OUC,

Your challenges may seem daunting, but we're here to help....one step at a time.

How are you?

Ace

OUC,

You doin' OK?

Please let us know.

Ace

As Pepperband said....continuing to do the same things and expecting different results is the definition of insanity.

I'm embarassed and ashamed to be posting because I thought that we were in recovery....just as I have thought that so many times before. And look at what I wrote last year in my signature line..."slowing to once a year, is that progress?" It's pathetic and I'm humiliated by my actions.

i think this is where you decide if this is how you want to live.

do you want to live with a cheater? do you want to set this kind of example for you children? do you want them to think it is ok?

a serial cheater is most likely not going to stop. why should he? he keeps getting away with it.

my ex, the last 4 years of our marriage was a serial cheater. he was like a kid in a candy store and felt completely entitled to do it. he did it for so long because i let him. i finally decided, after he had sucked the last ounce of self esteem out of me, that enough was enough. my son deserved and needed a better role model. my daughter needed to know it was NOT ok for a man to treat a woman this way.

if i had let him stay, the cycle would have continued.

he is mad as he** that i made him leave. i busted up his perfect world. but my children and i are a lot happier and healthier for it. and now i have a wonderful man in my life.

you have some decisions to make.
i'd say let him be someone else's problem.
like medc says, some marriages, after you have exhausted your efforts, are NOT worth saving.

mlhb

onlyucan, you do have the power to stop humiliating yourself by making better decisions. Have you considered getting into counseling to determine why you choose to live like this? I think you mentioned that this is your second abusive marriage?