanted to go, she did not, then she tried to stop me from going saying she was planning to go the following weekend.
Well the kids and I went anyway, and she still has not gone up there (this was back in March I believe).
Make the plans yourself. Just my .02.
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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I have a whole new thing to look at now...another offer to purchase a trailer for me 16X80...3 bedroom, 1 1/2 or 2 bath...
I'm up in arms about this...I have questions in regards to the purchase of the "mobile home" to be purchased that I have asked my lawyer about...
This would change the kids school district...but I would be out from under HNs and I would have an acre for the kids to run around on...
I said for me to even consider it, it would have to be new, a septic system to be install and purchased by POWS, and removal of the existing trailer...ALL set up costs to be paid for by POWS...
I also mentioned that I was very inclined to hear what the judge has to say...
The area that my family's property is on is also in a better part of town!
I'm just SOOO worried about getting screwed here!
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Rin, this is from the guy who couldn't/wouldn't pay his cable bill? Where's the money coming from? Selling the marital home? What really happens when POWS gets his hands on some real money? Will he follow through on the "deal"? Know what happens if he doesn't? It back to court for you. Filing a contempt motion. More attorneys fees. Waiting for a hearing on your motion. Getting a new order. Enforcing the order. Would the new place be in your name ONLY? Just thinkin' out loud here for ya.
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I appreciate you thinking out loud...I've been making some calls to find out what this would entail...permits, board of health, etc...
The money would more than likely be fronted by his AUnt...rich aunt...
I would have to have a flood certicate, the trailer would have to be evalated, there's three premits that would have to be applied for...home owner's ins...
Blah, Blah, blah....he doesn't know what he's getting into too!
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About the children visiting with the in laws. It seems to me that if you step in and do POWS work in arranging visits with the children's grandparents then this could backfire on you in the future. If you are always the one to handle the scheduling of these visits, then if for whatever reason things don't go according to plan they will blame you, not POWS. It just seems kind of unhealthy. If his parents really want to see their grandkids, they should call you and try to work it out if POWS won't step up to the plate and be responsible. I guess it depends on what type of people his parents are. If they are like my in-laws it is probably better to let him deal with them. Basically I think what BC said is the best plan of action if they are on the dysfunctional side of the tracks.
I would be wary of any offer that would radically change your childrens daily routines. I have not read far enough back in your thread to know the full situation. Are you going to sell your marital home? Or is POWS trying to keep the marital home and buy this mobile home instead of selling it and splitting the profit with you?
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lmaO...LL...POWs is trying to keep the M Home...and POWs never made the arrangements before with the IL's either...
And I say if he'll willing to buy me one then he can go buy him one!
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Geez, he is a peach. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> I definitely would not let him get away with that. You and the children would be more likely to get the marital home than POWS (at least it seems). As a judge I would never put a woman and her children out so that a single man could live in the marital home by himself. I guess he figures if he gets the house he can try to wrangle more custody away from you? PFFFT, I wouldn't even consider it then. Seems to me if he goes to the judge with this offer he is going to look like a selfish POWS IMHO. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Do what is best for you and the kids.
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Rin,
Your last post just saved me a lot of typing! Thank goodness!
I was just going to say what you said. HE can set up the trailer for HIMSELF!
Why should you and the kids have to wait LONGER and be inconvenienced more for a WORSE result?
Answer - you shouldn't!
Glad you saw that for yourself!
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Rin:
I like what BC had to say, that the GP's could see the kids when FM arranged it.
I would only say that if you were comfortable with your IL's that I would just call them and see when a mutually agreeable time can be arranged between the you and IL's.
You don't have to include POWS in these discussions.
If you can't stand the IL's and they spend the time harping on you about POWS, then they see the G-kids when they make an effort.
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