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"Atanimpass...what a rude little woman you are. ML is giving you good advice. I do not agree that AA is the ONLY way to help a drunk, but it has worked for countless numbers of people. If your H is happy with an addiction specialist, I would say continuing with him/her for right now is fine. Your H may or may not be an alcoholic...some things point to yes, others to no. But ML speaks to you with a good heart and experience and you repay her taking the time with you with rudeness.
Your question about the mc is weird. It does come across as his mommy deciding should I punish him or not. I agree that it is up to him ... or to POJA the bike... but not as a punishment.
I don't agree that Plan B should be implememnted just yet, but the logic to do so is pretty sound. I would have a conversation with his addiction specialist before making that decision. My experience with AA people is that they sometimes see an alcoholic even when none exists. I know more than a few ex-drunks that are in the program and they really have their objectivity regarding this totally askew. ML is a very good judge of this though and in as much as she is doing this having never seen or spoken to your H, you should give more credit to her words.
The best advice I can give you is to stop being so damn defensive. People are here to help.. if you don't want help....go away. If you do, try being quiet for a few minutes and listening."
This was my post Mel... sounded like I was very negative towards you or AA huh? God forbid, I said I don't believe AA is the ONLY way...read it again Mel... where did you take offense? I said your advice was great, the organization was helpful... so what's the problem?
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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mel, you make it tough to compliment you! you are still one of my favorites...as always.
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but this thread has been so wacked out I am no longer surprised by anything. Yeah...I thought that your posts were very respectful, helpful, and informative...and someone ELSE thought that you were being rude, etc...how much more twilight zone does it get than that? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" /> Respect to ya, ML! /salute!
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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No advice is better than bad advice. OK My advice ~~~>
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What a disaster! This one was completely botched.
No advice IS better than bad advice.
Mr. G
"You don't need a weatherman to know which way the wind blows," Bob Dylan
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