I think I addressed this thoroughly in earlier responses. I see many of my shortcomings now, and am working to provide his needs. I also grieve that I didn't see and understand sooner.

Observing,

Thank you so much for you encouraging words. I love my husband very much. I never thought I would stay with a man who betrayed me like this. I am trying to stay focused on doing what is right for us to recover. Some days it is really tough.

LG,

Thank you for your response to my post. I value you insight.

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checking in with you - wondering how you are doing.

RH - the thing you really need to be praying about, and thinking about is this: was your WH's A temporary slip, or is this his on going, chosen lifestyle?

I can not agree with LG's comments to you that if you love your H then you need to save your M. There is no doubt that you love your H. You are a good wife, a good mom. You believe in M, and you belive in fidelity. And you thought your H believed in fidelity. But now you find out that he has had numerous A's during the course of your M. and even today he has stated quite simply that he is not sure he can do what it takes to recover your M. In other words: he is not sure he wnats to give up the cheating lifestyle. he enjoys it. I have no doubt that he wants to stay married to you - after all - you are a GREAT wife! But he can not tell you that he will be faithful. That he will stop cheating. That he will take whatever extrodinary steps he needs to take to protect your from harm.

Are you willing to settle for that?

Frankly - it sounds like your WH basically comes and goes as he pleases. Are you really willing to settle for that? Don't you think your children deserve better?

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they are trying to work on recovery...stop stirring stuff up You are trying to cause problems digging up this 5 month old thread.

SMB...I strongly suggest that this ******be put on ignore. She is trying to keep you ina bad place. Ignore her and look forward.

BA,

I do not understand why you would pull up this thread from June. This was when he came home the first time and was lying. His A was not over. He has confessed all there is to confess. I am convinced of that. The man is broken and we are putting our pieces back together..as one.

Why would you pull up this old thread??? I don't get it.

smb, *** is a trouble maker that you really don't need around.

The reason I read this post was because it was a link under your signature.

I saw an inconsistency in his story. It seems that you want to know the entire story, because as you said it, it is your story. There was no ill will or intention in bringing it up.

There is no inconsistency. I have the entire story and this piece fits just fine. I am not going to post every minute detail of our conversations about ALL that took place over the last 6 months. Even at my typing speed of close to 100 wpm, that would still take forever and a day.

I do not need him to answer any further questions about his A. He has laid it all out, no matter how much grief it would cause. If I asked, he answered. That part is done.

What we need help and support with now are the days ahead...the continued rollercoaster for us both, the steps to trust and heal. That's where we need to be now.

SMB:

Drop the link in your Sigline.

If you are getting the complete truth from your H, then this thread will pass away.

And all it's misinformation from your WH at that time will fade as well.

LG

Let's let it go. I feel bad now that I found out that this event happened before he first moved out.

My apology to sexymamabear.

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