Maya, I guess what I was trying to convey is that I truly feel and believe that God wants us to be happy in our marriages, not just there because we feel it is the right thing to do. He wants us to be happy with the right choices. Why is making the right choice to be with our families not thought of in terms of happiness? <P>I think you're making the right choice regardless and hope you can find happiness with that choice.

Totally agree, Connor! Thanks for clarifying more!<P>It's amazing the peace I'm feeling now. I was in the deepest darkest pit last week. And oh how I hate it there. I've been there too many times this last year .... I don't wanna be there anymore.<P>Just like Peter when he saw Jesus out on the water .... as long as he had his eyes on Jesus, he was walking on water completely supported by his faith in Jesus' power to sustain him ... but the minute he took his eyes OFF Jesus he began to sink, realizing he couldn't possibly do this as a human being. Powerful lesson there, huh?<P>

Connor and Maya,<BR>It is from doing God's will that you find the happiness that you refer to. <P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Ecclesiastes 2:26<BR>To the man who pleases him, God gives wisdom, knowledge and happiness, but to the sinner he gives the task of gathering and storing up wealth to hand it over to the one who pleases God. This too is meaningless, a chasing after the wind.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>This isn't the best scripture to support what I am saying but it is the quickest one I could find. My brain is operating in slow motion today.<BR>------------------<BR>God Bless,<BR>Rob<P><BR><p>[This message has been edited by professorg (edited October 14, 1999).]

Maya,<P>Although I agree with pretty much everything that's going on in this thread, as the voice of the pharmaceutical industry, I'd like to point out that...<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>It's amazing the peace I'm feeling now. I was in the deepest darkest pit last week. And oh how I hate it there. I've been there too many times this last year .... I don't wanna be there anymore.<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>is a pretty clear-cut sign of depression that you should continue to discuss with your doctor. Especially the cyclic nature of this. Chart your good days, your bad days. Please take this seriously---this can be successfully treated and the good days will far outnumber the bad.<P>Putting my stethoscope away now...<P>"Dr. K"<BR>

Well, Dr. K. Thanks for the input! I'm on 40 mg of Celexa ... seems to help on some days and seems to take a vacation some days. <P>Yeah, I do believe I'm clinically depressed. But oh well .............<P>This week I'm up!

Hi Maya,<P>I'm so happy to hear your going much better this week. I was really worried for you last week.<P>Hang in there.

Hey Maya!<P>Glad you're feeling better today. <BR>

Just Learning<P>Hello Maya<P> I enjoyed reading your thoughts today. I to believe that I must follow God's will & look to him for the strength & need that I have a specially now. I was devastated when my wife told me that she has fallen in love with OM but that she still loved me & she could not decide. I felt as though I wish I were dead instead of hearing this. But Lucile for me I found this web site threw my church and began to read all about affairs. & Found that a lot of it had to do with me. Not that I was being replaced by something better that I just wasn't doing a good job. I had lost being a friend & companion to my wife. I did not know what she liked or did not like to do anymore. We had only gone on a few dates over the past year. All because I took her for granted. So I believe that I broke Gods first rule of the marriage & that was to Husbands love your wife as you love yourselves. I stooped being a friend & that was what lead to our marriage problem. Now I must live with that for the rest of my life. Since discovery & me finding this web site & talking to every one here. I have found that when you start giving like God has told us to do. That I have fallen more in love with my wife now then I did before we got married. In just a short amount of time I have learned more about my wife then I have known in years. I still need a lot of work on communication. I have read every thing here on it but need the practice. I am happy for you that you are trusting God with your marriage and that the blessing's will follow. But remember that you need to work on your friendship with your H and that will bring so much joy back to you & him. Learn more about him his thoughts & feelings on other things then your marriage. Find out what truly excites him or makes him sad. Share things about yourself that make you very happy & tell him stories of things that have made you very sad. Try non-threatening stories first. Stories from when you where growing up. Tell each other of funny times you have had together. Just work on getting to know him all over again. Being his friend will help both of you as it is for my wife & me. <P>Good luck Maya<P> Hug's<P> LotsofHope<BR><P>------------------<BR>

Hi Maya,<P>Sorry I didn't chime in earlier... been a little selfish lately <P>Just wanted to say I'm happy you're doing better, and that I care <P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>Marriage: the most important contract you'll ever enter into, and the most sacred.<P><BR>