Happy Day after your Birthday - Sorry I missed it - what was I thinking?<P>As for the shark lady's letter; I say do what she says. Sheba, you have way too much to offer a man to wait around for 10, 20, or 30 years - I'm sure!<P>You know I've learned (the hard way) that marriages are very dynamic. We all change and we want new and different thngs as we grow. That doesn't mean we toss our spouse and have our own way for 10 years and come back when we're ready for what we had. It means we grow together and change together. If he wants a little more space - fine, he can have more space, but you work on it together. I know I'm preaching to choir. I just want to go kick your H in the pants and tell him to grow up. <P>For God's sake, he has a wonderful wife whose hanging on by a thread and he's running around with scissors!!! <P>Your buddy, <P>SHA

Sheba honey,<BR>I want to talk to you and give you some well deserved support. I am so tired but I have some ideas. If you want to e-mail me please do. I feel a special closeness to you. You are my friend. Bless you, (and maybe the shark lady is right)<BR>Love, Karen<P>------------------<BR>alleyoop<BR>

Sheba, update please. Has he gotten the notice from his attorney? Have you heard anything yet? How are you doing? I just wanted you to know I care. Hope you are doing okay.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

Sheba -- Can't really offer any useful advice, but I want you to know that I am thinking of and praying for you. Hang in there.<P>By the way, Happy belated Birthday.<P>God Bless

Hi Everyone, and Thanks for the support!!!<P>I am glad about the letter, deep in my heart I know that he needs counseling.<P>I'm feeling better about it and think I know pretty much what I will say when H approaches me on it.....and if you know me, you know that I have a scenario to cover any mood he might be in when he does!!! LOL!!!!<P>Just say some prayers for us for awhile that he doesn't cut off contact with me because then all he has around him are the people who influenced this mess to begin with.....Thanks, if you would be so kind.<P>Lucks - I am not going to start lovebusting....that's for sure!!!<P>Toolbox - glad to hear about the DB seminar...where's it at? Hope your wife goes.<P>SHA - Hello, my friend!! Thank you for making me laugh with that thread the other day....you're great - did I ever tell you that????? Thanks for the Happy B-Day wishes, also.<P>About kicking H in the pants...let me know when and where and I'll drag him there!!! LOL!!! I think I might borrow your "hanging by a thread and H is running around with scissors" line...I don't know what I can use it for, but I love it so much that I will find sometime when it will be appropriate!!!!<P>Alleyoop - Get some sleep and I will try to find your email addy on the email thread....mine is sheba101@webtv.net if<BR>you want to send one first...I feel a special closeness to you, too and if nothing else that's good comes out of this for me....I have been priveleged to have met such wonderful people here that I would be honored to call friend - you are definitely one of them!!!<P>SDS - No update to report yet!!! He hasn't called me anyway....we'll see what happens. Say some prayers and cross some fingers for me!!! I'm doing OK...have to go back to work tomorrow after being off for 2 weeks...I'm a little sick so feel kinda BLAH!!!! I'll just keep popping the vitamins!! <P><BR>Thanks Again Everyone and I'll update as soon as I have one!!!!<P>BIG HUGS,<P>Sheba<BR> <P>

Hope you get to feeling better. You sound like me coming up with a scenario for ever possible thing that could happen so I will know what to say when the time comes. Maybe going back to work can help you get your mind off of this for a while. Hope he realizes that this is for his own good. Take care and get rest along with the vitamins.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

ES -Thanks for the thoughts and prayers, I appreciate them so much...And for the Happy B-Day wishes also.<P>SDS - I think that I've worked this through enough that I am OK with it now...that's why I have to make the scenarios - so I can let my mind rest with knowing that I am set with how I can respond.<P>Thanks for wishing me well with what I hope is just a cold/sinus infection.<P>This too shall pass!!!<P>Hugs,<P>Sheba<P>

Hello Sheba<P> I am so sorry for just thinking of me. Thanks again for all your help by the way. I had read your story today & it broke my heart. I want to praise your strength & determination. & I will pray for you daily. I hope that the Lady Shark is right. I am all-new to this and don't have much insight on how to help but if I can I will. I have been married next month for 9 years. And 2 years prior. I don't know that I would have had the strength you have shown. You should be rewarded for all your efforts. I hope that your dreams of him will come true. I do know that the few counseling sessions that I have been going to help very much. & in-between I go visit my pasture at church he has told me too not to give up. & You have proven that you have great determination. I hope that I will have only a small portion of your determination. & Will to not give up. <P>Love & hug's to you my friend <P><BR>LotsofHope<BR>

Late again! Will you take my big hug anyway????? Nothing like being completely self-absorbed this week. Trouble is, I LOOK for your posts and still didn't see them. Too much to think about, too little brain.<P>Ah, well...<P>So.......I like the letter. No lovebust, good idea, glad you did it.<P>Happy Birthday - late as usual. But still heartfelt. I could sing so that you could hear it up north but you'd be sorry!!<P>Thanks for hanging in and helping me out even when my head's stuck in the sand - or wherever it's stuck these day!!!!!<P>Maybe this letter will kick ......oh, never mind. Getting grumpy again!!<P>Lori

Sorry I am late.....never got to this yesterday....it was on page two and I fell asleep when only halfway done with page 1...!!!!<P>Hi LotsofHope -<P>Don't be sorry for thinking of you ...be thankful that you can think AT ALL!!! I remember the beginning of this for me and You are doing pretty good!!! <P>Thanks for your kind words and your prayers...they help so much!! And you will gain strength through this mess too!! I can say that that is the one good thing that has happened to me - within myself, there is no doubts about who I am and what I want. Guess that's where the determination comes from.<P>You are doing just fine and Love and Hugs right back at you, <P>Hi Lostva -<P>Yes, I will definitely take big hugs!! lol!! <P>Oh, you have the not enough "brain" problem too!!!! I thought I was the only one!!!<P>Thanks for the input on the letter and the B-Day wishes. <P>Your head is not stuck in the sand...it's busy trying to pull your H's out of it ( or wherever...?) !! LOL!!<P>Big Hugs,<P>Sheba