Hi Seabird,

Sure, it has crossed my mind only because of the nature of our past together which was lengthy.But I don't want him back at all.I am at a point now where I would much rather start over with someone new and let that progress than return to the man who basically devastated me beyond words.Plus he hasn't changed.Not in any way I can perceive.And without sounding too snobby,I know I deserve better.

At the very least,I could never be intimate again knowing what he did with the OW.That,to me,is a lot different than being together for random "family time" like dining out or a day trip somewhere for fun.That I can handle very well now.I have only just felt a real forgiveness in my heart and mind for everything within the past 2 months or so.Before that,if he disappeared forever I would have been completely fine.

So,if you can't be close with the partner in your life why be together?

My ex being back is purely for the children,or so my guess is.I get no indication from my ex he wants anything more and I am relatively sure he is still with the OW in some fashion although I couldn't care less.It's all about the kids and my comfort level.My kids are very happy we can do these things together since many of their friends have very bitter,quarreling divorced parents and it weighs on them heavily.I am glad I finally got to this point.I didn't think I ever would.

Hope that answers your question.

AB, I think it's a very good thing for parents to do things together with the kids.

You couldn't stop the continuing accumulations of charges? You are the adult.....take away the phone if she won't be responsible. That's what I did to my daughter just because the rest of her actions, and I mean a lot of things, were totally irresponsible.

She didn't get a second chance. I caught her lies and other stuff....knew she was calling a friend to tell him what was coming down so I marched in the room and stuck out my hand for her phone - in the middle of the conversation. No cell phone for her. Killed her internet account. I have no cable. She's grounded from the land line phone, too. She is 16. She is having the time of her life dealing with the consequences of her actions.

Good for you for putting that daughter to work....be sure she turns the checks over to you to repay you. If you let her keep the phone, see that she does it on a prepaid plan....she'll have to pay in advance.

cinderella,

Assuming your post was directed at me,I have already taken the phone away from DD and had the account cancelled and she also has limited/restricted use of the home phone.Plus the accumulation of $ was mostly due to the billing cycle where I missed another half month.

So,she is without a cell right now and it's not so bad for her actually.Sometimes you find out you don't really need some of these electronics.With summer almost here she will be plenty busy doing other things.