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get professinal counseling..not just friends advice
talk to people who can put aside their judgemental
attitude..prof counselors can advise you without their on stuff getting in the way
all the best
JB
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I am a former Inspector General in the Army (retired now).
Have you reported this POS to his chain of command? if you have proof, than this guy needs to be brought up on charges and ordered to stay away from your wife.
Standing in His PresenceFBS (me) (48) FWW (41) Married April 1993... 4 kids (19(B), 17(G), 14(B), 4(B)) Blessed by God more than I deserve "If Jesus is your co-pilot...you need to change seats!"Link: The Roles of Husbands and Wives
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Hi. I am sorry to hear you are going this this - I am going thru this during a deployment also. He is communicating with other women while deployed and I'm at home being good. I think you have a good plan and if you love her - try to work it out. I hope you succeed and are happy.
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Thanks for the support everyone. Things are getting hard. It seems like she is going thru withdrawal now--even though he has been gone @ school since November. Things were going good but now that I found and abolished her secret account she seems depressed and more distant from me. Guess she didn't like the exposure and me knowing her secrets. Don't know how to handle this part of things as it is extremely difficult knowing that I am no longer the source of her happiness--at least for right now.
One thing I need to make clear I think to everyone that by exposing him to his command will result in exposure of her to her command--which she is as guilty as him and would negatively affect her career. Now I could see doing this if I was done--but then that would be just out of vengence.
confusedanddazed: Sorry you have to go thru this while he is on deployment. Not sure how long you've been married, if you have kids, or why he claims he is doing what he is doing--but I wonder how he would feel if you were to let him know you packed his things and tell him to pay the storage fee or he'll wind up losing every last thing he has-including you.
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... the two I sought help from have 8 marriages between the two of them. Hey dluke - Not to slight the advice that you're getting, but I would strongly recommend giving the Harley's a call and setting up an appointment with them. Welcome home! Semper Fi, RIF
Me, BS
Her, Forgiven
Married Dec 86
Multiple A's that ended '90
Rebuilding In Faith since then...
Currently deployed to Iraq, but TEXAS is Home!
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