Also to clear things up for u that just started posting here. During our 4 years of dating through school I had 3 times where I slept with girls not in our marriage.

This was only one time in our marriage I done this not 3.

No its not right either way.

WaywardNoMore and that other name you mentioned. I cannot find their stories? Can someone help me locate them so ill have something to do when I get home.


Thank you

Is it just me or does it seem she is going from withdrawn back to conflict with the angry outbursts all of the sudden.

Or is she trying to justify what she is doing.

IF this is your chance zach you better do it right by listning to her rants and apologize, really understand where she is coming from and do not for any reason get mad and make judgments on her!

Yes it does seem she went from Withdrawal to conflict. I think its the OM.

I have a lot to type about what happened last night but I am on my medicine to help me sleep and im completely out of it.

Goodnight, ill post tomrrow

WayWardNoMore

Thank you JMWC95



I wish all of you a Merry Christmas

Rough having my first Christmas alone <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />




Sent her a Merry Christmas txt, no response.



Im thankful for all of u here at MB. Hope all has a wonderful day.

Hey there Zach
Just on here for a few minutes
Things may be quiet today but just wanted to say hi and let you know I've been here. I havent read your story, just the last 2 pages.

Maybe if you have some spare time today, go back and read this thread again and see if there's any good advice you missed first time around. We don't always comprehend when in turmoil.

Merry Christmas to U

Thank you, And yes Ill read back over it. I do tend to catch thing and see some things better the 2nd time around.


Merry Christmas to you too

Merry Christmas, Zach. Things will get better, I promise you that.

Thank you, Merry Christmas to you and your family also.

She asked what got for Christmas and she told me what she got. Told her im sorry for not being about to be with her on this day and wished her family a happy christmas and told them I loved them. Hurts knowing the OM probably told her the same thing. My wife wont really respond to me, short answer stuff and nothing about us.


This medicine has me feeling so much better now, its like it sucks but I accept what is happening.One day at a time I guess.


Yesterday after she bit my head off for 2 hours she did make a comment saying.

"Yeah and remember its not going to be easy on me knowing I was susposed to be with my husband on christmas cause he couldnt say no" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> that hurts.



Im done with my pity party now.

Zach - You are too early in this to know what will happen. Hang in there and continue making changes and growing. I'm proud of you for coming here and looking for help. Keep reading and taking it all in. It will make your life happier.

Yes thank you so much for supporting me through this. Please all continue through this battle with me. She loves me and I know that. Only time and god can help this and my changes. Ive been reading WayWardNomore story this morning, very helpful story. Tough to read right now cause the medication is making me so sleepy so im falling asleep reading.


My 9 yr old brother got a Nintendo Wii for christmas so I been down there whooping his butt in that <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. Good exercise and very fun. Now I have something to do LOL.




Ok on another note. Ill type this since I dont have anything else to do.


My aunt and Uncle. Have 2 young daughters one is in 4th grade and another in 6th. My Aunt has had 3 affairs and they split up in september just like me and my W did. My Aunt still has contact with the other person but loves my uncle to death and beggs for him back. My uncle asked me to come to this thing called "Mans Meetings" every monday, his pastor has a thing at his house where they talk about problems such as ours. Im so glad I have someone in my family that can help me and understands also. Hes the BS so its a little different and I see his hurt and it shows me a lot how my W may feel. He hasnt went out and got attached to OW though like my W has.


Last night I spend like 3-4 hours with them. I went with my Aunt to my uncles house. My aunt lives with her parents now btw. We all hung out and she was happy to see last night he wasnt so angry at her and actually let her stay the night last night for christmas. Hes def. got his head on straight and he wants the best for the kids, he still loves her but he knows she hasnt truely changed. Shes sorry yes, but she hasnt done nothing to change and he said that to me and opened my eyes a lot. I learned so much from talking to both of them last night and how they feel. I also like the fact ive learned soooo much from you guys here and I could share a lot of information with them. I told them about MB! Maybe they will come around.

My uncle has since gotten into church really hard and everything. My Aunt still talks to the OM but knows she wants to be with my uncle. I told her she needs to end all contact with him and she agreed. She was texting him while we were there and I made her turn her phone off, I really think from what ive learned here I can help them. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />


Ill keep you guys updated on that also to pass the time.

"My 9 yr old brother got a Nintendo Wii for christmas so I been down there whooping his butt in that . Good exercise and very fun. Now I have something to do LOL."

I've been trying to buy one for my sons since last year. FINALLY we are on the waiting list at Game Stop!

Be sure to tell your uncle about marriage builders.

I def. Will, I mentioned it to them last night, and my Aunt even said she thought it would be a good idea. Ill talk to him some more today or so and get him on here. Hes not to much for computers though. Ill see what I can do, hes doing so good helping himself and his family, Surprised me of how knowledgeable he was about this stuff.

The books: SAA & HNHN would be good for him to read.

L.

Yes im letting him borrow my SAA book.


Im glad ive been in a decent mood for such a crappy lonely day for me <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />.

Hope you all are having a better day than I am.

Well nothing really new today, I know her REAL friend that I speak with was at her house most of the day today with her without the Evil friend amy. My wife spend most of the day at her parents house and now she went back home with her friend Amy to stay. She sent me a text telling me to tell my Family merry christmas and all. Thats about it. Rough day.
Her mother said she seemed a little down today but ok.





And another day passes.

Back at work today. Having one of those really sad and down days. Not looking forward to New Years, knowing she might be with him instead hanging out? Not doing so good today, I just dont know what to really do anymore.

Im fixing to call her on the way to work since I didnt talk to her on the phone yesterday.

Got off the phone with her.

Asked her how her christmas was and all, she said it was ok.I asked her if she got everything she wanted and she said I guess.

She asked me how mine was, I said "ok, i dont know". and she asked me if I got everything I wanted and I said not really, she asked what I wanted...She knew I wanted her but I didnt answer, she got the hint.

I told her I loved her and hope she had a good day and rest of the week if I didnt talk to her, she got quiet fast, she sounded real sad after that, she was real quiet and didnt say much and was in a very soft tone after that. Told her I loved her and bye.