Hey, guys and gals...we came back today...

My grandma was nice enough to wake us up as 7:30 this morning...BOy, riding around with her was scary yesterday...she's 77 and the edge of that bridge was getting closer and closer! WHOO!

Anyway, today we lolly gaged back home...Beau mentioned the Children's museum some time back so oday I stopped at the tourist place and got a map...

We has so much fun...I was the patient several times today...once in the dentist chair and the other time in the ambulance...

Then F ran the camera, while I did the weather and L did the news! The boy's played with the bubble makers, shopped in the grocery store, rang up their purchases and put the items back on the shelves...

Then, we headed back to Avery Island to bring them back to the Tabasco sauce plant so they could see the plant in production...we missed that last time because it was the weekend...

My grandma got the boys some of their school clothes so I guess it was worth the heartattacks I suffered in the process...she almost ran a redlight, and then one L asked if she was speeding and she said "no, the speed limit is 40 and I'm doing 30 b/c I like to look at everything!" I like to have died! Outside of that, we have a good time...

While we were at my dad's the kids played outside, did a ton of fireworks, was covered in dirt like little boys should be occasional, and we swam...

I sleep longer than normal...in some cases four hours at a time...my allegies were acting up at my dad's so I took some benedryl, so I did get some rest...EVEN with L jumping on me once...F fussed him for it...I figured at that point it was time to get up and get some coffee...it was 11 o'clock! LMAO

I feel really good and thank ALL of you for checking on me...E, I'm still laughing about the TMs...

Oh, I did stop by Beau's on the way out to give him his B-day card and contribute to the deliquincy of a [email][censored]@ss[/email] in the mountains, hoping Chris is the sane one! LMAO I hear their are having a blast!

As far as the frame of mind, I'm focused on the positive! It was rough for a while to FIND the positive, but I found it. SO , I'm looking forward to the next month and a half to court...I called the friend of mine who's a para and she said they are scheduling for August...

I figured as much, I'm guessing the second, maybe third week in August! At least I have a plan for the boy's and school, as long as they are cool, I'm good! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Welcome back!

Sound like everyone had a great time and the oh so needed relaxation!

You sound Great!

Uhm, are you saying you are laughing at me?

Just kidding - I know you are laughing with me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You will get a kick out of this:
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E- Is that his nose or his teeth? LMAO

BUGS- we did have a good time but I was ready to come home...

I need to get F to call the ILs to find out if they are going for a week or two...I'm still uncomfortable talking to them some...

haven't heard from POWS and that in itself IS wonderful! STILL waiting on CS, but I figure when it comes it comes...I'm not in a rush for it...just more ditch digging on his part! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Perfect attitude!

Keep it up!

Thanks BUGS! I was struggling last week and the week before with the whole feeling punished thing but I just had to find the positive on my own...

I found it! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I feel stronger now...LMAO Strong enough to make it through some more limbo...LMAO...

Why, b/c I have a plan!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

WEll, I got some great news this morning...

It's been confirmed that HN1 and her H are in the process of purchasing another home...

HURRAY!!!!!

With this on out of the picture life will be great once we move back into the house! This is GREAT NEWS!!!!

The clan is breaking up...this is the one that has caused more trouble!!!

Let's all do the happy dance!!!

Uh oh!!! I was doing the happy dance for you, and I scared my kids away!

I tried! LOL!

That sounds like great news! It is all turning in your favor, how wonderful is that!

LMAO...I'm so excited learning this information today!

The day seems brighter...and the info came from a weird but valid source...F had mentioned that they were looking for a new house but I now know that they are in the process of purchasing another!

How awesome is that! I can move home, God willing, and be comfortable with the boys, no worries about neighbors coming over and starting trash!

A great example of God's plan is better than mine! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

All smiles today!

Awesome news. Hopefully you will be in the house soon. I can only imagine how difficult it has been living like you have been these last months.

You and the kids will probably not know what to do with any space, you'll all end up staying together in the same room <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

LMAO...well, TBH, I had thought about moving into the spare room instead of the front room to be closer to them but I think that I will cherish my space from them! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I think the hardest part is getting them down at night! You KNOW they talk forever! LMAO

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Rin,

Sounds like the time away was really great for you.

And i am so happy that the problem neighbors are moving.... am also doing a happy dance.

Still

HUrray! Thanks Still...I am in a really good place...and that news today topped things off!

It was like the sun was shining brighter today!

I even went and got my a great set of Egyptian cotton sheets tonight...I've been debating...wanting them SOOOOOO bad and said what the heck...and they were on [color:"red"]sale [/color] and I didn't care what color they were...LMAO

I left all of that behind when I left home and figured if I was going to stay here for another month and a half I may as well sleep in comfort! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'm so excited that things seem to be coming together! I'm riding cloud nine...I haven't felt like this in a long time, shot, if ever since I left!

Happy Dance for you!

Although am mixing it with a'Ho' DOWN stomp for me at the same time!:)

You sound great!!!
Now, you say you are tired of limbo, but let's pull out the 'limbo stick' and have fun with it!

Let me go first! My back is bothering me....

Oh wait! The limbo stick should be reserved for Betrayed spouses.. how low can they go! LOL! Let's throw the limbo stick away... your plan is working!

I am glad the the sun is coming up for you, and that you have your new sheets! Enjoy!

BUGS, I LOVE the Ho DOWN STOMP...LMAO...need some help? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Thanks Sadmo, I'm feeling really good...I thought about it last night and I think that buying those sheets was a huge step in acceptance of my sitch...

Waiting on a new court date...I've accepted that for the next six weeks or two months that I will be still living where I am...and I'm okay with that...this is the first time that I REALLY feel okay with the sitch and waiting...

And it was heaven to crawl in between those sheets last night and I'm looking forward to it tonight!

I'm starting to see some really wonderful things...

This weekend I will be voluntaring my time to help with a state convention, and next weekend I will be atending a painting class...I haven't painted in years...My Aunt also send me another picture that I few people would like to get together to paint...It's beautiful and I'm looking forward to attempting my hand at it!

The kids are almost set for school...L's sick again...allegies, glands are swollen, throat hurts, fever, etc.

I'm thnking tonsilitis (?) again...this will be the second time within a few months...third time and they are going to want to remove them...

I am dredging having to talk to POWS about L and his meds...I know what I'm going to hear: Write it down...talking about L's meds...and I'm trying hard to not say something like : how smart do you have to be to read the bottles?

Or something to that effect or "See this is a prime example of why a judge is NOT going to get YOU the kids more than every other weekend...I'm having some trouble figuring out how to speak nice to him...Or course, I guess to avoid that I can write a little note and give it to the sitter to give to him...

I usually speak directly to him so there's no miscommunication in regards to giving meds or the kids' health like there was the first time I had to send meds.

I just think about POWS now and think "How stupid/ignorant is he?"

I would love any suggestions on how to handle this...they will be going to POWS tomorrow and then they are off to the ILs for a week or two...

Well, let me do a few things, I have to call the dr. to make L's appt.

Well Rin,

Here is what I would do. I would go to the computer and I would Type up instructions for POWS on the medication or I would get one of those pill boxes old people use and put the Medication in there for morning, noon and night.

I wouldn't communicate with him at all. What you are discribing is his Passive aggresive behavior. You see there is no Win Win. Him making you write it down is him still having power over you.

You need to learn the art of thinking without speaking. I learned it when I was a waiter. When I had a really mean person at my table I would think think mean things about them that would make me smile.

One of my favorites was "God I bet her underwear stink like yesterdays garbage.!!!!!" No matter how mean and rude someone is to you, if you think funny mean things like that you will smile, heck almost laugh.

It takes a while to master. So for you lets say you can think when he acts like that "If you can't figure out a prescription who wipes your butt."

Remember to think it not say it.

Rin he isn't stupid or ignorant. He is very intelligent he just knows how to push your buttons. Move them.

Oh and by the way he will think he won because you wrote them down. You actually won because you don't have to talk to him. Plus your kid won't get OD'd.

Good luck, Glad you had a good vacation.

Hi Frog, thanks for the suggestion, I'll have to stop and get one of those things...L's got it again...twice in a little over two months...depending on when/if he gets it again...it's ENT specialist time!

I'm going to have to brush up of the PA behavior, LMAO, you know since I didn't get to finish the book!
LMAO...I also like the one about who wipes his butt! Meds are super easy this time...once in morning, once at night!

Perhaps we should start another thread on PA behavior and how to deal with it...???

I'm looking forward to some time without the kids...especially since they will not be with POWS but the ILs instead...I trust them to care for the boys! I'll be able to relax...just need to find some adult stuff to do! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

WEll, just got off the phone with FIL...the kids will be gone for a week...some kind of camping trip...they will have fun, and I know that they will be taken care of...

I'm just going to have to cancel my painting class trip but that's okay, they'll be others...we're already talking about another one...

FIL wants someone to met them around Beau's area to pick up the kids...I'm going to try my best to do it that way the weekends will be changed and I don't have to worry about the kids spending time at HN2's house...

We'll see if I can pull that one off...if not then I get to go painting! The other reason for wanting the weekend change is b/c of my SM and dad's weekends off...if I get it changed now, I don't have to swap weekends when I want to go visit them...

hence, less contact with POWS...well, it will all work out the way it should I'm sure...

Oh, any suggestions are always welcome when dealing with POWS or anything...

I appreciate everyone's ideas...thank you all!