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Before you get started, you should stop by the Basic Concepts, and the General Welcome For All New Builders.

You will find support from many people here on the boards, some of whom likely have similar circumstances to yours. Realize that the people who post here are not professional counselors. Professional counseling is available through the MB Counseling & Coaching Center. It is also advisable to purchase and fully read Dr. Harley's published books. These can be obtained through the Online Bookstore, and many of these books are available at your local bookstore.

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Hi! I am a new member. I scoured through the forums for advice on second marriages and step-parenting...is there such a thread? Thank YOU!

Ok I may be a little slow or stupid or just mising something....But I can't find the like to add a new tipoc in the main forum area. Any help on this topic? I have looked in the FAQ's area and tried to do a search for it. No luck anywhere. Help Please. Thanks!!!

Welcome. When you open the forum, right above where it says subject/poster, there is a new topic icon.

I'm new to this forum; what do all the abbreviations stand for?

WH
BS - betrayed spouse?
DD
DSS
etc...?

I am also new and I'm having difficulty figuring out what the abbreviations mean.

I've done a search and it says only an administrator can do so.

Can anyone point me to the list of abbreviations?

I found the acronyms and abbreviations

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Hi new member here thought I would introduce myself. I live in Daytona Beach Florida and have been married now for 7 years to my second husband who is 39 and I am 42 we have a 5 year old daughter together. I have 2 other daughters from a previous marriage who do not live with us. I guess I'm here because I would like to see if anybodyelse shares the same problems I do.

I am a new member to the discussion forum and I am having trouble trying to find where I can post a question, etc. It tells me to click on the new user link, but there isn't one - at least I can't see it. Please help!

Also, thanks so much for making Marriage Builders available to people who may need some outside advice. It could save someone's sanity as well as their marriage.

No, the New User link refers to registration. You already did that.

To start a new thread & ask your question, look at the top of the forum in which you want to post. You will see a tab up there that says New Topic. Click on that, fill out the form & send.

Need any more help, feel free to email me.

THIS GREETINGS I THE NEWCOMER HERE. IT IS VERY GLAD THAT HAS FOUND THIS SITE AS WELL AS AT ALL PAIRS AT ME WITH MY HUSBAND TOO THEM ENOUGH, I THINK THAT I HERE WILL FIND THE ANSWER TO MANY QUESTIONSЮ

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Hey, everyone!

I am brand new to this forum, having made a few posts, and I've got to say, this is a great community of encouragement and support.

Thank you to the moderators and all that give their input and prayers.

Count me in.

welcome, created. What's your story? Are you married? What brings you to post on MB?

Hello and welcome, created. I would love to say "it's great to have you here" but, being what this place is intended for, I'm not so sure saying something like that would be appropriate. All the same, welcome aboard, I hope you find the answers/help/encouragement you are looking for.

Hi I am new here. I am checking thing's out and I was wondering about where I could put a post up about low self asteem issue's? I was just being curious. I mean I know that this is mainly a marriage forum but I thaught I would ask. I would greatly appreciate it. Thank's.

Hi Rae! Marriage Builders is a marriage program so it doesn't really address self esteem. However, if you start a thread over on MB101, there are some really wise posters there who might be able to give their opinions.

HELLO/HELP
having just viewed the infidelity dvd, my question is regarding an abusive relationship. i have christian ideals however my husband whom i have tried to love for 28 years has had 2 romantic affairs. one at the very start of our marriage and another more recently. on top of this he was physically abusive and with strong violent attacks during our early years together. although he stopped after some years, his affection never truly returned and he became in recent months before the affair more aggressive in manner. Now he is having an affair at work - which he will not admit to. i would for the sake of my 4 children and my faith, give him an opportunity to repent and for us to save, if possible, our marriage... he was also my first love...but i do not know what to do.. can u please give me some advice. thnk u,

HI Rosie, welcome to MB! Please hit Notify under your post, and ask the mods to move our post to the Surviving an Affair forum, where folks who have walked in the same shoes can walk you through this. Also, on the side bar to the left, in the yellow box, there's a link to the How to Survive Infidelity articles.

Hello Everyone! I am new to this forum. I am not married yet. I hope to be one day. I am 22 (2 months from 23) and have been dating my boyfriend for just over 4 years now. I am ready to get married but I know he isn't yet. Both of us are trying to get our careers started. I graduated a year ago and him a year and a half ago. He has 2 part time jobs and I am an intern. Financially, we are not ready, but I think he isn't ready beyond the financial aspect. Anyways, I have toyed with the thought of moving down to where he is. I googled 'living together before marriage' and found this site. I read though pretty much everything on the main website and I have a few questions of my own. To start with, is there a thread out there about men going to strip clubs? This is something I am very against and have always told my bf that I would break up with him if he went. He thinks its not a big deal to go to them and disagrees with my thoughts, however, he has not gone to them and i believe he wont out of respect for me. I am curious if anyone else has had to deal with this issue or if I am really over reacting. Just wondering where to direct my questions. thanks!

Hello folks. I'm here as a BS (lol. that's funny to type) I have to get used to all the acronyms around here. I think my situation is fairly unique, which is why I've found it impossible to find really any other experiences like it. My WW had and EA with her best friend who is also female and married. Sounds weird but it happened. I've found it very interesting how similar just about every situation involving a WS has been with regards to reaction by the BS and WS alike. I see plenty of, really too much, similarity to my own experiences. Look forward to gaining some knowledge and insight from here forward. :-)

Welcome callmed.

Here's a link for Acronyms, Abbreviations


Unfortunately, not at all unique. We have several members with the same situation.

When you are ready, start your own thread on the Surviving an Affair Forum.

You've found the best place for suggestions, advice and support!

Thanks for the info. I will do some searching for situations similar to mine before starting my own post.

callmed, I would suggest posting on the SAA forum. Your affair is handled no differently than any other affair so any thread that is regarding an affair would be applicable. No one will see your post buried down here at the bottom of an announcement thread.

Hi I am a new member and I am not sure where I belong. I was in a relationship with my ex-husband as of March, 2011. We were divorced in 2005 after almost 7 years of marriage and we started dating again in 2008 (the same year he got his ex-girlfriend pregnant- maybe goodbye sex). Anyway I did not run for the hills, he begged me to stick by him and we would work it out which I did. Now almost 3 years later in March, 2011 of this year he tells me that he wants to find "himself" at 45 years old but he still wants to be friends. By the way he asked me to give him some time to figure out what he wants to do. Well he has called me everyday since and we have only went out once since March, 2011. This weekend he has disappeared and I have not heard from him. I feel very hurt and that I am really being played. If someone can point me in the right direction that would be great. Thanks

Hi Breakingfree, I would suggest starting a new thread over on the Divorced forum and getting input from those members. Just go to the forum, click on "New Topic" and paste this post into that thread. Good luck to you.

Thank you for your input.

Hi everyone. My name is Nate. I've been looking around the site for some time. I guess I'll be staying here for a bit, I'm currently in a situation that nobody wants to be in. I think this site will be a good place for me though. Hope to talk to all of your around here. Cheers!

New here and lots of information to read, thanks for what seems like a great community!

Welcome, Valerie! Please post your story - we're glad you're here!

I've been lurking here for a month. I must say this forum is so polite and better moderated than some other boards I checked out.

welcome everybody, I think we can share something about in here. right?

Welcome, lovestations - please share your story.

Hello everyone.....just stopping in to say hello...seeing if anyone out there has the same issue as me....

I agree, I need the same thing!!!! Mods, can you please create a new Category for this between "Military Marriages" and "Other Topics"?

Hi I'm a new member and posted my story here

My Story

Just wanted to say Hi

Hello everyone i m new here my name is Kevin

Hi Everyone,

I'm Al, found the forum during my search for discussion boards where I could just...share my experience of having gone through a bitter divorce and look for therapeutical conversations...I did not expect it to be as complicated to handle (staying sober though no matter what), but I am pleasantly surprised about a lot of info that I am finding here. Thank you, and I look forward to contribute and listen.

Welome, Saltonia. I look forward to hearing your story.

However, it is a requirement of this forum that you read the Announcements forum for rules and guidelines. There you will find that it is a requirement for you to read Dr Harley's basic concepts, question and answer columns and other articles linked on this website, and only post to other people using his concepts as a template. This is not a free-for-all forum when it comes to giving advice. Dr Harley has set up this forum for posters to give Marriage Builders advice.

Saltonia, why don't you share your story with us? I have noticed that you are attempting to advise our posters. I admire your enthusiasm, but I am concerned that you appear to not be familiar with the concepts on this site. Please read those concepts and the articles here - they are enlightening and may change the way you think about relationships. You'll learn how to build a fantastic marriage - not a bad thing, I think you'll agree.

I look forward to reading the thread you will start to tell us your story. Welcome to Marriage Builders, the best place you can be to build a strong, romantic marriage.

Hi I am new here. I read a lot of the information on the website before joining this message board. I was on another message board about infidelity but the system there wasn't working for me. I really liked what I have read here so far and think that this might be a good place for me. I'm going to give this a try.

Welcome to MB MOTG.

This is a wonderful place.

Hello everyone! I'm new here. My name is Scarlett. Nice to join you.

Hi I�m new, so glad to be here

Welcome!

Thank you, hard day..looks likes he�s refused the coaching series I�m doing books alone, praying

Unrequited love can shatter the soul and every moment can seem like an eternity in hell.
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Hello all,

I'm a newbie here. I want to say hello to all. I hope everyone here is doing well so far.

Thank you so much!