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Hey DW, how could I have missed this? Sowwy!!

Well, things are nasty busy at work, I am working 16 hour days (no kidding) because some stupid valve decided to get stuck and almost send a billion dollar mission into the ocean...Ah, joys... But you are not asking about work, are you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />?

So I am dating Ms. Wonderful for almost 5 months now, and I still can't believe how easy everything is with her. I am not only crazy about her, I actually like everything about her - her hobbies, her mannerisms, her schedule (hehe), etc etc etc. It seems so effortless, it's not even funny. I keep waiting for something to show up as a red flag, but so far nada. I have never dated anyone post my divorce that got to the 1 month mark without a red flag, let alone 5. Hmmm.

Best of all, she's not in a hurry for anything, so it makes it easy for us to spend time together and get to know each other without the dreaded "when" or "where" questions... And funny thing is, I actually look forward to seeing her whenever I can, which is very nice.

So, that's that in a nutshell. I'm happy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

Thanks for asking <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

I'm glad dw asked about you AGG. I've been wondering myself but thought you were deliberately keeping your relationship(s) quite. Perhaps for fear of a jink or simply to let things unfold without the glare and microscopic inspection of your fellow MBers. Which we do out of love, of course.

So happy to hear you're doing well and in a relationship that makes you happy. Wonderful news. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I'm glad to see this mini-update!!

Love seeing that you are happy AGG!!

Thanks for the nice words ladies <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Funny, with J, I am not worried about jinxing it, somehow it all seems just very normal and "like it should be". I guess I got so used to coming across people with issues or "weird habits", I expected to have to accept weirdness, as long as it wasn't too bad. Well, with J, she's not weird, or, perhaps, she's weird in the same ways as I am, which is just fine by me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

Teah!
I think we all hope to have what you've found.

Very cool AGG! Pretty amazing feeling when it's effortless right? How do the kids like her?

That seems to be the ticket as we get older LOL!

Tell us more about her! Is she NMNK?

That is really awesome to hear!

Yup, it does seem great when I don't have to keep running to my friends (IRL or MB) and keep asking "is it normal that my GF can't get up before 2pm? Is it normal that my GF thinks I need to prioritize her over my kids?" etc etc.

I waited 4 months before having her meet my kids. They do like her quite a bit, but they are also sweet enough to ask me whether *I* think I am compatible with her; I guess I taught them well <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. She likes them too, but that goes without saying in my unbiased opinion <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

She is NMNK, though she always wanted both. Although it's not an issue (at least the latter), as she had very early menopause. But it makes me happy that she wanted kids, and likes kids - she actually sees a foster kid once a week for a day, who is my daughter's age. Anyway, I think she has a good head on her shoulders, not one of those NMNK people about whom you say "ahhhhhh, now I see why she is NMNK"...

AGG

Did you meet her on Match? Why hasn't she married before?

Sounds all so wonderfully boring AGG! Happy for ya <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Nah, Eharmony. As far as the "why never married", she did date a guy for 11 years or so until he cheated on her, and has been in several relationships since then. I think from what I know about her, she is quite self sufficient and does not need/want marriage as a way to have someone save her from her boredom or loneliness. So I think she is happy on her own, wanting to find someone, but not willing to compromise or settle. Hmmm, sounds like someone else I know <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />.

Yes, very boring overall, just how I like it <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

hmmm AGG -- tell me more.
How/Why did she date someone for 11 years without marriage?

As you can see from my latest update -- that's my big issue these days. I don't want to date someone for all those years in a "renter" relationship.

Yeah, I dunno. I tend(ed) to be more of the marrying type, so it's hard for me to fully understand. But I have met several women who dated for 10-12 years without marriage. From their stories, they always thought it would lead to marriage, but apparently the guys were commitment-phobes (of course I only have one side of the story).

I do believe that dating for many years without marriage is probably never going to lead to marriage (unless there are definite reasons why marriage cannot happen until some later point). So I guess regarding your situation, I understand the concern.

For me, I have become less focused on getting re-married. If it happens, great, if not, fine. I am no longer spouse shopping <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. But still, if I meet someone and spend more and more time with them and like them more and more, I'd like to think that it would lead to marriage someday. I don't want to be a renter all my life <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

AGG

i never thought i would read that statement!

You have a J too!!!!

Doing a little happy dance....Woohoo!