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*sigh* Another day without my H. I am finding it so hard to believe it has been nearing three months. Where does the time go? So much has happened. I have had the fear in the back of my mind since day one that he would no longer love me because he does not see me. If I had known then what I know now, I might be in a different place. I just really want to say thanks to all of you for being so supportive. I am really doing what I can to keep myself sane, and I know you all realize how hard this really is. I long for the days when my marriage was whole. Just have to keep believing. One day at a time. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Don't waste the day thinking about him. Do something useful - maybe you can scrub the toilets.
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That sounds like a blast. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
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Believer: Don't waste the day thinking about him. Do something useful - maybe you can scrub the toilets. NHT: That sounds like a blast. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Cleaning was great therapy. It allowed for a good vent! :girn: But if you want some real excitement, howz about flying over here and pulling some weeds? LOL!!! Got some read stubborn one's in my yard. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Just kidding. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> take care, L.
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LOL! Send me the ticket and I am on my way. That's the problem with an apartment in the downtown area. No gardens to play in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
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LOL! Send me the ticket and I am on my way. That's the problem with an apartment in the downtown area. No gardens to play in. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Go out and help someone else. Main objective is to keep busy. Doing good deeds (for yourself and others) has it's own rewards. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Sure wish you were here. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Aloha, L.
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Tomorrow should be a busy day. I am taking my aunt out for her own therapy.
I'm kinda enjoying the peace I have here in the home right now. Yes, I do miss the sound of sports playing on the tv... might even turn them on one of these days. Although, I could never understand the appeal of baseball (just so boring to watch on tv)
Give me a hockey game though. We Canadians love our sport.
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Tomorrow should be a busy day. I am taking my aunt out for her own therapy.
I'm kinda enjoying the peace I have here in the home right now. Yes, I do miss the sound of sports playing on the tv... might even turn them on one of these days. Although, I could never understand the appeal of baseball (just so boring to watch on tv)
Give me a hockey game though. We Canadians love our sport. Good to hear. I have been helping my aunt also. She has no children, married but my uncle is a jerk. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> She is now in a care home and we help out with errands and such. It is a lot of work but very fulfilling. Also teaches my son important life lessons. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> take care, L.
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It sure does L.
My aunt and uncle are separated... neither one really moving forward to divorce or anything, and it has kept her down for a long while.
I am trying to get her upbeat and positive... things I know my uncle will take note of.
She has made a huge change in the last little while. She says talking to me has helped her. And, I think she really wants to start taking the steps towards reconciliation.
Maybe they can do it.
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Just sent a quick email to WH. Is this good? "Busy, busy, busy... Finally got completely settled. Ended up having to take a bunch of old clothes that are now too big to the drop box. Putting off washing the car because the rain is gonna hit the next day! Guaranteed. You know all about that though... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Glad to see you busy up at work. Nice knowing summer isn't a slow time of year. Take care. ME <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />"
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Sounds good, and you should continue emailing short, chatty things. That will keep you in his mind, without you having to be too clingy.
How was the rest of the day?
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If anyone can help me...I'm going through the same thing as what you have already...Husband left 4 months ago. Where do you find plan A ?
I so desperately want to save my marriage for both me and my daughter ....
ME - 37 Husband - 34 Daughter - 8
Married 7-12-1997 Seperated - 1-28-2007
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Kelly,
Can you please start your own thread so we can help you directly?.
Thanks,
L.
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Just had a quick shift at work. It is so hot right now. We usually have this humidity during our summers, so to have it right now is kind of odd. I cannot stand humidity. So looking forward to our fall weather... and the leaves changing colour <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> It is mine and H's favourite time of year.
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LG,
And Who? Do you make more than skirmsher?
Yes. Like 10 times more. Wasn't always the case, but his 2003 affair kinda screwed up things for him in his job. OW wrote a real damaging letter to his employer exposing the affair once she realized that it really was over. Things were never the same for him there and he eventually just left. His next job just didn't work out and so he is now self employed and works from home.
Who
I am the BW,
He is the FWH
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So, I just had a friend come to me for relationship advice. It kinda made me laugh a little. What do I know about a relationship? Mine sucks right now. Although, I guess seeing as we have put in ten years, there was something right about it. I've heard it before. It took ten years to make this mess. Means I have time to fix it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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Finished all of my cleaning for the day. (yes, even the toilets Believer) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Just gonna have some laundry to do. Talked to a girlfriend. Let out some of my pent up rage. Feeling so much better. Everyday I wake up means I am one day closer to the end of this. I'm a glass is always half full kinda gal. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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LOL, I always joke about scrubbing toilets when the BS is trying to figure out what is going on with the WS. At least cleaning the toilets is productive.
But seriously, try to do some self-esteem building things each day. Continue building toward your dreams. That is the one thing that I DO regret. After D-day, it took me almost a year to get out of my "zombie" state. I spent weeks and weeks not believing this was happening, trying to figure out what went wrong, etc.
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Well, I still can't figure this out for the life of me, but, I am in the state that I know it will take me not being in that zombie state to get WH to see.
I just don't understand the misery he is living in.
Why???
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Well it is what it is. Have you ever known a crystal addict? They all think that everything is fine. Meanwhile their whole live is being flushed down the drain.
The only regret I have is that I spent so much time being sad, and didn't continue making a good life for ME. I wasted almost a year feeling miserable, and unable to help myself. Didn't find MB unti the affair had been going for 9 months.
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