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Okay--this is just me, but I am SO SICK OF WAITING for Rin's do-nothing, waste-of-space, POWS!!! JUST ANSWER ALREADY!! HOW HARD IS IT!!!???? YES--I agree to move out and you and the boys can have the house -or- NO--I don't agree to move out and you and the boys are on your own cuz I want to look like a self heiney to the judge. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> (still pacing) Mama CJ
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SL- I'm keeping my mouth shut on that one! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> BC- Let it go man, just let it go! Thanks...I have a great opportunity in front of me and that is causing me to be impatience... My uncle said that he has a friend with a house who wants to sell it, offering it to my uncle dirt cheap...it's worth twice as much with a little work...well, my uncle said that he's willing to finance it for me until I get this property settlement out of the way... I priced the houses in the area...researched the property tax...pulled my credit report and I may be able to do this on my own...I'm not sure right not, I have to talk to the mortgage company again... Then, I'm waiting on my uncle to talk to this guy, presently there are renters in the house...F's school would be behind the our backyard...how convenient! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Corner lot...I haven't seen the inside yet, but it's looking pretty good...and good neighborhood, quiet...this would be a great investment for me and the boys.... Then the other thing is I'm still waiting on the attorney's to get their act together...this wait and see is killing me! So, this is where I am! Can you see why I'm impatient? LMAO
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Oh, all the drama that this man requires is exhausting, I'm sure. What a maroon... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
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Oh Rin! With an opportunity like that, I wouldn't be sitting there waiting for attorneys to stroke it! I'd be on three phone calls at once: POWS, POWS's atty., and your atty. on a conference call! "Look--I'm done waiting on this. He has had since March to decide on this. I have decided to go with another housing opportunity and POWS can give me my equity in the house within 30 days of the D being final. I'm done being patient and nice while the boys and I have to live with others and can't move on in our lives. Therefore, if I do not have a specific agreement in my hand within 24 hours, I'm going to full CS, full alimony, full equity 30 days after the D is final, and it's all going before a judge. NO MORE MISS NICE GAL!" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> But that's just me, and I'm a feisty little thing! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> (all pure and innocent) May they just need a little "nudge" to move this along! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Yeah I do understand. It is hard to get going on your new life when POWS still keeps you idling in neutral. I think that POWS is trying to use this to his advantage. He is hoping that the longer he drags this out, the more impatient you will be to settle. Forcing you to take a less than equal settlement. Keep standing strong, this will all be over soon. In a few months you and your boys will start fresh in a new house. How exciting will that be? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
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I'm with Mama Bee. I know nothing about how it all works (dispite the fact that I am in the midst of a D myself!), but this is getting ridiculous.
You have a wonderful opportunity. You should not be made to miss out on that opportunity because of POWS' lolly-gagging.
Seems like this type of special circumstance would be something that the court would consider, particularly given the fact that POWS has been the one dragging his heels.
This is beginning to be like a story line in a soap opera...one that goes on for weeks and weeks and weeks...every day it's, "Stay tuned!" And this is me, from afar...i can't imagine being one of the characters in this tragedy!
Have you talked to your A about this? Does he have any suggestins for how to apply some pressure here?
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HI, all...I called today but my Attorney was out this afternoon...
what I'm waiting on right now is POWS to agree to the custody agreement...my Attorney doesn't want to address the living arrangement and the offer that POWS made to me as NOT TO CONFUSE HIM...
If I think about things logically with my emotions involved, it really hasn't been alot of time since Wed.'s Powwow...I reviewed the letter Thurs. before lunch...it appears that lawyers don't work on Fridays very much...so they may have talked to POWS Friday or Today...
I still have to wait on my uncle to talk to this guy, come up with an agreement, then agree with my uncle on how and if we can do this, move renters out, get paperwork together...if I'm thinking correctly that a month in itself...
I'm going to try my best to get my Attorney to apply some pressure...I'm getting sick on the sitch...I'd have to use the money from POWS anyway to get the ball rolling...
It's like this is a dream and nothing's concrete and I don't like that at all...
I'm not being rushed to go anywhere, not by my Spon., but in my head I am...102 days in one room with two kids...COME ON!!
So, we all know I'm dealing with a RICHARD!!! Nothing's new about that one! THere's another house that I found too...right down the street from some friends of mine in another town about ten minutes from here...cheaper than the house my uncle's friend has...there's some damage...would probably have to remodel at least the bedrooms before moving in...gut the room...replace some studs and dheetrock the walls...
Super investment too...one of those that you would love to flip...great profit...I got the scoop from my friends on the house...it's been ceased...it would be like paying for the land...so I'm really wanting to move forward...funny I've been waiting for years to run across stuff like this and here it is and I'm stuck...
Go figure...Murphy's law!
I think what I'm going to do it call the mortgate company tomorrow and ask if I can fax a copy of my credit report over...talk to someone, and see if they think I can do get pre-approval...explain the sitch and at least hear what they have to say...
I do well when I keep myself busy...looking forward to my options...
tonight I did some major self-care to stay busy...relaxed...or tried too...the kids were really getting on my nerves and it's not like they were really doing anything...my fuse is just really short right now...
I guess I have to remember that I am moving forward, it's just not at my pace...we have come a pretty good ways...and it seems like it was just yesterday that I started this whole process...
I'm really looking forward to turning off the lights at POWS and transferring that to where ever we go...IS that horrible or what? Lights, water, gas, phone...all except teh cable and that's in his name and has already been turned off!
I think the best thing to come out of Wed.'s meeting is the fact that I have a strong feeling that POWS' Attorney is tired of him...I mean he was lying to the man...and it jsut so happens that my uncle's lawyer is POWS...and my uncle said that he's a very honest man who, of course, doesn't like to be lied too...my uncle came out really good with him as his Attorney, so I have more faith thatthings wil work out like they should...
I probably need to do some writing because I'm not feeling very centered right now...
Thank you guys for all of your support...I'm not in the frame of mind to address each one of you...I heard what you all said and it's times liek this that I wish I have ya'll strenght...guess i'm feeling a little weak today...
Disappointed in my mood swing with the kids and oversleeping...knowing I am powerless over what's happening, the time frame...yadda, yadda, yadda!!!
OKay, I'm doing the poor me thing and I'm about done with that...I think I'll make myself throw up in a minute...
Alright, I'm going to pull myself together and get back with you guys later!
(still working hard to keep it together!!!) Good Night!
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Those houses sound like projects that JOAT could handle <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> understand the short fuse - been there the last few days. Umm, maybe stress to your attorney the he/she works for you? I'm pretty empty tonight myself. Mama Bee CJ posed some tough questions to me via e-mail. And I stayed up too late again last night <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Wishing you enough strength for tomorrow.....
Divorced on 3/25/2008 but I have primary legal and physical custody of my 2 kids. Plan A Thread Plan B ThreadEphesians 5:25 - Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
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BC- You know I love you in a very special way right? I'm not sure how that is just yet, could just be b/c YOU ARE SPECIAL!!! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> E- You got it man, that's why I'm up right now...I keep thinking, well, if this is the problem, I can subcontract that out and make my life easier and it will be done faster! Flooring, insulation to my company, I know so many people in the business that I wouldn't even have to do much of nothing... Especailly if I got one or two of those guys that need some extra cash!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> All ideas right now, I think that "I'm" going to try to MAKE something happen! My only question is and let me see if I'm understanding this right: If I purchase something, it IS MY debt acquired after separation, and POWS would not be entitled to anything, correct? I know I need to sleep but I can't...I went to bed after my last post and I was up 45 minutes later, then, again at 2 and just haven't made it back...took some meds, but they're not working yet... I'm going to start wondering if I have an ulcer after while...oh, forget that idea, I know what it is...My Spon. cooked lasagna tonight...same thing happens when they cook spaghetti...UGH...I always add a touch of sugar to mine... needless to say, I'm WIDE AWAKE...plotting and planning ways to get me out of this house!!! WEll, I guess I'll TRY to go back to sleep...figured if I posted it might help clear my mind! Hope you guys ahve a great day! Take care! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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So u r wired? I was just headed to bed and saw your post. Since I don't have to go to work tomorrow...whacha wanna talk about? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> L.
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Good Morning, Orchid....oh, I'm so sorry that I missed you! I went to bed right after...took a little while to fall asleep and then I woke up at 5:30, go figure!
Well, we'll see what today holds!
Oh, I wanted to share the letter from my Attorney to his that we are waiting on an okay for:
Following the conference yesterday, I spoke with Rin and she purposes the following custody and visitation schedule. The parties would be awarded joint custody of the minor children with Rin being designated the primary custodial parent subject to visitation every other weekend. Additionally, Rin is agreeable to visitation every Tues. evening with POWS picking up the children at the sitter's and returning them to their mother @ 8pm.
Please immediately advise if this is acceptable to POWS.
SO, THERE you have it! I should have shared that earlier...pretty cut and dry!
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Okay, I faxed a little note over to my laywer...
here is it:
hello, first, thank you both for all of your hard work with ym case. I understand that there's a certain process to all of this but the kids and I have been living in one room together for the past 3 1/2 months. Is there anyway that we can apply some pressure and move this thing along? i would love to have my house back but I'm at my wit's end and will accept funding to set up a new home for the kids and I! Our lives have been in limbo while he's been living comfortable in a 3 bedroom house! Thank you for your time!
Rin
THEN:
HN2 TMs me with:
hi, i know how ugly divorce is but really much more can you both take? the kids are going to suffer! You dont have to lie about
The message was cut off, adn I replied:
lie @ what? It was cut off, perhaps u should email me r mind ur own business
HN2 replied: Can I email you?
I didn't response at that point...THEN, POWS' BF that he grew up with calls me...he's my friend also, and he's been a good friend but I'm not to trusting right now...He said that he was going to call me back tonight...
I get the feeling that POWS was spoken to today...seems to me that there a few people who are reacting...
I'm really depressed today...especially now! I talked to the realtor with the house that I had found...just to much work for me to do, so I referred it over to my boss and he said that if he did anything with it that he would give me a finder's fee!
I'm having one of those days where I just want to go home and cry!
i also tried going to the bank today, and the manager was out, so I guess it's not ment to be...I can even think how to spell today!
Well, let me try to get some work done!
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The mortgage company called me...he hasn't paid the note this month!
i called my Attorney with all the info of the last hour!
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I like the note you sent your lawyer. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Didn't everyone know (including the lawyer) that the WS has the house while his family lives in 1 room?
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Thanks Orchid I was tries to be strong and plesant at the smae time!
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I NEED SOMEONE TO FILTER AN EMAIL! HN2 JUST WROTE TO ME!
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I can filter it for you, Rin
send it to me and I'll do the intermediary thingie.
Okay got it.
Summary: HN2 is in a wishful world (she states this: "I just wish all this would not be happening").
She doesn't know that your WH blamed you for everything, brought up your past, etc. to his attorney (did he include that in the court documents, btw?) She doesn't know what she doesn't know. She assumes a lot.
She's of the non-abuse mindset that if he were so abusive, you would have told the world he was...instead of convincing yourself for a long time that he wasn't (which is usual). She says she cares about your kids and thinks you can make this divorce go smoother if you stop stating the truth.
She believes she treated you well through all the HN1 crap and deserves better treatment. She says that the kids aren't at her house much, and then says that they are, but it's because their SS is there those same weekends.
Her email is disjointed and very conversational...like in your mind...answering rebuttals you're not giving. Kinda odd.
Sounds to me to be heartfelt and manipulative. She's buying all the WH is selling, the whole victim act, and says he never speaks poorly of you at all. And talks a lot about you guys together in your college days.
She's definitely in the fog of believing she knows what she does not know...and even says, "I know we don't know what goes on behind closed doors" and then "but we do."
Silly stuff, Rin.
I see her purpose to get you to change your statements to your attorney. That's all I got. Don't, Rin. Okay?
LA
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I faxed it to my Laywer without reading it, asking if it was a violation of his TRO...
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