Hey LT,
How are you doing?

LT,
I have ben following you. I dont want to freak you out but, have ever thought about having a DNA test on your son. You keep on saying like this.

" but have known that something isnt right five years now."
Have you snooped that deep. Like i said I dont want to upset you any more than you are but, Just a thought.

AF

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I have NO CLUE what this is. Did I miss something?

Thanks Suam,

Monitored conversation between her and her girlfriend

Well this could be anything.
Are you close to this friend? Could you talk to her and tell her you are worried about your wife&marriage?

Keep up the snooping LT.. if there is something going on here, you're sure to find it.

Probably the best suggestion I could give, is start making sure you're giving her your time and undivided attention. Read up on how to 'affairproof' your marriage. If she's in an affair it's going to be difficult, and you'll notice a lot of resistance, but if not.. I think you'll end up in a much better off sitch.

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Red Flag here, is that OM chastised her for her unannounced visit. If there was "just" a friendship, her visit would probably been welcomed.

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Ya know I thought about this one. I asked myself would I mind someone popping in unanounced. The answer, it depends on who it is. So I think it is more than likely he didn't like being caught off guard. I have a question for you about your wife. How many friends does she have? Are they close friends? Does she have trouble making/keeping friends?

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I am wondering if your wife is just loney and has attached herself to OM as a friend but he doesn't feel the same way.

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How often is she going over there? Is is several times a week? Are you sure she is going over there or are you assuming? How long have they known each other? Is she friendly with the wife?

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LT.. there's got to be a good way you can snoop here. I'd recommend locating the Snooping 101 post and see if there's something that can apply.

I'd look at phone, cellphone, email etc and see if she's corresponding with him on a regular basis (especially if she isn't in regular correspondence with here -other- friends).

Voice activated digital recorder when you can't be around.. something in the car.. something under the couch etc.

Have you expressed to your W -your- discomfort with the situation? Think of ways you can breach the subject without LBing and making accusations.. if it's nothing, maybe she'll respect your concerns and cut it out. If it's more, her reaction to the conversation could be very telling.

Also.. you might want to have a discussion with her about the underlying issues you mentioned in your initial post that cause you to be concerned. It's one thing to be insecure about this.. which will lead to suspicion, it's another thing entirely to -act- insecure about it. Being able to openly and honestly discuss things is a very strong sign of security in yourself and your M.

Otherwise.. you've acknowledged that she may be feeling lonely.. is there anything you've identified within yourself that you could be doing better to meet her needs? Have you started acting on that?

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