HI, MEDC...thanks for the info...problem is staying asleep...i have benydrl...I can use that...i talked to my dr. some time back and the stuff he gave me make me really feel bad...anxiety and stuff...

I'll try the benydrl again, and if that doesn't work, I'll try something off the counter...I don't like taking meds to begin with...it's scary to me!

Rin... seriously, skip the benedryl. I was not implying that is a good option... just better than TPM.
Talk to your doctor... I know he will be able to give you samples of the latest meds... you really should not have the side effects you had if you use these new meds.

Okay, thanks MEDC...

On a side note, I just sent my paperwork over to the bank for the manager to review and offer me suggestions on what direction I should pursuit...if nothing at all, then at least I know where I stand and can have a plan in mind for our future...

Figure it's good information to know one way or another and it helps me to feel like I'm doing "SUMTHING"...

Of course, still no word from my attorney on anything...

There is nothing wrong with planning your future. This is a good thing, you are not allowing yourself to be caught up in the drama of the moment.

You have a vision and you are following it!

Hi, E...thanks for the validation...I hope that I'm not setting myself up for more disappointment...

Trying to do my will, verses God's will!

S4B,

Sorry to hear about your sleep problems. In the beginning when I first found out about WH's affairs and then after we separated I had trouble sleeping. I tried everything. Benadryl did seem to work the best. The only thing about it and many sleep aids is that they are not long acting. For trouble staying asleep, a controlled release product is better. It releases the medicine over a period of 6-8 hours. (I work for a pharmaceutical company if you couldn't tell) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Don't worry too much about taking medicine for sleep, they are only meant to be taken for a short period of time to get you back into a healthy sleep pattern. I think that a lot of your problems are due to having to sleep in the same room with your 2 DS. When I stayed with my parents briefly after filing the order of protection I didn't sleep a wink because DD2 had to sleep in the same bed with me. She has the jimmy legs! Maybe when you get back into your own bed in your new house your sleep problems will disappear.

I have a question for you. Do they consider child support as income when applying for home loans? I was just wondering about that myself. When I get my house sold I may have a hard time getting a home with such a drop in income.

Keep being patient with your D. Remember you have all of us Plan D cheerleaders rooting for you! Good things come to those who wait.

Yes, ma'am!

LMAO...i'm trying ohhhhh, sooooo hard to wait...

Rin,

I think you need to find out from your A one thing.

WORSE CASE SCENARIO HOW LONG WILL THIS TAKE?????

Then get from him a timeline and next steps and when they will be taken.

IE What is next and how long can that take.

Your STBX is probably aware of timelines more then you are and that gives him leverage.

Is your A giving him times to get back to him?

Here is what I mean. You make an offer. Your A says I want an answer by Friday close of business.

I think you need to stop with the offers and get a date.

Your A can say he believes your STBX is dragging it on so you have to stay away from the home. Get a date, Get a date, Get a date.

I would call my A today and say no more. I want to go to court. I want a date. I want my home.

He is PA and a year from now you will be in that same home unless you put his BUTT to the fire.

He is jerking everyone around, he is a pro at it.

You are the client the A represents you. Make it clear the time for negotiating is over.

If you have to tell him to tell STBX A that if the offer isn't done by Weds then the gloves are off and you will go to court. No other offers will be considered or accepted.

Take a hard line and get going forward.

This is ridiculous.

hi, Frog...funny you said that...offer declined, we go to court!

POWS will accept nothing less than 7/7 unless court ordered to do so!

Fine...I'm cool with that!

My A will be calling me back to let me know about the date!

Tell your A to tell STBX that since he is being unreasonable then you are going to include your A fees.

In other words let POWS he will be paying your fees too.

Go for alimony now and every dang thing you can get.

Tell the A you need something to get back in the house whatever it takes.

The fact he wants to go to court and hasn't been spending 7 7 now is a joke.

His A knows it and so does yours. If you have been honest about everything his interaction with them barely qualifies him for every other weekend.

Also find out about the bills.

He makes me ashamed to be a man. I could never let my kids linger in a single room while I was being a jerk weed like him.

Unreal. Make sure your A puts it in writing too.

STBX A funny your client rejected our latest offer. His concern with custody is truly amazing. As you and I both know the courts decide custody by what is in the best interest of the kids. Which parent can judge that.

It seems as though your client thinks it is in the kids best interest to be in one room while he has the whole house.

He also has passed up his weekday visitations and has missed a weekend because of having to work.

In addition he has been late on his CS x amount of times and let all the payments go late at one point or another.

Since it is clear by state guidlines your client will not be awarded that type of custody my client is going to seek from the court that your client pay my bills.

Sincerley Rins lawyer you POWS!!!!

or something like that

hey Frog, thank you for the advice, I will be sure to include that...

it's really funny, this morning I had a gut feeling that this was going to happen, so it didn't surprise me int he least..

When one door opens, another door closes...

This morning a Super good friend of mine...who stopping visiting with me b/c of POWS called this morning...she's a paralegal...she was nice enough to explain some things to me about the process and the whole nine yeards...

i explained what was happening and she said that I was in good shape...which i knew but it's always great to hear...anyway, she said that she is more than willing to walk me through this whole process to insure that I get every dime that's mine...

She mentioned this morning that she's won 6 custody battles as a result of Myspace...she looked up POWS and sent me his profile pic in case I need it...

So, I got this...and the other thing is that he is following the typical abusers profile...

My friend said as long as I keep my backyard clean to let him drop all the leaves that he wants...she also said that she understands how frustration it is to live the way we are but asked that I be patient a little longer...that the only way is up from here.

I'm cool, calm, and COOOOOLLLLLECTTTED! I will enjoy my weekend, rest, and relax! This is no skin off my back! F' POWS!

Well then at least you know and you have your ducks in a row.

Ask your friend about him covering your costs. It can happen when one party refuses to agree on what the court will probably hand down. IE what he is doing.

My advice earlier was out of some anger. LOL.

He is acting like a putz.

My suggestion remains the same, go for the jugular now do not wait.

Let your A know that you want to throw everything against the wall at this point and see what sticks.

IMVHO his A and your STBX are taking advantage of your good nature and your desire not to get down in the dirt with them.

Get a little dirty and let them know that if they want a fight you have it in you.

Then maybe he will decide he doesn't want to spend all that money.

Lets face it he wants 7/7 to lower his support payment. He has no intention of seeing them 7/7 or he would already be doing it.

His lawyer would have that in place already.

Do NOT let him know you are angry and upset. Do NOT let him know your plans. B STILL!!!

The paralegal says to be patient. I 2nd that suggestion.

The WS is squirming. Just watch. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

Oh, you can bet I have the fight in me and I will let my Attorney know...

O- I'm actually laughing about the whole sitch...it's so funny...

hey BC, I'm convinced that POWS has been in South LA for so long that he's got marsh rot of the brain!

LMAO...

Yeah, next stop, nutria itch <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I think Karma is starting to cross the street. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

now WHY would you say that? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

POWS is desperatly clining to the last things that he has control of about you. The D.

His only power / control at this point he has left is to delay / be obstanate. So he will do so. That lets him think that he still has "control".

Reality have very little to do with his choices right now. It is all about the last vestiges of his control.

Stay Strong!

from hn's to pows

did you forget that already

FIL is enlightened, paralegal says your gonna nail him, POWS is about to face the judge.

Karma baby, it's a crossing the street and it's a bringin the nutria itch

uh huh, that's right

Thank YOU WTF...I really appreicate you calling that to my attention...I was talking to my boss and she seems to think that he's still trying to get me back...

I said not a chance in ******...

I see POWS in a whole new light and it's not through rose colored glasses...

BC- I guess i should have put a smiley face on that one! I remembered, but I did enjoy the way you explained it! I got another good laugh!

You know POWS has to keep up his appearance for people, we would hate for him to disappoint them...

I figure soon enough everyone will know that I was the one covering you "[censored]"ets throughout this M...

ME <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />, the great "investment!" LMAO

Nutria itch! LMAO!

Is there a powder or a cream for that?

Aren't nutria on the endangered species lists,,along with POWS! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Rin- you are more than just a great investment,, you are the ultimate ASSET!