One whirlpool a BS gets caught up in is trying to obtain information from a WS based on what they say.

When they are in the fog, their words have no meaning. They are trying to make sense out of living in two separate worlds. That's not possible. So when they speak, their words are coming from a brain that is totally confused.

Learn to disregard the words, and find meaning in their actions. If he does want a D, then let him do the dirty work and file. If he does, then part of his brain thinks he wants a divorce. More likely, the OW is putting pressure on him to become "free" so they can live out their fantasy.

Most waywards don't want D. They want to have both their spouse AND their lover, and they do a lot of mind gaming to justify those wants.

Stay dark in your Plan B, and fill none of your WH's EN's. That's what it takes to draw him back to the marriage. This will make the OW have to fill ALL of his needs, and IF she could do that, your H would have already filed and be gone.

Try not to hang on your WH's every word, and watch for his actions. That's where you'll get more "truth". In the mean time, use Plan B to stay out of the chaos, and get your life in order. In the mean time, make a list of what your H needs to do before he "qualifies" being allowed back in your home, and life!

Be well,
SD