I think that hickeys, that are noticeable are gross, especially on NON TEENAGERS!! It just looks low class to me.

I was not jealous that he messed around with someone else... I was jealous that he could so easily just move on... and I have not been able to!!! Not yet anyway.

No, the teary eyes did not get me to coddle him or anything. I just ignored them. We did not hug or anything....We just talked, I was calm, rational, not emotional at all about the whole thing. So at least I put on a good front!

Well, I have been DELIRIOUSLY happy since Friday. I am happy that I filed for the D. I did not expect that.

Me and my friends went out for a few drinks on Friday. They were expecting me to be down, but I was not at all. We had a blast!

It suddenly is like I can look into the future, and I may not KNOW what is going to happen, but I know that I will be in charge of my happiness, my kids, and everything else, and all I can do is take care of everything, like I have been, and everything will be ok....

And, I will not have my WH around, making me on edge, because I do not know what is going on. I know what is going on, and there is no question. I needed this for a long time, to know where I was going.

And I think that I made the right choice. I was so afraid that I was not going to make the right choice, it held me back for a long time. But when it came down to it, it was the only choice for me. I do not know if I would be able to ever reconcile with WH anyway, since he has had other relationships. I do not think that I would be able to ever look at him the same. One of the things that I loved about him was how LOYAL he was. He ended up not being loyal.

For me, I think that this is the best decision. And I am glad.

Congratulations!!!!

I too was deliriously happy. You may have down days, but my guess is you'll never regret your decision.

For me, the two years of "Plan A" followed by a Modified Plan B, and all the money I spent on MC and IC were worth it because when I walked away from my marriage, I knew I had done every possible thing I could do to have a happy, or at least pleseant, marriage.

Greengables-
Thanks!
I really do not think that I will regret it... I know without a shadow of a doubt that I would have done ANYTHING to save our M. Him on the other hand, no. So I will not live with regret.

I thought I would regret it to some degree, but I don't. So I am happy!

Hey Sadmo! I came lookin' for ya.... has he received the papers yet? I'm itching for that moment, let me tell you.
I am so glad you are happy!

Mojo!!!! Hey to you too!!!

Yes, he got the papers, and he has been NICE. Not just a little nice, but NICE. Kind of like when we were dating nice.

Weird. It is really weird. I am OK with it, he seems ok with it, we talked rationally about how we were going to split things up, and he has, for once, not been a jerk!!! YAY!!!

But... the funny thing is, he thinks that I have a boyfriend. (I don't!!!) and that is why I am so happy. I guess that he just wanted to prove to himself that I could never be happy unless I was with someone.... WRONG!!!

It, quite honestly was one of the best decisions I ever made. I no longer have the lingering in the back of my head that if I do this, or act like this, or say this, or.......I am done! I just have to be NICE until the D goes through, then I will switch to civil. Right now I will still listen to him ramble. I do NOT call him, I do not ask him if he is going to spend time with the kids during the week. He calls me and lets me know if he is taking them on Wed. or not. So, I have removed myself from him in a lot of ways.

Funny thing is, his friends have ALL decided that I was a good wife, a cool chick, and that he made a mistake! I see the look in his eyes sometimes when he looks at me, kind of imploring me to say something, do something to justify why he did not work on the M. But NOPE. As far as I am concerned right now, he is a guy, that happens to have kids with me, and I should treat him ok because of that. It is weird. Like a switch went off in my head and BAM!!! I was not upset about the ending of our M, and I did not feel guilty or hate anymore.

So, yes, I am still feeling happy, I am making plans with one of my friends to go to Vegas for a few days (I never went, and I wanted to go with STBXH and he never wanted to go). So I am excited!!!

LIVE IT UP IN VEGAS! YAY YOU!!!

Its delicious when a FWS thinks their BS has someone else.... they really are just DYING to know what's what and it cracks me up to watch them spin.

Be good, keep your integrity, and have a great time!

Mojo-
I will, withing limits of course! LOL!

Funny story, thought you would get a kick out of it....

Yesterday I took the day off of work. It was his weekend, and I wanted to go out on Friday.

So he called on Sat. And asked if he could pick up the sun dresses I have for the girls, he was taking them to some guy he works with D's party.

I said sure, but call first, since I would be shopping, and I wanted to make sure I was here.

He immediately assumes his, "OH, I KNOW what she means by SHOPPING voice" and tells me, "I hate to interrupt what you are doing". I told him that he wasn't.

So he comes to the house, and starts asking me what I did the night before, why am I so dressed up (new clothes-lost some weight, feeling pretty good!!! LOL!). I told him I had plans. He said, all knowingly, "OHHHHHH".

He then left, after trying to linger about. What were my plans? To hang out with my brother and SIL! LOL!

So today he calls me, early, and leaves a voice mail, "Sadmo... I need to get a hold of you, wake up!!!" Like, for one, I can HEAR VM, and for two, I WAS AT WORK!!!!LOL~
He called my cell, and then hours later, he called me at work, and had disguised his voice, I think to 'trip' me up! LOL! So I said, "Oh, hi, WH!" He seemed shocked that I knew it was him, and he had some lame reason for calling.

It is funny to me. A few months ago, I would have GLOMMED to this, and thought, "this is a sign!" But now I am wiser... LOL!

Watching them spin is entertaining. At least for someone as wicked as me. *wink*

Yes, I really enjoyed that story!