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AGoodGuy #1977580 11/27/07 06:34 PM
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So it's just me and mlhb who are below her radar screen then??

Shove over Dude....don't be thinking that you are all that special...

She has moi' on ignore too....

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*puff* *puff*

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Yeah...but that probably translates into

"you are enthralled by her"

"you want her on your team"

"you think she is a leader"

"you think she is the most popular person present"

"you think she is gifted"

etc....etc...etc....

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And not to forget,

"you want to hit on her (like everyone does)...

AGG

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Something VERY COMMON amongst people with Bipolar Disorder is that you only exist to them when they want you to...

Really guys, this person IS mentally ill and I do understand how infuriating that it can be, but continuing to poke her with a stick is not gonna help...I know from years of experience of doing the exact same thing...And I am that sure that that is what is going on with Back...

Think about it, there is actually not one thing that she is asking for help on...She wants an audience, to ramble to...My dad was FAMOUS for this...Rambling endlessly with absolutely NO POINT...And when you would try to speak, YOU would be the bad guy or would be told repeatedly and LOUDLY, to "make your point"...It is an exercise in futility to continue to engage her...But I do understand wanting to...

Mrs. W


FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
Dday ~ 2005 ~ Recovered

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Well shoot...

The voice of reason....and I agree...

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Something VERY COMMON amongst people with Bipolar Disorder is that you only exist to them when they want you to...

Really guys, this person IS mentally ill and I do understand how infuriating that it can be, but continuing to poke her with a stick is not gonna help...I know from years of experience of doing the exact same thing...And I am that sure that that is what is going on with Back...

Think about it, there is actually not one thing that she is asking for help on...She wants an audience, to ramble to...My dad was FAMOUS for this...Rambling endlessly with absolutely NO POINT...And when you would try to speak, YOU would be the bad guy or would be told repeatedly and LOUDLY, to "make your point"...It is an exercise in futility to continue to engage her...But I do understand wanting to...

Mrs. W

So it would be bad if I randomly screamed out NO MORE WIRE HANGARS....right?

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Shove over Dude....don't be thinking that you are all that special...

She has moi' on ignore too....

OK, join the club. Who's bringing the popcorn?

AGG


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I agree with you, Mrs. W!!!


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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continuing to poke her with a stick is not gonna help... It is an exercise in futility to continue to engage her...

I agree, and I only post because I am safely on her ignore list. So nothing that I say is seen by her, which is consistent with the fact that nothing that others say is heard by her.

AGG


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I agree, and I only post because I am safely on her ignore list. So nothing that I say is seen by her, which is consistent with the fact that nothing that others say is heard by her.

*~*~*~ Wine Spew**~~~

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Thanks Mimi...I really do understand the frustration everyone, I do...It is maddening and yet pitiful too...And I struggle with reading her posts and posting to her myself-I didn't sleep at all last night...It's a deeply personal issue for me, as I lost my dad in June because of this illness...Her posts produce a visceral reaction within me, alternating between rage and compassion...Not rage at her though, rage at the illness...An illness that produces brillance in conjunction with madness...And she didn't choose it, and she can't control it without meds, even though her mind will tell her that she can...How very frustrating that must be...Medicine makes them feel so dumbed down to what they normally are, which usually IS a highly intelligent and productive person, until the illness takes them so deep into tangents of dysfunction...

Anyway, those are just a few of my thoughts on this...Others, of course, I completely understand will have to choose for themselves...

Mrs. W


FWW ~ 47 ~ Me
FBH ~ 50 ~ MrWondering
DD ~ 17
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WOW, Mrs. W...and I remembered about your F and was thinking that this might trigger you as soon as I read your post...

(((((Mrs. W))))


I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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This is how I feel... this song. All day long, I've felt the glorious grace of Jesus working on healing my heart... re-creating security... re-creating comfort, peace, safety, and security... where I had been wounded. More and more... on the mend.

I can't say I know how... but it's the grace of God. It's God doing His own work. No way I can describe it... wonderful grace of Jesus... Praise His name!

(this song is AWESOME to sing in church... )
Wonderful Grace of Jesus
Words and Music by Haldor Lillenas
1918

Ephesians 1:6
"To the praise of the glory of his grace,
wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved."

Wonderful Grace of Jesus, greater than all my sin;
How shall my tongue describe it,
Where shall its praise begin?
Taking away my burden, setting my spirit free;
O the Wonderful Grace of Jesus reaches me!

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(men) Wonderful the matchless Grace of Jesus,
(women) the matchless Grace of Jesus,
(men) Deeper than the mighty rolling sea;
(women) the rolling sea;
(women) Wonderful Grace, all sufficient for me, for even
me
(men) Higher than the mountain, sparkling like a fountain,
All sufficient Grace for even me.

(all) Broader than the scope of my transgressions,
(men) sing it!
(all) Greater far than all my sin and shame
men) my sin and shame,
all) O magnify the precious name of Jesus,
PRAISE HIS NAME!

Wonderful Grace of Jesus, reaching to all the lost;
By it I have been pardoned, saved to the uttermost.
Chains have been torn asunder, giving me liberty;
O the Wonderful Grace of Jesus, reaches me!

Refrain
(men) Wonderful the matchless Grace of Jesus,
(women) the matchless Grace of Jesus,
men) Deeper than the mighty rolling sea;
women) the rolling sea;
women) Wonderful Grace, all sufficient for me, for even
me
(men) Higher than the mountain, sparkling like a fountain,
All sufficient Grace for even me.
(all) Broader than the scope of my transgressions,
(men) sing it!
(all) Greater far than all my sin and shame
(men) my sin and shame,
(all) O magnify the precious name of Jesus,
PRAISE HIS NAME!

Wonderful Grace of Jesus, reaching the most defiled;
By its transforming power,
Making me God's dear child,
Purchasing peace and Heaven, for all eternity;
And the Wonderful Grace of Jesus, reaches me!

Refrain
(men) Wonderful the matchless Grace of Jesus,
(women) the matchless Grace of Jesus,
(men) Deeper than the mighty rolling sea;
(women) the rolling sea;
(women) Wonderful Grace, all sufficient for me, for even me
(men) Higher than the mountain, sparkling like a fountain,
All sufficient Grace for even me.

(all) Broader than the scope of my transgressions,
(men) sing it!
(all) Greater far than all my sin and shame
(men) my sin and shame,
(all) O magnify the precious name of Jesus,

PRAISE HIS NAME!

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Lady had some good comments today I'm meditating on.

But I don't really want people to try to fix, manage, or control me.

Share comments respectfully... so that I can learn and grow from them... and that's appreciated.

But, really,... the Holy Spirit is doing His work.

So, how bout them Red Sox??

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I'm quite happy that the Lord is doing His work in my life... He's on the scene... working by His Spirit... and so thanks... I think He's got the whole world in His hands.

I'll focus on my action steps.

I've made it through the "crisis"... of moving to open up to the Lord... and experiencing His healing touch.

I strongly recommend it... no matter if it's messy.

It's worth it in the end.

I think we should probably talk about something else. I don't see capacity on the parts of some to bear with others their burdens and remain healthy in response.

God bless.

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Share comments respectfully... so that I can learn and grow from them... and that's appreciated.

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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Something VERY COMMON amongst people with Bipolar Disorder is that you only exist to them when they want you to...

Really guys, this person IS mentally ill and I do understand how infuriating that it can be, but continuing to poke her with a stick is not gonna help...I know from years of experience of doing the exact same thing...And I am that sure that that is what is going on with Back...

Think about it, there is actually not one thing that she is asking for help on...She wants an audience, to ramble to...My dad was FAMOUS for this...Rambling endlessly with absolutely NO POINT...And when you would try to speak, YOU would be the bad guy or would be told repeatedly and LOUDLY, to "make your point"...It is an exercise in futility to continue to engage her...But I do understand wanting to...

Mrs. W

I'm not seeing healthy boundary lines in response to me.

It's best to step aside. Kind of like watching a top spin itself out.

Over-reactions... excessiveness... like your comments above... but bless you.

Did you ever read about the Salem witch trials?

How people got themselves all worked up, made excessive judgments... went into group hysteria... and really believed they were reasonable... and their assessments were accurate?

It's happening.

So have you done any Christmas shopping, Mrs. W?

(always glad to converse... on mutually enjoyable subjects... when I'm not being judged, labelled, etc., etc.)

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Shove over Dude....don't be thinking that you are all that special...

She has moi' on ignore too....

OK, join the club. Who's bringing the popcorn?

AGG

Hi AGG,

I love extra butter with mine.

Let's talk about something. OKAY!!! I was working through major junk... piled up for years... that I'd tried to work through... and somehow couldn't get strong enough to heal... just wasn't enough grace for whatever reason.

It's working now.

What's your favorite kind of movie?

I like all sorts. Comedy, sci fi, action adventure... all sorts.

God bless.

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continuing to poke her with a stick is not gonna help... It is an exercise in futility to continue to engage her...

I agree, and I only post because I am safely on her ignore list. So nothing that I say is seen by her, which is consistent with the fact that nothing that others say is heard by her.

AGG

No, I never put you on the ignore list... cause you had some nice things to say at one time. I gave you grace.

You were pretty nice (once upon a time... lol)

Maybe it will all end "happily ever after"...

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God bless.

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Something VERY COMMON amongst people with Bipolar Disorder is that you only exist to them when they want you to...

Really guys, this person IS mentally ill and I do understand how infuriating that it can be, but continuing to poke her with a stick is not gonna help...I know from years of experience of doing the exact same thing...And I am that sure that that is what is going on with Back...

Think about it, there is actually not one thing that she is asking for help on...She wants an audience, to ramble to...My dad was FAMOUS for this...Rambling endlessly with absolutely NO POINT...And when you would try to speak, YOU would be the bad guy or would be told repeatedly and LOUDLY, to "make your point"...It is an exercise in futility to continue to engage her...But I do understand wanting to...

Mrs. W

OK, the guy I work with that has bi-polar... you would so love him!!!

Please don't make it sound bad. He's not like the above description at all.

Oh, I'll tell a nice hearted story. (He's so cute!) We see clients together. We're partners. Our clients last night were really outgoing they laughed and called him "Matt". We kind of looked at them. Matthew Perry. He looks just like Matthew Perry. He's so adorable!

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You'd love him, Mrs. W.

Yep... our clients often ask if we're a couple... and try to "fix us up!" lol

I just don't feel that way about him, though.

He's a wonderful person. He has some issues, yes, but he's an extremely nice Christian man. He has a wonderful Christian family.

God bless.

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A couple of years ago my dear earthly father passed away from a sudden heart attack. I have 7 siblings, the youngest one is a half-brother from one of my mother's adulteries. My father raised him and he was in no way treated less than the rest of us siblings... Au contraire, as my mother made it extremely obvious that she favored him (in fact he still lives @ home with my mother - he and his wife and kids - pays no expenses). When my father died this brother took it very hard, VERY VERY HARD, as in he made a huge point in acting as if the rest of us siblings could not possibly understand how hard 'HIS' father passing away was on HIM... When he first got the news he went into a very scary VIOLENT rage AGAINST one of my sisters (who had also JUST FOUND OUT about her daddy dying)! When she tried to calm him down he started screaming at her for supposedly not empathizing with him because he had just found out that HIS FATHER (um - not hers too?) had died. He told the pastor not to allow any of us other siblings to speak @ our father's memorial service, that HE alone would do that! (Three of us, myself included, got up and spoke anyway - without his 'permission' - an action he coplained was 'wrong' for us to do...) When the siblings who lived in the same town as our parents brought food over for after the funeral, food for my mother and the visiting relatives who would be in town (folks like me and my daughters), he YELLED at one of my sisters for wanting to heat up and serve some of the food SHE herself had brought! He yelled that is was HIS FOOD and that she had no business taking it out of the fridge to warm it up!


I'm sorry to hear about that.

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OK, so this is the point I'm getting at:

Back, you remind me of that brother in many ways. For some odd reason you seem to believe that YOU are the ONLY one posting here who understands the depth of the despair and hurt you are suffering - that you alone are suffering that deeply.


mm, no, I don't believe for a moment that I am the only one suffering. I'm sorry I came here to share in an anonymous setting... as I came through my withdrawal. No, I really didn't want to share with friends or have them "see me through" what I was feeling.

In the first place, I think of one friend. She's been through a lot. It's just not fair of me to even share in her presence my own hurts and pains.

And I'm looking forward to being "through" what I just had to puke for a bit.

I'm sorry. No, I haven't been "present" for others here as much as I'd like. It was, for me, a crisis.

I don't "dump" on people out here in 3D. I'm here for others. I don't mean to be insensitive to others here and what they are experiencing.

But it's kind of like a trauma unit thing,... kind of... okay? I was really hurt... and because I was hurt... yeah, maybe I was just venting and stuff.

Kind of like in the labor room.

It's not that I intend to spend the rest of my life like that. If I couldn't have "worked through it"... I would hav e just "closed up the wound"... figured "failed again"... and dropped it.

And, yes, I'd like to be present for others.

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The impression given by your posts is that you are forgetting that MOST of us posting here have/are dealing with the same thing. I sort of sense that you think what you're going through entitles you to rage and vent against us but that we shan't respond to you in a way that might even be the slightest bit challenging or confrontational or else we're being insensitive to what YOU are going through. You go into great detail describing how 'burned' etc, you felt by the betrayal as if you believe that if only we could be made to understand how badly you feel surely we would agree with you and would excuse anything you post towards us.


I'm sorry. I just wasn't up to it. Plus, when I am giving "fair warning"... "please step back!"... "just listen!"... "don't judge!"... and people don't listen...

they really did contribute to making it more dramatic than it needed to be.

I guess people don't know... looking... "Hey, is this a lifetime habit here?"...

But it's not. It was just coming out of withdrawal in relation to the most traumatic thing in my life... and I just wanted to "come out of it"... with less conflict with others who wanted to critique me or overhelp when I wasn't perpared and it just wasn't the time for that.

(And it's never time for the things mkeverydycount says... and when a person is newly walking into a social group and is greeted by being called rotten names, etc... well... never mind, I'll drop it.)

People like that behaving so excessively make it more challenging to respond appropriately to people who are less vicious... because they so hurt a person (me) when that person is moving to process out their greatest hurt and pain.

And, yes, mm... I know I'm not the only one whose experienced it.

Sorry, but that's why....

I picked the global "you" here....

to come to in my time of ...

let's call it "transition".

(I'm really nice when I'm in a different mode... like... moving into "intimacy"... like in friendship and things... like Dr. Harley said.)

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The next time you're tempted to post one of your rants about how hurt you are and how mean the people who have tried to help you are supposedly being to you, why don't you consider first the feelings of those you attack and what they might be trying to deal with themselves?


OK.

And, here's the deal, I'm not likely to further vent. I know it maybe was whatever... but I just tend to work through things quickly... and really have no other area of my life where there are any issues.

I felt like people were just elongating and making more difficult something I'd get through quickly and be done with... if they would please just listen and cooperate... no matter how they thought they "knew better".

And, let's face it, pc's are not the most effective means of relating to people. (That only made it worse... because I really am much more adept in a 3D setting. And also more sensitive to others. But points noted and I'll work at it.)







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Sometimes I wish that I had tried to pull my baby brother aside and explain to him that we ALL were grieving at our father's funeral - not just him; maybe I should have tried to tell him that his behavior towards the rest of us was cruel... I DO understand he was grieving. But it was his inflated self-esteem and his lack of respect for anyone else that made him feel entitled to behave in such a rude way. We sort of shut up and put up with his rudeness and insensitivity towards us because we didn't believe he possessed enough humility about himself, or enough concern for us, to have taken any correction from us the right way. If we had tried to tell him his behavior was inappropriate, insulting, selfish, and insensitive, he would have just run to mommy to complain that we were being 'mean' to him.


I'm sorry to hear about your experience there.

Yet, sincerely, this is how I view it. I didn't "jump on" a thread by someone else and start "venting".

In other words, this was my family funeral. And anyone who came onto this thread was coming to my family funeral... because they chose to come.

And if it was about "me"... well, it really was about "me". It wasn't a thread started relative to someone else.

And why come to a funeral and upset the widow??? Why not just either try to comfort her in a way that she doesn't tell you is making things worse and upsetting her... or just not come to the funeral?

Or, better yet, just not say anything out of consideration for her grief?

Judging a widow at a funeral? Not good form.

So, I do see a difference there myself. It's not like I was in "general chat"... or jumped on a thread started by someone else or for someone else to "talk about myself".

And I really did feel the need to work somethings out of my system.

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I SINCERELY hope in your future posts you prove me wrong by demonstrating more humility, less self-centeredness, and more empathy for others.


I kinda think I'm "through it"... and don't really want to talk about it. I'm not one to want to focus on negative things. More tend to "light up a room".

Oops... well, guess not a labor room... when in intense pain. No, I didn't light up that room. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

Actually, I'm joking. To tell you the truth, when I had my son... I had him with such ease... and so maintained my composure... and was so nice to everyone... there was a nurse there being trained by another nurse.

The senior nurse turned to the trainee and said, "Not all labors are like this. This doesn't happen like this usually."

Yeah, I"m a one push wonder... like I say... I get through things quickly. (That doc didn't try to, well, shut my legs when I wanted to push or try to "stop me"... or tell me things personal that were trying... when I was in intense pain. Smart guy. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> )

One other thing.

As far as being empathetic... I'm very empathetic.

When I was diagnosed with cancer... I was alone. A needle biopsy was done and got the results on the spot... after just a short wait. They had the equipment right there and could look at the cells.

This lady was really upset... stressed that she had to give me this news... and I was all alone there.

I felt terrible for her. I told her I'd be fine.

I asked if she was okay.

(I sincerely thought more of her than I did of me. I knew I'd be fine. And I was.)

This year, found another lump. Yes, my doctor loves me!! (Not just my 2 shrinks... my doctor too... lol) Why does that tick people off to hear that people love me? I think they need to take a good, strong look at themselves over that.

Yeah, he tells me about his divorce. Asks me about my ex. Would love to go out with me, I think.
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I'm a very kind person, mm. That's why, perhaps.

And, anyway, my poor doctor looked like he was kicked in the stomache and he was so disheartened and just a dark somberness came over him that we found another lump. I felt so bad for him. (I just felt so bad about that... not about finding the lump... but that my doctor was so devastated like he'd be losing some sunshine... by losing me as a patient. Everyone there loves me, I think...???? They seem to. When I walk in, it's like "cheers" sometimes.)

Well, it was benign. I called him right away and left a message for him... cause I knew he was concerned for me. I didn't want him to have to wait a couple/few days for the test results to get mailed to him from the lab to put in my file. I had been told right away where I was tested - not by doctor's office.)

Anyway, when a person is diagnosed with cancer... and threatened again with same after having been cured... and is more concerned for how it seems to devastate those around her... than she is for herself... that's the kind of person I really am.

I'm very nice. I don't throw tantrums or fits.

(Except I did towards the ex relative the OW... the "exception").

But people on here are overly focussed on their own hurt and pain... when that's they overlap it in their perceptions and views of others... and feel the need to jump on a thread to attack... and talk about the person who is wounded... and other really poor manners I've seen on this thread.

Mess with a pregnant woman giving birth... and, well....

She delivers.

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I dunno... I think I'm through it now and would rather talk about something fun.

(I never really talk about this with friends... and I sure don't vent my feelings... cause if I can't process through them... no point letting them surface. But this time... for a reason God knows... I've gotten grace. I'm not fully mended, no... but it's begun... and I'll just let the Lord work and really don't need to talk about it. I like to focus on positive action steps. I love Dr. Harley's books.)

God bless.

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No, I never put you on the ignore list... cause you had some nice things to say at one time. I gave you grace.

You were pretty nice (once upon a time... lol)

Well, shucks, you were nice to me too at one point, and we all really did try to engage you on AD board. I really did wish that you'd answer some of the questions posed to you, about how long you were married, how old are your kids, who filed for divorce, etc etc - but you never responded. And then once you started with how everyone makes passes at you, well, my ears soured <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />.

Anyway, peace, I am all for second chances.

One of my favorites has always been The Graduate - can you believe that I never really appreciated that it involved an affair, until my ex had one? Weird. I am not sure I can ever watch it again. And you?

AGG


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