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BC,
ROFL!
Well, I say the kids can all sleep in a shed!!! Just kidding..tents will be fine!
BW 35 (Me)
WH 35
DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3
Married 1994
Dday 7-9-06
Plan B started 12-24-06
Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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Tents = camp fire. I can dig it. I'd probably end up out there with em.
BS 33 EXWW 35 DS 5
OM1 9/06 - 03/07
OM2 04/07 - present
Divorced May 8, 2008
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Hi, IHC...never stop dreaming...it's possible...a good man... I have a friend, well, a friend of the familt, he's watched me grow up and I've always admired him... There were eight kids in his family...two his, a few his W's, they adopted some of the W's nephew's, and had one of their own... I've always admired him for loving those kids and caring for them... I understand ow you feel...I question myself with my two becasue they are interracial...but a man that doesn't accept my kids is NOT worth my time! We deserve better and there's been to be had...patience is the key...God provides! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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BC,
By choice or by banishment? LOL
BW 35 (Me)
WH 35
DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3
Married 1994
Dday 7-9-06
Plan B started 12-24-06
Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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Rin
Yes! With kids that is one of the top things on my list!
Just gets hard to see in the middle of all of this.
Especially because WH is having another one. He didn't even want more...I did.
It was a rough weekend for me. My 13th anniversary is tomorrow and the fact that I lost my best friend of 14 years is hitting me hard. He will never be a part of my life again and that is so sad.
I am sure glad that I will be busy at work this week, so that will help the time to pass quickly. plus my parents are coming to stay at my house for the next 2 weeks...so I think I will be okay.
Idecided I better stay on the ad's until the D is final...too many bumps in the road between now and then and I just want to sail through instead of having so many ups and downs.
Only 1 1/2 months til I hit the one year mark...has it really been that long? My, how time flies when you are having fun!
BW 35 (Me)
WH 35
DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3
Married 1994
Dday 7-9-06
Plan B started 12-24-06
Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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Banishment for what? I NEEEEEEVER get into mischief. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
BS 33 EXWW 35 DS 5
OM1 9/06 - 03/07
OM2 04/07 - present
Divorced May 8, 2008
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I'm glad my XH was neutered - I wouldn't have put it past his GF to announce she was expecting as she already had 2 by 2 men (and maybe even a third that didn't live with her...)
As for the "bulldozer of stupidity" - I think that needs to go down in infamy. That describes my XH to a tee. And I suppose I could even say I became *somewhat* that way for a while, although I didn't become irresponsible or totally stupid, perhaps I just had a short lapse of lucidity...
But the bulldozer of stupidity totally rings true!
JinGA
F/40, DD15 DS13
M 1989
DDay his EA May 1998.
S Aug 2004.
D Dec 05. I filed.
4/07 Post-D Plan A with 180, with hopes of R.
6/23/07 XH said no to R.
8/24/07 Went on a date with someone new, "B".
1/22/08 Still seeing B, life is good! Learning and growing each day.
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It would be like the doghouse...only worse...with kids!!!
Just kidding...kids are SPECIAL!!!!! (note the tinge of sarcasm...since my kids are testing every boundary they have right now...whining, sneaking, "forgetting", complaining, tantrums, etc - still love 'em but whew, mommy needs a vacation!)
BW 35 (Me)
WH 35
DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3
Married 1994
Dday 7-9-06
Plan B started 12-24-06
Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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JinGA,
I have been expecting this move lately, simply because it is what I would do if I was a skanky OW who thought I could keep my married boyfriend by gettin' knocked up!
I CANNOT imagine WH wanted this...he is already feeling so pressured financially...can't even keep his head above water. This would be a really stupid move...but he is the bulldozer of stupidity...I think I'll call him BDS from now on.
sl got PWC, so this will work for me ... BDS!
BW 35 (Me)
WH 35
DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3
Married 1994
Dday 7-9-06
Plan B started 12-24-06
Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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BDS---good one.
Apehlion, reading that post of yours made me a bit verklempt, too. I have always wanted more than one, alas, PWC does not, so I have resigned myself to the one, and that's okay. I still get twinges here and there, but I get past it. I come from a family of three; that is what I am familiar with, so that is what I had wished for.
Me-BS-38
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Divorced April 2009
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PWC does not, so I have resigned myself to the one, and that's okay. I still get twinges here and there, but I get past it I would think you might want to revisit this subject when you get deeper into recovery. Perspectives may change . . . .
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Man, I need to come up with a nickname for mine! PWC, BDS...what's left... PODS...(pile of dog [censored])... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />
A loving heart is the beginning of all knowledge.
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How about SBD. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
BS 33 EXWW 35 DS 5
OM1 9/06 - 03/07
OM2 04/07 - present
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I LOVE PODS!!! It's perfect!
You put all your crapola in em' and ship 'em off until you need 'em!
great double meaning...go with that one!
BW 35 (Me)
WH 35
DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3
Married 1994
Dday 7-9-06
Plan B started 12-24-06
Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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What does SBD stand for????
You know I want to ju8mp on this bandwagon also.....hmmmm let me think.
Maybe one that's not too bad because I do want him back at some point.
Still
BW me 46
WH 46
Together 28 years married 23
3 Kids DD20, DD17 and DS 14
DD #1 (1st A) 10/13/01 with single OW who was co-worker
DD#2 1/23/02 phone call from OW
WH left job 4/02
MC 10/01 to 4/02 (when he showed up)
Separated 7/04 to 10/04
Retrouvaille 9/04
Red Flags 11/05
DD#1 (2nd affair) 8/16/06 with MOW age 29 twice married and he's her boss.
Moved out (him) weekend after labor day
23rd anniversary 10/7/07
Filed 10/18/06 still seeing MOW
Dropped divorce complaint 6/7/07
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I know...BC what is SBD...I'm almost scared to ask...
BW 35 (Me)
WH 35
DS 11, DS 10, DD 10, DS 5, DS 3
Married 1994
Dday 7-9-06
Plan B started 12-24-06
Psalm 62:5 My soul wait only upon God and silently submit to Him; for my hope and expectation are from Him.
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A new meaning to alien POD people. I know...BC what is SBD...I'm almost scared to ask... Now you have done it. Hide the children.
Testosterone boys! Testosterone! It ain’t just for nose, ear and back hair anymore!
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You could always call him WSFB; but it doesn't roll off the tongue. (Wayward *POO* for brains)
Me-BS-38
Married 1997; son, 8yo
Divorced April 2009
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Come on people. SBD, I used as a play on BDS, but it means.....
go ask any teenager
Chris,
I bet DD19 could tell you.
BS 33 EXWW 35 DS 5
OM1 9/06 - 03/07
OM2 04/07 - present
Divorced May 8, 2008
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