The showdown:
First of all last night my WW did not want to go to the restaurant SO, I had OMW come to my house and (to bring OM).
I had a neighbor watch my kids just in case craziness ensued….
The plan was for OMW to meet OM at a public location and then drive in one car to my home which was about 10 minutes from their public meeting spot. They met at TGIF restaurant.
There was considerable delay in arriving at my house and I knew why…. OMW told OM she wanted closure to this matter and she was coming over! Even had she not said anything, I had a strong suspicion that OM knew where I lived and would have objected just the same if in my neighborhood.
OM put up strong objection to coming to my house – he did not know what to expect. He also told OMW that he did not want to see me or meet me!
So to begin OMW arrived alone and said she still wanted to meet with my WW. By this time OM had txt message my WW to inform her that OMW was coming!
OMW came dress to a T – Nice new dress, hair done, heels, etc….! I guess it was a woman thing (she had already seen a picture of my WW) and figured she had to come dressed to impress!
When OMW arrived I invited her in to sit – I went upstairs to get WW and said a visitor was downstairs. My WW saw my neighbor sitting at the end of hallway and thought it was him, but as she approached him she looked around corner of hallway into living room and saw OMW sitting there.
My WWs eyes got real big according to my neighbor! OMW was ‘steaming’. She introduced herself as Mrs OM and my WW said ‘nice to meet you’ – OMW replied “I’m sorry I cannot say the same.”
OMW ranted and raved at WW a bit and WW became immediately defensive (did not answer any questions) and a verbal sparring session ensued. Meanwhile OM (the real absentee star) drove up my street and pulled up in front of my house, blew the horn, and wanted OMW to come outside.
I believed OM knew where I lived because he came alone without any directions and without following OMW (to whom I provided directions).
He then called OMWs cell phone to get her to come out (she did not answer). He then called my cell phone to tell me to have OMW come out. I went out the front door to see OM standing by his door with car in middle of street. I told him OMW was not coming outside. I then told him to at least come inside the front door to speak to OMW.
OM would not cross the doorway threshold and come completely into the house. You would have thought he was stepping into a trap! Had such an arrogant look in his face! I started to steam but kept my cool!
My plan was to have OMW talk especially since she said OM ‘shuts down’ when confronted with criticism or negativity. I now referred to him as “Mr. conflict avoider”!
When he came in he tried to get OMW to leave by saying ‘come on lets go’! He said this several times. I just stared at him! WW would not even look at him!
OMW said she was not leaving until OM said what he ‘came to say!’
OM then said quite quickly – ‘we are going to work on our M okay lets go!’
Here is a real MAN – cannot even stand up for his own W in front of my WW! I truly felt bad for OMW! His statement almost sounded like a forced confession!
(OMW does deserve better than that!!! I later told my WW that she could have used that opportunity as well to tell OM that she is going to work on her M)
OMW took one last verbal shot at my WW and left! I also provided her MY copy of SAA. This whole event lasted about 30 minutes. It felt like forever!
My WW seemed to take offense at this later (the nerve). She had several months to read it and do what it said -- now all of a sudden she wanted it?
I told my WW it was MY book, not hers – after all I was the one trying to survive the A. She had no genuine interest in it. I said she could buy her own copy if she wants to!
WW and I spoke for about an hour after this episode asking questions of who said what, who did what, how did this happen, etc…
After midnight, my WW then received a txt message from OM “@!@$*&*$##*%$&$%# ” (sorry if I did not quote him verbatim). I then called OMWs cell and said her H was texting my WW. She said he couldn’t be because he was sleep on the couch and she had both cell phones with her.
I wonder if this was a txt messgae that was jammed in a queue and just popped out later!
OMW and I spoke for about and 1.5 hours, she is pouring out to me what OM was saying about my WW. It sounded like a ‘smear campaign.’ It was hard to tell where the lies began and ended!
My WW was wondering what OMW was telling me. The time is after 2 am now. Even while OMW was speaking with me, my WW echoed 'liar' in the background to what OMW was relaying to me what OM was telling her about my WW.
WW then wanted me to come to bed and she also wanted to know what was said so she could defend herself!
She said this smear campaign also gives her reason not to ever want to see OM ever again!
OMW now wants to have lunch or coffee with me today to finish the conversation!
OMW also believes OM is starting to realize that I am not as bad as he had ‘imagined’!
OM hates when OMW speaks of me as a good man trying to save his M and taking care of his kids!
No doubt, OM and my WW are two prideful people who truly deserve each other!
By the way WW will be getting served papers later today!
That’s that… <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
