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Re: Does NC mean I have to forsake my BF because she is SIL to FOM?
meremortal #1930907 08/29/07 05:10 AM
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Very interesting... and weird...

Ok, this may be coming from the fact that my WXH was a serial adulterer and therefore I'm probably way more suspicious than normal... but the thought has occurred to me that maybe the reason the best friend said your BH talks about the affair a lot, AND the reason neither the best friend or the BH want to tell the best friend's husband anything, is because the best friend and the BH have been secretly talking to each other about the affair (and other things)?

Hopefully I'm just being creepy paranoid LOL

I would vote for creepy paranoid, LOL. DH is 100% transparent. When DH and I were out to lunch yesterday we were discussing this and I asked him what he thought we should do. He agreed we should let the friendship die now in a quiet way. IOW, be neighborly and nothing more. When I asked his opinion of telling her H, his reply was it is not our business.

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Re: Does NC mean I have to forsake my BF because she is SIL to FOM?
lifeschoice #1930908 08/29/07 11:18 AM
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LC,

You've got so many friends here on MB, now that you've jumped in with both feet. I have one IRL friend, but if I had known about MB last summer, I probably would not have cultivated that one friendship.

At this season of my life, my only friends can be those who know about what's happened. Now that we're past the first year of horror....well, almost.....I can back off gradually of my dependence (addiction??) to MB and start a real life.

As I type on my laptop, my best friend is sitting here typing on our PC along with me. He says I am his best friend, too.....and he is showing it more and more each day.....and night!

Except that we still have our little trials...had one last night...check it out on my Smiles & Trials thread if ya haven't already.

Ace

FWH/BW (me)57+ M:36+ yr.
4 D-Days: Jun-Nov 06 E/PA~OW#2 (OW#1 2000)
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