delete the number

Find someone smarter, funnier, and hotter. Rinse and repeat.

Don't people date without making commitments anymore?

Why would you want to make a commitment to someone or have them make one to you if your hadn't decided to marry them?

What is the point?

I told her I was going to delete her number from my cell.

How old are you??

This sounds so Jerry Springerish...

get a grip...and GROW UP.

committed

wow, so if she was unattached i.e. not having an affair with anyone you would actually consider dating her again?

wtf is wrong with THAT picture?

mlhb

Why would you ever talk to her, see her, be in the same room with her ever AGAIN!!!!! In your lifetime!

Are you acting NUTZ?

There's irony here. You *were* the affair she was having on the man who was having an affair on his wife. She was with the married man for 2 years, you for one. YOU are the OM. She is the OW in her married boyfriend's marriage.

You were right to expose the affair - but now it's time to walk away completely.

She cheated both *with* you, as well as *on* you. Totally NOT marriage material. And if the purpose of dating etc., is to find a potential marriage partner - strike her off the list. She doesn't even hold a candle to the notion.

JinGA

[color:"purple"]Now, put on your Nancy Sinatra album.......'These boots are made for walking...........'[/color]

Ok here is the update, I told the girlfriend everything, I told her I sent the email to the wife of the guy she was having the affair with, All Heck has broke loose, she told me she hated me and wished I had come to her. I told her I gave her plenty of chance to come clean and she did not. I even reminded her of all the conversations we had about cheating.

She told me she never wanted to talk to me again but has contuinued to call me. has even called her to help her look for a new job. She also told me she had stepped back from me to be with the other guy, I told her that was very sorry and I wish she had told me there was osmeone else.

She keepps saying I cant believe you sent the emails, you have ruined lives, I told her that she shoould look in the mirror if she wanted to see who ruined any lives, I told her she involved me in this Crap when she went out with me and dated me for a year while going out with a married man.

She told me she loved me and wants me but that she loves him, she told me how they met and fell inlove, he had just left his wife and she had just gotten divorced. she said they were going to date until he was divorced then stop hiding the affair and act like they we a couple. I told her he has been married for 33 years, I told her I did not think this was his first time cheating on his wife and that he would cheat on her. She told me they had not discussed marriage in 2 years of dating, I told her he had no plans of marrying her, I said he had not filed in 2 years and never talked about marriage, I said he has his cake and is eating it also.

I told her she was selfish in keeping me near not wanting me to go out with other women while she dated him. SHe told me that a lot of the times when she called and could not meet me she was with him. I told her she acted exactly like my ex wife with the same lies.

Girl friend has told me many times she is sorry and loves me over and ove, said she never meant to hurt me. She said
she has to follow her heart now. I told her if you love someone set them free... She looked up at me and I said to her..
you are free. I gave her a dozen red roses and told her I loved her. She said give these to a woman that deserves
you. I said I just did.

I told her not to call me. She called this am and I did not take the call..........

Well the best parts of that update were that the affair has been exposed, and you told her not to call and you didn't pick up.

For your own sanity, I suggest you block her number and her email address. She's going to likely milk the drama for all it's worth, and you don't need the crap.

Walk away. Know that you did the right thing, as difficult as it was. She's in her own mess, of her own creation, as well as the man she's involved with. What happens next between them is no longer your concern.

My hat is off to you for taking that bold step and exposing. As much pain as the BW is probably in, she's better off knowing than not knowing - although it's also possible she's known all along but put the blinders on - but again that's not your worry.

Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and just thank your lucky stars you didn't marry that woman!

JinGA

I put all of her stuff in a box and set it by the back door
while I was telling her how bad she done me and the part about the guy going to cheat on her like he did his wife, I stop and tell her to go get her S#$% from the back door.

I left her a dozen red roses and a note that said I love you.

She left the roses with a note that said i should give them to a woman who deserves them.

She called me at work and said she loved me.

where do these women come from? i swear.

i feel worse for her child that she has a cheating emotionally unstable whack job for a mother. poor child. has to grow up with that as her example.

you only dated her a year thank god, it is still early enough to get the skanky trash smell off of you.

you deserve much much better than this, you know that.

i deserve the roses, forward them to me! :-)

mlhb

You are sending her mixed signals. Sending her roses tells her that there's still hope between you. She's going to keep calling and bothering you - but in investing the cash in roses, I get the feeling you want her to.

She's not who you want her to be. She likely never will be because what she's doing is not an 'incident' - it's a pattern of behavior that she's not likely to change overnight, if at all.

She's got her junk - delete her number, her email. Block her calls. Cut it off.

It's only more painful in the long run to cut it off an inch at a time.

I know if a man dumped me, then sent me roses, I'd surely think it wasn't over.

Be honest with yourself - if it's not over, it's not over - you'll hear us give you advice to let her go and leave her behind, but you have free will and you can choose to continue to be second fiddle if you want to. After all she told you that she was hoping that OM would be leaving his wife (although that's not very likely, IMO) - and even if he did, now that he knows she cheated on him too, that is doomed too from all angles.

But if you really intend it to be over, make it so. Don't string her along too - it's just as bad.

JinGA

I don't know but there's plenty of them out there. They give the rest of us a bad name <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

JinGA

gblogbd,

You have to got to stop this cycle.

Say what you mean...and mean what you say.

You have accused her of doing this very same thing.

How many mixed signals does it take to make a train wreck?

You are a train wreck...and will NEVER be in any type of quality relationship unless you STOP with all this drama nonsense.

Again, how old are you???

committed

I told her he has been married for 33 years, I told her I did not think this was his first time cheating on his wife and that he would cheat on her. I said he has his cake and is eating it also.


Nope, I think that you might be wrong in naming that man's place in this cheap drama. He is her......

[color:"red"] Sugar Daddy [/color]

I think she is just getting her next one lined up in case this one is drained $ wise.

Sending them roses has got you closer to filling that position.

committed

Ok, you told me once not to talk to you like a child, so I won't!

If you are an adult, I assume you understand what "I don't want to talk to you anymore" means. If you understand that, why aren't you holding to that?

If you are an adult, I assume you know that telling someone you will block their phone number or email address means you do not wish to have contact with them. Is that what you mean? When are you going to do so.

Why are you still messing with this woman? Maybe some counseling would do you some good. I think you need to do some real work on yourself before you get involved with another woman.

And, if you wish to send roses......do NOT send me red ones! I carried them when I got married.

Wrong.She doesn't deserve you and that should be clear.I can see you were very attached to this woman but it's time to break free as if she were a non-repentent WS who continues on their path of the A.Go Dark as in Plan B Dark and just do NC ok? I know it's hard but there's nothing redeeming to go back to.You should know this.

[color:"blue"] Go Dark as in Plan B Dark and just do NC ok? I know it's hard but there's nothing redeeming to go back to.You should know this. [/color]


If you don't get this, you are either lying to the woman about wanting to get rid of her AND lying to us OR you know nothing about MB.

[color:"red"]Which is it?[/color]

No, he doesn't... he deserves *exactly* what he is getting, as he is the one perpetuating the situation.

Seriously... I hope they wind up together... takes two losers out of circulation who might otherwise mess up two other people's lives.

ha ha...who-dat trying to rev my engine...better try again..

I went out with some friends to have a drink and play some pool.. one guess who was there??? girl friend and her 56 year old boyfriend. My friends had a table right next to them. I just bought a beer and never said a word.

When she saw me she looked at me like I was DEATH..
this is the first time in over a year I have been to this
place. I had one beer. her friend waved to me and I left..

The other man does not know about me.