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Stop asking to get a status. She is a WS and until she sheds that skin you can expect her to hurt your feelings along with hurting other persons and things.
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Need help in being strong an eliminating my Lbusuters
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She has told me that she has not had contact with OM in 4 days and she having withdrawals [her words not mine]. She has quit her job?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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No she has not,but from what she tells me she only sees OM not that often he is a part time employee at the company she works at they are in contact through text messaging
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ok, so she is still in contact with OM.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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well she says she has not text message in 4 days but he did send her one and she did not respond
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she has also told me he is leaving on the first of january and then she goes off to school with her job so then there will be no contact
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but they still work together, no?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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pottsy, It doesn't matter what you FEEL and whether you have your support network around you. Your FEELINGS are a pooh in the wind. Once you had those kids, you lost any right to move away from them, for any reason. It would be evil to separate your kids from each other.
Legally I guess you are entitled to do what you want. Morally, you aren't. Whether she leaves you for the OM, whether you divorce, you have an obligation to remain in Denmark and live there until your kids become adults and self-supporting. That is it.
You must stay close to your wife because she is only thinking about her feelings for the OM. You need to be close by in case of an emergency. You need to be there when the Christmas concert happens, to watch your kids and tell them how well they performed. You need to be there when your children do everything they do.
You lost all rights to live your own life when you had your kids. You are a father. That word is spelled S-A-C-R-I-F-I-C-E. Self-sacrifice; not sacrifice of the children.
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She works in a prison and I dont they see each other that often but they are in contact through texting
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She works in a prison and I dont they see each other that often but they are in contact through texting Well, that has to end. They can't continue to work together. Did you read our posts about exposing the affair?
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No she has not,but from what she tells me she only sees OM not that often he is a part time employee at the company she works at they are in contact through text messaging If you buy that line 'not see him that often', then you'd by Clinton's line about 'didn't have sex w/Mondica' (misspelled on purpose <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />). L.
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Hello everyone,
We had our first councilling session yesterday I dont know if it went all that great but here is what she had to say she mainly focused on my drug problem.
The councillor told my wife if it was her she would fight to save this marriage.
She also said that our son would probaly end up hating my wife if we were to separate the kids but my wife disputed that with me and later said that she thought our 6 y.o would probaly hate her if I was not part of there life as a family.
W has agreed to go again next week.
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I really need help getting through everyday does anyone have any suggestions on helping me through this traumatic time in my life
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Consider this whole site a suggestion, along with all the things everyone has said to you in this thread.
As much as you want to "fix" your problem, or your Ws problems, you need to realize that this is a longterm process and the only place you can start is with yourself.
Have you read all the material on this site? What impression did it make on you? Are you in Plan A? Are you trying to show your W how good a partner you can be? Are you draining her love bank? Are you obsessing about your M with her?
You can't control her, all you can control is you, as you change yourself, her responses to you WILL change. Where do you think you should start?
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Hello all
Well its happening we are separating the last thing I want but its what she wants so I guess thats what we need to do.
I would like a nice letter I could write to her telling her how I feel for her. I am still deeply in love with her.
I am having a lot of trouble dealing with this.
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Why are you separating, pottsy? Is she leaving?
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No I am heading back to Australia she says she is done and does not want to be with me anymore.
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We have agreed to a 6 month separation
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pottsy, you idiot.
Do not go back to Australia. Stop lying to yourself. If you "agree" to a 6 month separation, face it. You are abandoning your children. That is disgusting.
Stay in your home and parent your kids.
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