If I don't pass, I'm out of the program for at least two semesters because I am in the night program and they only do THAT program every other semester. Also, I'll lose my scholarship. It's making me really nervous. I'm calling my teachers, leaving messages, and still nothing.

For the love of God.. geeze.
Basically what just happened is WS dropped off DD8 and had OW's 16 year old daughter with her. I, being my semi-nosy self, exchanged pleasantries, but asked her how things were going over there considering what was going on. She told me it was fine, but she stayed out of things. I said something about how I was still married and this all made me uncomfortable. She thought I meant her, but I meant WS being around and I told her. She said she was sorry and I told her there was no need to apologize. So, that was that, no harm done,right?

WRONG. Not even 20 minutes later, I pick up the phone thinking it's one of my professors, but it's OW telling me:
"I know you have no friends, but don't talk to my daughter about anything, is that clear?"
Me, amused: "Yes, m'aam"
OW - "You're a big loser, blah blah yada yada"
Me: "Yes, m'aam"
OW: Yadda yadda yadda
Me: "Okay, well have a nice day".

I was in shock. I just stood there with the phone in my hand. Then I started crying. Not only does WS have an A, he brings this wacko into my life.

Eventually I call WS and let him know what happened. I kinda assumed he knew, but he had no idea. I guess after that point he called her and yelled at her. Maybe.

He calls me and asks me 'What the truth is" and I tell him. He tells me to go get a job and I have 2 weeks to come up with rent money and that he'll talk to me later. I guess he was going to borrow the money from her for it, but I don't know. What I do know is there's no way I can get that kind of money anytime soon. So, great.

"Gwyn, the total points needed for passing is 320, your total points for the three unit exams + the final = 318.46. Unfortunately, you do not have enough points to move on into OB. You will need to make an appointment with me this week to take care of this situation.

Please email me and let me know when you are able to meet.

Gwyn, you had a lot of stressors on you this term and you were in a bit over your head. Even at that, you were not very far away from passing. Use this time to reorganize and regroup. Prepare yourself and plan your study time for class and clinicals and you will be successful peds."

WS told me to get some sleep and not do anything stupid. I'm crying, I feel stupid. Does that count? He thinks I'll magically be able to meet with her and she'll pass me. Not likely.

This is the most screwed up situation I have ever seen.

What state are you in, if you don't mind saying?

Larry

I would go throw myself on her mercy and see if something can be done.

But whatever happens, I am PROUD of you. You are facing overwhelming odds and doing very well. Hang in there.

Larry, I'm in Florida. The nursing program is weird. This class in particular had a no rounding up grade policy that I thought.. that's what I get for thinking the teachers would be more understanding about what's going on.. and yes, believer, I'm going to beg and grovel because there's not much of an option left at this point.

Thanks for believing in me. I'm not really sure I do right now. I'm actually distracting myself by snuggling my kids and playing up Civilization 4 (you know pretending the bad Civs are OW's and all).

Well, girl, you SHOULD believe in you. You've gone through being pregnant, having a cheating husband, no money, a PSYCHO-B*TCH OW, while going to school. Talk about grace under fire! You will make an excellent nurse.

Somehow, someway, this is all going to work out.

I was a mess after D-day, walking around like a zombie and I didn't have half the stressors that you do. I'm praying for the Lord to come along side you and carry you through this.

Well, there you go. My teacher is not going to pass me.
I have an exit interview at 3:30 tomorrow. Called WS to let him know the news and of course he had nothing encouraging to say. Just 'you should have done this'.

Everyone was depending on me and now what am I going to do? Now I'm not even going to be able to support the kids for another year; IF I can get back since now my scholarship is gone with no way of getting it back. I want to go in a hole and hibernate or something. My teacher sent me this in her e-mail.

"I think you are being a bit hard on yourself. You just had a baby! That's a lot of stress and pressure on you. Trying to wear all those hats and meet everyone's demands including your own is a heavy load. Take a minute to breath and smile, it does wonders for your mind, your heart and your soul."

If only she knew, if only. I wish there was something I could do.

Hah, WS just called me back all p'od saying he's going to up there and take care of it for me. Oh boy.

I'm sorry, but I think you should take your case to the school administration. You have nothing to lose by fighting at this point so you might as well just complain to the higher ups.

It is completely ridiculous that they would force you to drop out because of a 1 point deficit.

Please don't let this go.

One last thing, I would tell your WH to stick it. It's his fault that you were under such stress and had difficulty concentrating. His input is like salt in your wounds. What a jerk.

I'm so sorry you are having such a hard time.

Sara

I second Sara-

Go see the administration and see if you can get some kind of forebearance or opportunity to take the test again because of your unique situation. You really did an absolutely amazing job considering the stress you were under and that you had a baby in the middle of all this.

Also, apply for whatever help you can with the state, WIC or other services for for mothers with kids. Plus, I think maybe it's time to file some kind of legal separation papers to protect yourself. A legal separation would require him to pay you support-because they are his kids.

In my state, the county courthouse had a person who helps with filling out this kind of paperwork and could refer you to further legal help if you needed it. You definitely need it. Your college may also have a woman's services office of some kind. They also might be able to refer you to legal advice that is free or on a sliding scale.

You really have done an amazing job in this circumstances. Please hear the commendation your instructor gave you in her email. You deserve the Wonder Woman award.

I agree. See the administration higher up, file for state or county aid, file for seperation, whatever you have to do. It seems like a setback, but perserverance is the name of the game. Keep trying everything. Don't give up. Look for alternative solutions. You ARE Wonder Woman.

"Hah, WS just called me back all p'od saying he's going to up there and take care of it for me. Oh boy."

Be sure to admire him for coming to your aid. You don't need to mention that you wouldn't have been in this position in the first place but for his stupid decisions.

If birdbrain actually does go to your school and raise a stink, it will reflect badly on you. About the only thing he could do help in that arena is to write out that he did something completely stupid while you were in the midst of having a baby - growing a baby inside yourself and that is that he committed adultery and moved out on you.

Since he is unlikely to do that, it is probably in your best interest that you notify the school that he is a birdbrain who did what he did (some details) and that they should call security if he shows up.

Just my two cents. . .

Larry

He's not going to go. He would, but I told him it wouldn't help. He's coming over to the apartment now. Just to visit, I think he said. Okay.

Looks like a lost cause guys unless some godly miracle happens between now and 3:30.

My teacher will not take the extra credit paper, I have a NR recorded as my grade, and there's no way to get extra points other than this paper, so I'm out of luck.

Hm, that was interesting. Away from the school topic and back to MB principles and what not.

He came over. He wants to come back. He says its not just for the kids, but me, too. He misses me. That he loves me and always has and that he moved out and with her because of his pride. He asked me if I wanted him to come back. I said I didn't know. I told him about Marriage builders stuff - POJA and all of that.

I told him he needs to take responsibility for what he has done. He tried to say it was a cumulative thing, but I reminded him that's no excuse for an affair, especially a mess like this one was.

I told him he needed to stop being angry with everyone. That he doesn't need to hurt people before they hurt him. I told him about how there's got to be NC with OW. He thinks she won't have an issue with it. He's so blind to how crazy she is.

I told him he needed to care more about himself. He's always coughing up blood and I know it is because of his smoking and I have wanted him to stop for ages, but of course it is not for me to say. I told him we care about him and we want him around to see the kids grow up. I think since his mom died of lung cancer, for some reason he thinks he's going to get it.

I told him that while I would like him to come back, I am afraid he'll do all this again. There was more things said, but you get the gist.

My, the pages have turned a bit. Now what should I do, I ask myself.

Well, I'm not willing to advise on whether or not to take him back, and why or how or whatever, but ...

I find his timing very interesting.

I'm wondering if your husband was threatened by your potential success and independence as a nurse; and somewhat relieved by your failure. Because he seems to find you much more available and appealing now that you've failed school. (And he sure did work hard to make that happen.)

Well, I only failed a class. Basically I didn't get kicked out, which is a nice thing.. just graduation is going to be pushed back since I need to redo this class. I wanted to graduate with my classmates and get to work ASAP, but it just isn't meant to be. I am not exactly sure what the reinstatement policy is.. I'm not being 'kicked' out so I don't see why I need to reapply for anything. I'll be clearing this up with the school tomorrow.

My professor finally learned what was going on and was like, "If I only knew..". I did not realize I should have shared all my personal information with my teachers. Maybe it's a nursing school thing. Nonetheless I am very, very disappointed I have failed.

I don't know what his motives/feelings/etc are. I do know he talked to his father before he told me. Actually WS said, "Everyone knows but you and OW" and then he told me.

To be honest I think he'd find me more appealing if I did succeed and could pay all the bills. Perhaps I'm just silly.

Keep marching on. Half of success is enduring. Concentrate on your schooling and raising your children. Put hubby on the back burner. He will probably go back and forth for a time. He is a dummy if he lets you go.

Please, please, please go to the administration and tell them what happened, including the identity of the OW and the failure by one point. Maybe at least they can save your scholarship.

Believe me, the OW is a liability issue for them.

The OW has nothing to do with the school, just the hospital I did clinicals at and not even this semester. Good news, though, I called where I got my scholarship from and my 'mentor' is going to make sure I don't lose it. Actually, he said worse case scenario is all I will have to pay for is Pediatrics again, but they'll cover everything else. So, this is a good thing.

Going to the administration over 1 point isn't going to help me. I plead my case and get to at least stay in the program and even though it's killing me stresswise and I am very disappointed, I need to keep my chin up and just get through like believer says.

On the other token, we're getting so behind in bills because WS hasn't found a job yet that this is getting to me, too. All I've wanted to do was take a nap and sleep it off today, to be honest.

40% of my term failed the class I failed. One of the classes within it, 60% failed. So, with that I guess I'm going to file an appeal. Either I try to and get this out of the way, or in Spring I'm going to be fighting with everyone else who failed for the limited amounts of seats they may or not have. I may not get anywhere, but I'll never know unless I do it. Just have to find a way to get the kids up there with me which is kind of a pain.

My dog, which I swear I posted about in here somewhere, my adorable malamute Nova, has been living over at the OW's house ever since I had to move. She was an indoor dog before, very sociable with humans with lots of interaction from me. Now she's an outdoor dog with no one basically going out there with her and another dog she has to live with, OW's lab, that she doesn't get along with. Well, that's what I HEARD since I'm not allowed to see my dog. Anyway, I went to pick up the kids and was like, "Well, while I am waiting, could you bring Nova out?". I was told by WS that she was sick. "Sick!?". Basically he told me she's having trouble walking and cries in pain whenever someone touches her legs. My poor baby! With us being broke, this couldn't have come at a worse time. Plus, I'm angry because I proved myself right when I said she would be better off at the humane society where at least they would have found her a better home.

I just want to know where the ****** I am in this script. He gave me the line how he loved me and he was sorry and he wanted us to work things out. But when push comes to shove and he calls me like he did tonight so distant and impersonal, I feel like I'm being led on. Then again, he could be talking to me that way because OW is around. He was wondering why we didn't come over to FIL's to watch football (Go Patriots! *snicker*) and I let him know we were just very tired and no one felt well which is true, basically. Also, I just had no desire to be around OW. Wasn't up for it today strangely enough.

Good for you for not going. I don't think it is in the best interests of your mental health to be around the psycho-b*tch.

Sorry about your dog. My ex had a dog that he left behind. The dog was a one person dog, and she was completely miserable. He denied there was a problem, just like he denied everything else. It was so sad.

Yes, go to school and see if you can file an appeal. It won't hurt to try. Just drag your kids along.

I know it is hard. If things get too bad, file for some welfare. I'm sure they will help with your schooling and give you some food stamps, plus medical. Hang in there. This has got to get better.