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Just wondering... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks. 
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Hi MarriedForever! Orangepearl said she was going with her WH a couple weeks ago.
DD19 mentioned you the other night when we were laughing about the Big Bobs gathering. DD said, "Oooooooo...She was beautiful!"
I saw your thread the other day in Recovering. I hope you are okay.
Take care!
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Hi MarriedForever! Orangepearl said she was going with her WH a couple weeks ago.
DD19 mentioned you the other night when we were laughing about the Big Bobs gathering. DD said, "Oooooooo...She was beautiful!"
I saw your thread the other day in Recovering. I hope you are okay.
Take care! Hey Chrisner! That's right, I think I remember reading that OP is going! That is a great step and I am so glad that her WH has committed to going. I am doing ok...recuperating and enjoying some much-needed time alone. We leave for SF tomorrow morning, early. Tell your DD that her very kind words just brightened my very dreary day. She is so sweet! So thank you for passing that on to me, I needed something to help cheer me up and this just did it! ~MF
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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MFver, Good to hear from you. When you get a chance, please update your other thread on the recovery side. Me thinks you have a few anxious MBers needing to know u r ok. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Hugz, L.
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DD19 mentioned you the other night when we were laughing about the Big Bobs gathering. You won't *believe* how I read that sentence the first time . . .
Me, BW
WH cheated in corporate workplace for many years. He moved out and filed in summer 2008.
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Mulan, so did I. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> Yikes..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Ace
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Mulan, so did I. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" /> Yikes..... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Ace Me 2!?!?!? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />
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Now I need to hire a proof reader and editor.
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MF, have a great time! And please send my best regards! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Bad news...My WH met with a divorce attorney this morning and told me that his heart isn't into going to the seminar this weekend but would be pursuing a divorce instead. He wants me to see a mediator. I told him that I was disappointed that he was choosing to quit when he said that he would research all options before making his decision. I then told him that I would be at the airport tomorrow and that I would see him there or not, it's his choice. I told him that I would still be attending because I had no intention of going through all of this pain without obtaining some sort of personal growth. If for no other reason than to ensure that my next relationship doesn't turn out like this one has. My heart is broken. Not because I think he's gone, but rather because he doesn't seem to care enough about me or the kids to even try.
Me-BS, 40
Him-WH, 38
Ours-G, 7 and B 3
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OP, this is hardly the end, this is pretty ROUTINE for a WS who is in withdrawal. They are up and down, down and up. They are confused and will change from day to day. This is not alarming at all. Just because he "met with a D attorney" does not mean he will file and it does not mean you are or will get divorced. It means nothing in the scheme of things and changes nothing.
My greatest concern is the cost of this weekend. I don't know if they will let you take it alone. Can you please email and call Steve Harley and ask him ASAP?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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p.s. I am very sorry your weekend is ruined, OP. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Hi Pearl, Sorry to hear the fog has rolled down your way. Glad u r still going. It says a lot for your character. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> As you can see the WS is wishy washy. A very unstable character. You are going to gain strength and he is not because he chooses to be indecisive and weak. I know this is hard but if you follow through with your plans, you will be far ahead and he will see his decision is not making him happy. What does this show? It shows he is still a WS and the OW has a death grip on him. No more assuming anything nice about the OW, ok? She is a stinky sleezeball. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> Hope you are able to meet up with M4ver. Let us know how it goes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> Give Steve our Aloha!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Hugz, L.
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NOW my WH says that he is going to the MB Seminar but only because we can't get a refund. He also scheduled an appointment for us with a divorce mediator. I told him that I cannot make the date that he offered because my lawyer is out of town. I asked him to push it back two weeks.
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Ours-G, 7 and B 3
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NOW my WH says that he is going to the MB Seminar but only because we can't get a refund. He also scheduled an appointment for us with a divorce mediator. I told him that I cannot make the date that he offered because my lawyer is out of town. I asked him to push it back two weeks. Ok, as for how this type of news goes its good news. I was gonna post about how fickle a WS can be. You realize he couldn't say he is going because he is curious as to why you would go without him so he had to come up with the $$ thingy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Yea.....like $$ stopped him from having an A. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Typical. Now you can use that line on him. Ex: BS: Hm.... I've been checking our account and it seems you A is costing a lot more than that MB weekend. So when's that gonna stop? WS: It is not. BS It isn't? Well from what I hear, the OW wants you to spend some big bucks on her..... didn't she tell you? (real acting mode, ok? ). WS: She never told me. BS: Oh....so you do have an OW. WS: No I don't we are not having an affair. BS: Who's we that is NOT having an A? WS: That's OW and I. BS: Ow & I? Hm.... sounds cozy. So if you are going to spend boku bucks on the OW, what are you doing for your family? WS: I don't have to do anything for my family. BS: You don't? Hm.... is that what you learn while having an A? Who are you? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" /> WS: I am NOT having an A. We just work together. BS: Work together, like you and (name a few guys and girls from the crew). Ws: Yes. BS: Oh... Ok..... WS: What does that mean? BS: Guess you'll be spending even more $$ on all those people. Wow.... will they like their surprise? WS: What surprise? BS: The one you are getting your entire crew. They will be happy to know you are NOT playing favorites and getting the OW more than the rest. Wow..... WS: That's not true. I'm not getting anyone one anything. BS: Oh, you're not? OW and the gang w/b sad. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Ws: oohhh.... stop u r confusing me. BS: Ok..... bye. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Ok, that's the bad orchid version. One that I have used in the past. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Love scrambling their brains.... it's really quite easy as long as they keep being a WS. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> See the fact that you stood your ground, shook him up. Keep up the good work. JMHO, L.
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NOW my WH says that he is going to the MB Seminar but only because we can't get a refund. He also scheduled an appointment for us with a divorce mediator. I told him that I cannot make the date that he offered because my lawyer is out of town. I asked him to push it back two weeks. GOOD!! It can't hurt anything to go. On the divorce mediator appointment, just tell him you are not interested in talking divorce. If he wants to talk divorce, tell him to have his atty contact your atty. Using a mediator is just another way to facilitate a quick and easy divorce, so you want no part of that. Just tell him "no thanks!" and <smile> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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NOW my WH says that he is going to the MB Seminar but only because we can't get a refund. He also scheduled an appointment for us with a divorce mediator. I told him that I cannot make the date that he offered because my lawyer is out of town. I asked him to push it back two weeks. Hahahaha, hilarious! Uhhh...fickle...yep, that would be WSs. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Plan A your [censored] off this weekend, OP...you can do it!! [P.S. have you checked the weather? For us SoCal wimps, it is gonna be cold!!!]
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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BTW, who is DD19? I need to know who thinks I'm beautiful. I feel like a half dead fish that has been tossed back into a green pond....
Me-BS, 40
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Ours-G, 7 and B 3
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BTW, who is DD19? I need to know who thinks I'm beautiful. I feel like a half dead fish tha thas been tossed back into a green pond.... That would be chrisner's Dear Daughter, who is 19 years old. Lots of acronyms around here, huh? You will catch on, you are doing great! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />
Me,BW - 42; FWH-46 4 kids D-Day #s1 and 2~May 2006 D-Day #3~Feb.27, 2007 (we'd been in a FR) Plan B~ March 3 ~ April 6, 2007 In Recovery and things are improving every day. MB rocks.
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So my WH emailed me that he wasn't going again. I called him and he agreed to go, again....I am getting dizzy.
Me-BS, 40
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Ours-G, 7 and B 3
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