OKay, shower was great, and I typed up the TMs from June 4th between me and POWS about the sell of the bike...added some details I remembered with the help of my posts and that is out of the way...

One less thing to get done...MOF, with that typed up, who cares about the title! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Now, to get all this other stuff done! LMAO...OMG...what a nightmare...BUT after it's done I'm one step closer to the end and getting rid of his sorry ****! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hurray!!!

Hope today is going better.

I'm holding steady.

I found the titles, and almost have all of the other paperwork that I need to turn into my Lawyer...

I should be turning it in tomorrow morning!

It wasn't as bad a I thought it would be...

It's a pretty big sack of paperwork, at least three inches thick...

I'm going to love walking into the office and showing them the title that's been signed over!

BLAHAHAHHAHAH!

I'm still good!

Hi, all! I hope that you are all doing well. I am.

I've got the boys taking their baths, I'm comfortably in my pjs andready for bed myself...

I was organizing my posts from here after I got home, putting them in a binder and I started reallyfeeling sorry for the place that POWS has put himself...

I mean it's a shame the choices that he has made and he has to be in a really bad place...now, just becasue I feel this doesn't mean that I'm going to stop doing what I'm doing for me and the boys...

This is our future that I'm trying to protect, so please don't get any ideas about that...

It must be compassion that I'm feeling for him...I'm not sure what that feels like really...can any of you explain that one to me?

Well, I was going to save this information for a new thread but I think that I will wait on the new thread until a later date...I'm fine here...

Some of you already know, and for the rest of you I'm very honored and please to say that I am being nominated for a seat on the board for a non-prfit organization here...

I never would have thought that something like this would happen to me...I mean it's a small group, I think, LMAO but I'm sooo HONORED to be thought of in that way...

It really makes me feel good...10 months ago, I didn't have any friends, outside of the people here, and POWS' friends...I felt that I didn't belong any place...AND there were things that I wanted to do and place I wanted to go and I could...not because I was told that I could, well, someplaces, but because I was sooo lost in life...

I asked F tonight if he liked mom better now that she not around dad and he said yes, I'm happier, play more, and I don't yell like I use too!

WOW, huh? it's so easy, there's no tension, and the only time I have to raise my voice is when I have to get their attention or to enforce something...

Life is sooo much more peaceful...Just call me the SMILE QUEEN...LMAO... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Well, let me get L out of the tub, F's out already...the little one's the slow one, if I could just get his mouth to slow down that much! LMAO

Hopefully, I'll be around a while and won't lose my connection!

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I"M FINSIHED! I got all my paperwork together and it was not that bad...I'm Done!

I'll be dropping it off this morning! Showing the para the titles, I have given them copies and we are on the move...

Look forward to seeing how this thing plays out! POWS is in so much trouble and I just feel sorry for him...it's a shame what he has stooped too!

OUT and OUT lieing...I just don't understand that!

This was a huge problem in the M, no O&H..and it only got worse from my POV... him being able to lie about the bike, has me questioning again where the A really happened...

Thing is it really doesn't matter now, I can't deal with the lies...and either way it hurt, so it's just up to me to keep moving forward and I'm going to make things happen with or without his support, CS, that is...

Can't wait until it's court ordered...that will be this court date, whenever we get there, and my lawyer already know that I wish to have it garnished from his checks...

Oh, also stated in the letter from his lawyer was POWS clain that work has slowed and that POWS will be coming in with his new pay check stubs...

I'll be printing up a little something that I can get my hands on to prove what he's making and handing that over to my lawyer too! It's great to be resourceful! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I can't believe I was so worried at one point about getting the kids, and this whole mess...

Frog, POWS has hung himself 10 times over since we've been gone!

Well, let me get that stuff on POWS and print that up and then I'm done!

Yay for you. You go girl!

Hope this leads to a relaxing and peaceful weekend for ya!

Thank you E, I will, I have some bill decisions to make today...since I don't have CS, but it will be okay...I'm doing the best that I can with what I have and it's not going to bum me out in the least...

I was hoping to post the TM convo. b/t POWS and I about the Motorcycle so you all could geta kick out of it....

If I can find the time, I will have to do that! I have a small project I'm working on for work first...

Over and done with! I presence the titles to the para and she asked if there was any way that a Duplicate was applied for and I said no, I checked into it, no dup or transfer...

SHe looked amazed and was shaking her head, saying then there's no way that he did it! I included the copy of what POWS is earning and she asked about getting calls on the bills, I said yes, I'm still getting calls...

Then, I mentioned what I knew about him being in the bars and the windows being tinted on the truck...She asked about CS, and I said no, nothing yet!

So, that's where we stand, I know that no one wins in D but this is looking like a win for me and the boys!

Hey, Rin.

I'm way proud of you!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Congrats on the request to serve on that board, bet that feels great.

And congrats on getting settled down enough to get through all those questions and paperwork, even though it seemed overwhelming at first.

Way to go!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

-AmI.

Ah, my Fellow Charlie's Angel, doing the 'investigation' and making the POWS face reality! Cool!

I am so glad you have taken control again with getting all of that together and to your A. You are correct, no one 'wins' but at minimum, a WS needs to have to do what is right and fair financially for the family they have destroyed.

Sounds like you are on your way to a great weekend. Can't wait to read the TMs for a laugh. I could use one today!

AmI...Hey lady! Thank you very much! I've been feeling really good!

BUGS: Thanks classy Angel Lady! LMAO Hope you get your laugh! LMAO...I still am!

Well, here IT IS! Enjoy! Let me know what you think, LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

TM convo. june 4th, 2007 b/t PPOWS and Me...

ME: Does D still want the bike? If u can't talk now call me when it's convenient 4 u.

ME: We can sell it if we both agree & it would pay off 6 bills.

POWS: Why what's up

POWS: If I do sell it i?m going to have to drop the price

Me: Why's that?

Me: So what's the book value? & what r u thinkin? Oh, it was 5 bills @ the old sell price

POWS: it?s 5yrs old n it?s not going to hold it?s resale like a harley

Me: Suggested retail usin vin# is: 2155.00

POWS: Been trying to sell it for 3 for a year

Me: What @ 2800, & a want ad n weekly?

POWS:Can I take care of some of these things or do not think able to

ME: i think u r perfectly capable, let me know how it turns out. Have a good day!

POWS: I wasn?t trying to be mean but i tell u something and u have a plan of u think it should go and that is how u want it

Me: Ur right, i'm working on it, i didn't think u were bein mean, it was just a discussion 4 me, i can stay out of ur sandbox, i'm cool w/ that

POWS: Just humor me and try to trade ur car in see what they will give u for it

Me: ok, but i'm uncomfortable w/ the idea of a new note right now. just sayin

POWS: I using that to show u my point

Me: u mean what we each think is best and we should value each other's ideas? S will b callin me back, i talk it over w/ him

Later that day:

Me: I missed your point huh?

ME: Igot it, now, i think I understand! Point taken. Take care!

Still later: Me: i heard from S if ur interested

POWS: And?

So, I called him and he admitted that the bike was at B's house! The next day I Tmed him and said that I would not agree to the sell of the bike...

No takers on the wonderful exchange????

I can tell you this I read what I wrote to him and see how I think I'm still dealing with a rational person, well, I know better now!

I'm welcoming any 2X4...always room in my book for improvement! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'd say with those text messages, he's BUSTED. Good job Rin on preserving the evidence.

Hi, I was just reading over the letter again from POWS' A and I missed this part:


WOOHOO!!!

Here is another part:


POWS is trying to get CS reduced claiming that his hours have been cut to a minimum...

Does it sound like his lawyer is on my side?

Thank you PM...I feel good about the whole thing!

Rin,

You did great! Poor, stupid POWS! As I told my Mom yesterday about Drac (and th same applies to you & POWS) --

OBVIOUSLY HE HAS FORGOTTEN WHO HE IS DEALING WITH!

Go Rin!

LMAO...Thanks Bugs or they didn't really know in the first place! Which I'm more inclined to believe!!!

I learned early in childhood that I had to do a CYI all the time to protect myself, so that OP would believe me, well, that coping skill has been coming in handy this days!!

Don't you think? LMAO

WEll, looks like momma's in for a treat...my retail friend called tonight and there a huge sale tomorrow at Dillard's...so, I'll be there looking for goddess wear...

Who knows I could be moving into a new career down the road, will have to be able to dress for that and well, I'm sure the new clothes will come in handy for going out...

Things are quiet on the homefront...kids washed the dishes after supper, I cleaned up all the water all over the place...going to head to bed in a little while...

A thought occurred to me earlier about POWS and F...I hope that he doesn't treat that child differently...F overheard him on the phone and that's what led me to call my lawyer and the recent events...

I'm glad that I have them this weekend and they don't have to go to there dad's...that way there's some space between the sitch and they two seeing each other again...

F has always protected me, helped me out, been by my side and I would hate to see him treated differently b/c of our relationship with each other...I have worked hard to have a relationship with him that he can talk to me...

POWS on the other hand, well, I'm sure that you all can guess how their relationship is/has been...Distant...

I once told F that he was punished from TV and then PWOS let him watch it... telling F not to tell me...well, when I got home, F repeated to me what his dad told him...

I wasn't sure how to handle the sitch, and I'm not sure exactly how I did at the tiem but I remember PWOS being angry with F for a while....

POWS felt like F was "trying" to get him in trouble...when the way I see it, F was just trying to keep himself out of trouble...Lord knows I've preached Be honest and don't lie for so long...

F was deeply hurt by his dad and his actions, and F's said severak times when we were at home, how he was never going to cheat on his wife or GF...He would say "I can't believe dad did that!" I just comforted him, and we talked about making good choices and bad choices, and how his dad was/had made bad choices...

from time to time we still talk about making good and bad choices...

I just pray that POWS doesn't treat him wrong...the relationship has been damaged so much and of course, F still loves his dad very much and has told me that he will always love his dad...

I've told him that's a good thing...I've also said to him that I hope that I don't say or do anything to make him think that I don't want him to love his dad...

I think that was the best lesson I learned from me mom, she never said anythign bad about my dad, jsut let me make my own decisions about him...I value her alot for that!


I rememebr what it felt like as a child of D...I can understand F and L's feelinga and relate to them very well...put myself in their shoes and remember what it felt like for me...so I feel that I have an advantage in this department...or as least I like to think so, and hope...

I know that everything will be fine and we'll stick together...I have been real good about sticking...loyalty is one of my good traits...I stick and I'm goign to teach the boys to stick...good work ethic...

I say that b/c I've always brought themt o work with me I think that's great for them to see...I can remember going to work with my grandpa...that was awesome...we would walk around and he would introduce me to everyone...

He would explain what they did in each of the rooms...huge company...he was a bookkeeper for them...I loved him dearly and miss him alot...

My D will be final exactlt two years from his passing...I think that he would be proud of me...he accepted POWS into the family with no questions... if ever there was someone to admire for character it was him...just all around good people...

Well, I'm headed to bed, I'm tired and mentally drained today, I need a recharge, I found myself yelling alot tonight...very little patience...and I knwo that it's b/c I'm tired! SO, off to bed, to slide b/t my wonderful sheets...

I ahve nothing planned for this weekend and I like it that way! LMAO <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Take care everyone!

WEll, Good Afternoon!

The boys and I are doing well, I brought them to the bowling alley and we played one game...I'm broke now, but we had a great time!

As far as this morning shopping expedition, I did extremely well, I got three career suits, another outfit, several shirts, the boys shoes for school, and one pair of shoes for me...

You would be doing back flips with the money I saved one just my clothes alone... it was 30% off already marked down stuff...

I don't ever remember having such great clothes before! And I had to problems when I heard what the bill was either...NOW that A BIG improvement... in the past I would have felt SOOOO guilty for spending money on myself...not today!

Well, I have some clothes to fold and pick up...my sheets need to be washed and some other clothes, plus I have a chair to fix up...

So, I guess I need to get busy...OH, I SLEPT FOR FOUR HOURS EARLIER TODAY! After we got home from shopping, me and L laid down and I could go back to sleep!

Rin-

Great job on the whole situation with POWS... Amazing how dumb they can be! LOL!

Also, NEW CLOTHES!!!! WOOOOO-HOOOOOO!!!! I am the same way, I never had dressed so nice before. It is amazing how GOOD it makes you feel too. I feel so together when I am dressed nicely... A great ego boost!

I think you are doing great by your boys. Let them come to their own conclusions about POWS. I have been told that by MANY people who either went through divorces, or were children of D. That one day, the kids will realize, know, and appreciate all that you did for them, how you did not talk poorly about the other parent, and how you allowed them to come to their own conclusions. Makes sense. I bite my tongue whenever I want to say anything about my WH...

As for the short on patience, wow, I understand that too... my kids have been terrors the past couple of days... I keep thinking, this is just a phase, just a phase.... LOL! Now my angels are sleeping, and they look so beautiful, I think, "HOW could I ever have been aggravated by them?" LOL!

Have a good rest of your weekend, you GODDESS!