Thank you Whome and WOF. I have been trying my best to get mad b/c I am a fighter. I just know once I do I can't look back. I am just so low- I think losing the baby and now him and all of it is just too much. He really is not this type of person. Financially, I have been offered help by some friends so I am just trying to hang in there giving him a chance. He thinks I afraid about standing on my two feet and it isn't. It is hard- he is out there showing her how great he is and we are suffering. The inlaws think it is my fault and I didn't defend myself. We moved here for him and the OW is inflating his ego. I will listen to your advice and think about what I would do. We have very good friends and maybe I should lean on them. It is difficult- we have been together twice as long as most people. We have been through so much stress these past years- it was almost over and he had to walk out. He is really lost in my opinion and I am sad if he is listening to his family about doing the right thing is leaving me b/c he is really rewriting history. Don't years and history matter? He is also using all of our money on his lawyers which is also hard to see - his lawyers are more than mine. I am really hurt by all he says. I just did what I thought was best and wanted to make sure we were set for the future. I guess this OW thinks that spending money at really nice places is great- b/c that is what he is doing. How I wish I wasn't so responsible- I was busy putting the money away for his pension and our child's college. It was the first time we could put away a lot and now he is saying I spent the money. I am so sad he is doing this. Thanks for listening.