I have to give you a big AMEN to that Larry it certainly is worthwhile.

Gam you and your wife sound like where were before. I thought I was a good W and He thought he was a good H. We both needed Tubes of Fours. LOL.

I suggest whatever she has complained about over the course of the years to you. You start there. That's is the key to making yourself attractive to your wife. If she felt so compelled by this guy it proablby was because he was interested in what she had to say. I know that what it was for me and the fact that he talked about different things instead the same old things all the time like my H was doing.

If you want her to be interested and new to your W I suggest you try finding something new to do together like take a dance class. Do pottery together. (Maybe you could try to remake that secene from Ghost with her) That would be nice. Try enticing her to try doing SF in different places you have tried before. Ask her about her day. Make her feel like she is more important to you than anything besides God. Try running her bathwater and washing her back. Try leaving love notes around the house. I guess what I am saying in essense is court your W. You can't lose that way. Think of it like this. To keep her you have to do all the things you did to get her. If you were with someone new you would have to do the same thing to win them over why not do it with your W because she is worth it to you. You will be glad you did.

Gam are you still with us? If so how are things going on the homefront?