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I'm praying for you Limbo. Glad you're looking forward to the end results of the surgery.
How long do expect to be off line? Are you able to have access to the web during recovery or will it have to wait until you get home?
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I should have access. And I will be home Sunday. Wil have to talk to H about what to do while I am away.
Thanks for the prayers & support. It helps to bounce this stuff off you guys.
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Hey, Limbo.
Thinking about you -- hope everything went smoothly this morning and you're on your way to a nice quick, easy recovery!
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"Lord, I pray for our friend Limbo, that she will have your peace and comfort during and after her surgery. Please guide her and her husband in all the challenges they are dealing with. May she make a quick recovery and healing in her body. I also pray for healing and rejuvination for both her and her H in their hearts and minds."
Amen
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Thanks so much, guys!
Surgery went well. I feel pretty good. Fou-frou land is nice except for the nurse who keeps trying to mske me rest instead of read email and postings.
As I was waking up in the recovery room I told the surgeon I am already glad I did this.
He went longer than expected with incisions-- elbow to waist. I am glad about that. Surgery lasted 8 hours.I am wrapped up in some tight compression stuff.
And keep drifting in and out of sleep.
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So you're a mummy, huh? So glad to see you back on line so soon. I suppose you'll be groggy for awhile.
Sleep tight. Glad all went well but I'm sure you need your rest. You are one brave tough cookie and I'm happy for you.
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Wow! Back online already ... that was fast!
8 hours had to have been tough on your body, so listen to that nurse and get some rest!!
Very glad you're feeling so good about it all. You are awesome!!!
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Still feeling that surgery recovery is going to be faster than I expected. I'm up and about a lot today, probably could have gone home today but will let myself be waited on for another day. After all, there are a lot of movies I haven't seen on the pay-per-view, and I doubt I could talk my H into "La Vie en Rose."
I am SO grateful for the privilege of getting this taken care of. I do indeed know that I am very fortunate.
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Headin' home today, Limbo? Glad you've decided to hire help this time.....for more reasons than one.
Hope the 48 hours since your surgery has been a positive experience for all, including your H's withdrawal challenges.
Hopefully your "I want us, but I don't need you" attitude will penetrate through WH's fog in the 4 weeks since your recent false recovery. At least, that's what it took for us to get on the recovery rollercoaster. Hopefully it's the same for you....soon.
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Yes, home today. Never did watch any movies.
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I'm home, have already melted down at H, which he expected. Doing OK. Want to nap and be up running around all at the same time.
No more granny arms!!Nurses, who see a lot of plastic surgery, were quite impressed with the work done both for surgery # 1 and surgery # 2. That was really encouraging. So I am ready for it to be a month from now and swelling to have gone away.
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So I am ready for it to be a month from now and swelling to have gone away. Great News, Limbo. (Maybe this will be the last time we call you that.) A month from now you'll have new arms, no swelling and, hopefully, a new positive name! Ain't life grand! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Why did H expect the meltdown? Did he have it coming? Acey
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H expected the meltdown because he has figured out they follow a pattern -- end of the weekend, urgent care nights, times of unusual stress.
But I was pretty awful. I've been pretty much in his face about having nothing left to "Plan A" with, nothing new left to invest.
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Well, if HE's able to predict them...so should you.
Now...time to change that behavior, no? LB's will NOT recover your marriage, friend.
Plan A...right?
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You are right. I was ranting at the WH, when the H was the one in the room.
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Did you tell him that? and that you were sorry? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />
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Me BS
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May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.
Recovering....it's a long road, even with a dedicated FWH
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I did tell him I am sorry. He says not to worry, we'll get through. :  :
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Congrat's on your new name,
There will be a lot of those in the future as things get better
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Chewie, after D Day 4, she thought it was finally over, but you never ended it even then. She apologised to you for her angry outbursts, she worked flat out to meet your emotional needs, she took complete responsibility for her contribution to the state of the marriage, and you accepted her efforts and apologies and worked with SH while continuing your affair.
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Thanks for the warning on saving messages.
Why not exposure-- I am not sure of the exact reasons, but he was very explicit that it was not time to do that. This is the most recent post I have found so far about SH exposure advice to Chrys. The advice DID come after D Day 4, so I stand corrected in my post on Chrys's thread (lifeschoice). However, SH seemed to be saying no to exposure JUST THEN (23 August 2007) when Chewie was participating in counselling and giving the impression that he wanted to stop the affair. SH might well have thought that he was on board with recovery then. It is clear now that he has never been. Shouldn't Chrys expose now, and if not, why not?
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