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L.

LadyClueless - Money may be, seems to be, a part of it.

But isn't the "real issue" one of personal accountability and responsibility for our actions?

Even IF the WW "initiated" the affair, the old tooter could just as easily have said "no thanks" rather than thinking he could take what belonged to someone else without their permission. And in a marriage, I do believe we "give ourselves" to our spouse, and in that sense we ARE a "property right" that has been volunatarily given, sort of like an "easement for life" on our "sexual freedom property line."


BigKahuna - No argument if this WW was formerly in an affair and married the guy she is now cheating on. Not sure what statute of limitations there may be, but I'd love to see the first husband file a suit against the current BS, especially now that he may have some available resources (benefited from HIS own alienation of affection).

"No consequences" for behavior is an interesting concept, but who does it serve?

God bless.

Hey SaraLynn! That gives me an idea!

"Mississippi is one of just seven states — Utah, New Mexico, South Dakota, Illinois, Mississippi, North Carolina and Hawaii are the others — that still have an alienation of affection law on the books."

Maybe I should only remarry if I move to one of those states? LOL

Marriage is a contractual agreement but it rarely involves an actual signed contract stating what the expectations are and what the consequences will be if those expectations are violated.

I still like the idea of having an annual 'state-of-the-union' signed evaluation statement that the BS could show to the OP when the adulterers claim the marriage was 'dead already'. Then we BS's could take out the latest marital report card and say, "Oh really? It says here that as of (date signed) my spouse was perfectly happy in our marriage, all needs being met, 'in love' with me, etc."

It might also be a good idea to have it in writing and signed that IF your spouse ever does start feeling that the marriage is dead, they no longer are in love with you, blah-blah, blah, that the FIRST person they discuss this with is the person they married. Hey might as well add to the contract that if they get involved with an OP before the divorce is final they forfeit custody, the home, etc.

I don't get why the courts even bother with adulterers' signatures on separation, custody and divorce paperwork. How can any judge take any agreement an adulterer makes seriously?

Wierdness and dumbness...