You might be right Mimi...but again...I just don't buy her act. I would love for her to tell us her other identity here so that we can compare notes based on her past posts.

He Mimi...any chance she is that poster you spent a lot of time with that eventually had a meltdown here?

You could be right about that other poster.

I wonder if she's around here somewhere.

I bet she is.

Oh, I would bet she is too...and I would also bet that based on the way she exited that she has shown up as a troll too. That was weird.

AGREED. I really learned from that...

My gut is telling me it is SNL's BS.
I wasn't here in the SNL days, but was here
when he re-registered with a new name...
and his BS was here also...they finally got shut
down and removed....????? now she's "back" ???

Hmmm..

That makes some sense. Yet, she was banned, and I think her IP was also.

They had some doozies of fights on the board too. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

She might have "found" Jesus and is now using that.

There have been many "braggarts" on the board...from years past. I have tried to determine which one it could possibly be, but to be honest, they are so forgettable that I couldn't draw on who it could be.

So much for being the life of the party...I can't even think of them...so she must not be THAT great. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

committed

I believe with that particular poster (SNL'S BS)
that she was spiritual before the A but was
going back to her pastor and picking it up again.
I think her kids also started posting for a spell.

As far as the IP getting banned (and I do remember
that being the case), if she has moved or changed
providers would she be undetectable? (I am not computer
savvy...)

This person unlike a TROLL is evidently ILL. It is clear in her posts.

Personally, I don't believe BACK is "Thinker" (SNL's BW now EX-W).

Jo

This is exactly how my sister Marilyn would talk and act. I did not mean Marilyn Monroe it was my own sister I was comparing....to Back.

I tried to search for thinker but I don't
know how to run the search..

Jo, your memory is good! I didn't remember the names
but remember the banter quite well...on and on and on.

Actually it was a woman who made mention of it and SHE did not call you a HO as you like to think she did.....it's called an example...an analogy if you will to make a point clear not to specifically call you a "name". If your giving someone directions on doing something and they don't clearly see what you are explaining....do you not give them an example? If you don't I can see how your conversations can be frustrating and not get anywhere.

God bless, but no.

And I sincerely don't believe that any discussion degenerated into what appears at this time. Ever. How-ever, the issues were not the same... (the WS was not remarried) and I was never attacked... nor did I ever have to defend myself.

Never had any conflict that I can recall.

Made lots of friends. (Course I was never attacked... that I can even recall... and none of these dynamics ever came into play before.)

Well, have been getting up at different hours - a few days at 5a.m. to help my son.

Am going to go on out into the 3D world here... a place where I can smile, be friendly, listen to others, not have to say anything about myself, and make friends.

OK, this thread is about Ltd. Plan A vs. Plan B. I consider attacks on my personality, etc... OFF TOPIC.

I recognize that others don't want me to talk about myself. And, maybe I do that in response to what I feel is attack and a response that is situational. Well, I'm not going to go there... since it's so "infuriating". However, I would appreciate people NOT GOING THERE into OFF TOPIC critiques.

Here are pertinent topics that have been raised:

1. That some things I want to pursue in life goals are being "blocked" by lack of resolution in this area of my life.

2. I may be "running" from facing my fears relative to the ex (I'm less concerned about "verbally" in this forum than "practically" - which produces either resolution or clear direction, imo, that "waiting" on the ex is the wrong path, etc.)

3. The primary thing I personally need to overcome is loss of security in relation to the ex. Loss of personal security... producing insecurity... lack of assertiveness... that results in emotional withdrawal, being burned... and produces temptation to LB.

I don't, personally believe that an effective Ltd. Plan A will enable the affair. LB'ing will. Actually, imo, my current withdrawal does... in one way.

My son's schedule... as I have considered a Ltd. Plan A.. has changed.

(Frankly, I didn't know how I was going to work even just going to MccyD's to give the Lord a chance just by coming out of withdrawal.... was going to fit into my schedule. But now that has suddenly changed. Which I believe God is sovereign... and that's what I'm watching for... Him moving in circumstances to "lead the way"... etc.)

I'm going to drive my son early in the a.m... and now, suddenly, I am already "up" once I adjust to this new schedule... to be regularly at MccyD's in the early a.m. (now, after dropping my son off - and before I go into work myself)... because that "opening" and me being up that early... was kinda forced into my schedule in the last 2 days.

Also, the direction of the Lord I felt FH brought on the Word relative not letting the sun set on wrath.

Well, the sun has been setting day after day after day on that kind of anger... for quite a while. And a step in the other direction... is something I'll try. May not be completely comfortable... but something has to "give".

The current state of affairs is not acceptable.

FH, I am not going to agree to not be laughing, joking, and having fun. I think that's a vital part of my life as a human being I'm not going to change.

However, if you would like to start a substantive thread on the scriptures you stated... for Bible study... I see great power in the Word of God. And if we just look at the Word and talk about it,... without anything being personal... the Word of God and prayer have power beyond any human means to solve and cure everything.

My point of view? If God has taken the ex out of my life... God will replace him with someone better. That's just the way God is.

However, if the ex is not "out of grace" and God will not release me to someone "better"... then might as well be positive and proactive as much as I have grace.

Any negativity on this thread further convinces me that action is necessary.

I think negativity thrives in places of inactivity... where faith is not active and God's will is not being done... in 3D.

I'm further convinced by circumstances, things brought up on this thread... my schedule has opened for my Ltd Plan A... and things therefore, next week, are going to change.

Yep.

Bible study of those scriptures would be timely. I need the strength. I can do it on my own also, however... so that's up to others.

(I don't think I'm the only one who needs a Bible study on not speaking out of "fury" or anger... LB'ing, btw.)

God bless!

What specific questions do you have regarding Plans A or B?

Mrs. W

You know Back you could opt to call Steve Harley and let him help you with a specific plan...See what he thinks regarding your situation...He does phone counseling sessions for $185...If you can't afford that, you could call in to the radio show and speak with Dr. Harley himself, free...Here is the info for doing that: They even send you a free book for calling in...Something to consider...I do think it unlikely at this point that you will get the help that you need on the board...

Mrs. W

I have to second that, Back.

I have tried to understand what you were looking for and to help you, starting on the AD board, and now here.

But if we strip away all the fluff about Ferrari's, Brad Pitts, being well liked, and (sorry) The Big Guy, there is almost nothing left.

From what I have been able to deduce, you were happily married, your H had an affair, you got pissed, he left, he married OW, you went into shock/withdrawal, and now you are coming out and want to win him back by having sex with him. Is that about the sense of it, without the fluff?

So, as Mrs. W asked, what are you looking for from us? To approve of you having sex with a married man, albeit your ex? Or something else?

Really, I am not interested in bashing you, but I think that because you are not asking "MB type" questions, your threads get derailed into the fluff. If you want MB help, why not stay focused on MB?

Can you post your questions in a straightforward way, without going off on fluff tangents? I think that would be helpful.

AGG

Hi AGG,

I think the sex with the ex thing was just part of coming out of the withdrawal. I don't find it wise.

The Ltd. eliminates that aspect.

I don't necessarily want to ask questions and get answers. There are numerous threads on this section of the board that do not fit that profile.

Hey, I was happy with josie and charlotte... just being there... in a positive manner.

You're pretty good at that too.

We'll avoid "fluff tangents"... and people honoring my request not to use this thread to OFF TOPIC bash my personality would be helpful.

Part of coming out of withdrawal was working through the emotions... calming down... setting a course of action... and successfully walking it out.

Success to me means I clearly know God's will in my situation in a practical sense and live it.

This crowd goes ape. That I've learned.

And doesn't want to see any fun or humor or lightness in life... and that's just not me. If everyone was supposed to be just like "someone"... we'd all be clones.

cya

Did you ever hear of "walking with someone"?

Just... being there???

No need to fix, manage, or control???

Just be a friend???

Yes, give input and feedback... in a way that a peer would. A friend would.


In a way that doesn't force or impinge... or create a power struggle... and all this nutsoness when people want to force their will onto someone else (in the name of "helping")

Peace.

Peace.

Quiet.

Fun.

Friendship.

And a little "heads up"... along the way... in a friendly way.

I don't know... like sitting at Panera.

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Drinking cappucino.. and just hanging... and God peacefully changing things... without any pressure or hype or upset or drama.

That sounds nice.