Just wondering how choosing not to sacrifice is going for all of you Recovering Renters.

Do you have any examples?

Hey Froz....I'm here and recovering as a former renter-wanabe buyer....but I'm not smart enough to give you any examples yet. <sigh> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/blush.gif" alt="" />

But I started 2 new threads that should be happy places for buyers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Thanks for bumping this thread, I was looking for it to re-read.

Ace

I've been not sacrificing. It isn't always easy. I see clearly now some of the reasons I have sacrificed...mostly out of fear and believe it or not - conflict avoidance. I say believe it or not because conflict avoiding is a bit out of character for who I used to be pre-A.

The fear is mostly based on the potential sideways PA attack I am afraid I might receive for not sacrificing. Choosing to sacrifice made me feel as though I had some sort of false sense of control over what happened to me...and maybe at times it did fend off a PA attack - I don't know.

What I do know is that if it did, it came at a pretty high price...my immense dissatisfaction.

So some time back, I decided to take responsibility for my contribution to my dissatisfaction and I stopped sacrificing. I decided that instead of trying to protect myself from a PA attack by not asking for what I wanted or by not speaking up when I DIDN'T want something, I would address the PA attack itself - which is a bit of a tricky thing because with PA attacks, you're never quite sure if it is intentional or you're just too sensitive or crazy or imagining things or what.

I threw intentional, too sensitive and crazy out the window. I don't need to know whether or not what he did that I didn't like was intentional in order to say I didn't like it or address it.

So that's pretty much where I'm at with Renter Recovery.

I can post some specific examples later. Right now I'm going to give my full attention to my Mojito and the company that just arrived.

Happy New Year to my fellow Recovering Renters and MB'ers! God bless you all!

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