well, ya never know! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yes, I did read your financial stuff. All I can say is try to cut down on your expensees as much as possible until you get back on your feet. Living in one home should help with that.

Hey now, I may live in MN but I am not TOTAL white trash!
I just noticed you have been a member since 01? How many threads do you have? Should I read certain parts to help me?

but............you IS a yankee gal! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

yup.funny tho...I kinda am white trash. live in a TINY town. my REAL home is in the middle of nowhere. No neighbors for 1/2 mile!!!We even have an outhouse!!!!!!GOTTA LOVE THE NORTHWOODS!AAAHHH can't WAIT to be back home.Things have gone pretty good for me today.

Sorry-
Kinda got off track.Who cares about my outhouse right? Anywho...
-When I get home, should I wait up till 12:30 for my WH or go to bed and leave him a note to wake me up? Do we talk about why I am there? and if so, do I do it that night or wait till a.m.?

You just move in. I'm certain he won't like it. No use even arguing about it. You just tell him it is your home and your son's home too, and you are there to stay.

Hey all-
just wanted to vent a bit. soooo sad for the love I once had with my H! Just can't seem to figure out how someone would not want ot give it one last shot. He says that my "trying is not going to change anything. How can he be so sure? If we have not done marriage counselling, how can he say he "gave it his all"?

just not sure if I can continue to live with all this pain and hurt. I thought that after Nattie passed I would almost be guaranteed that my H would be there for me. I can't even talk to him about how I am feeling and no one else can understand. How do I get to the point of being able to have a compassionate discussion with him again????I need that. And I need it to be from him.

The OW is still in the picture. Until she is GONE, he won't want to try.

Move back home.

yeah I know. I have been told that for the last few days. Seems like that is the only advice people want to give me here. I KNOW I NEED TO MOVE BACK HOME!!! I GET THAT!
AND...I KNOW THE OW IS STILL IN THE PIC.! I am not stupid!
like I said...just needed to vent and hoped I could get some compassion here since I can't seem to get it anywhere else. Guess I was wrong!
God bless!
good bye!

Miss - I have a lot of compassion for you. You are in a difficult position. But it doesn't do any good to wonder why you can't talk to your husband. You can't. And that is unlikely to change while he is having an affair.

Miss, come back here, hon. I know you miss your husband. With some hard work there is a chance this will work out! Get back here!

I ORDER YOU TO COME BACK! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

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Missalot,

I know how you feel. I am very down tonight as well. But everyone here is here to support you the best way that they can. I am sorry you feel so bad.

People want you to feel good, but they must think that saving your marriage is the best in the long run.

Just keep your head up. Come in here and talk and vent, this place has saved my sanity a couple of times.

Stay strong and think about doing things that make you happy,
Ryan.

Miss,

You have to stay. Your little one is counting on you, and only you. There's no one else to fight for the family.

You CAN do this. We're here to support you.

Get your little butt back in here, girl.

Jo

missalot I hope you do come back. You are getting good advice from experienced MBers. All of us here at one point or another felt like giving up, or the advice doesn't apply, or whatever. This is a rollercoaster ride, very high highs and very low lows, and the turns can throw you for a loop. Take a deep breath and come back here. It's ok to vent is that all you want to do? If so that's ok, IF you want advice on how to save your M, listen.

MB can work BUT YOU have to work the plan. It is very hard to do with OW still in picture but others have done it and so can you.

Ok, now everyone has told you to move home. You've even said you are doing that. What else can we help you with? Why do you think we are not compassionate? What do you need help with dear?

mvg-
Sometimes all I want to do is vent but most of the time I want advice. I just don't know what advice I need yet. I am not good at expressing what I need. I feel like I am at a stand-still and that there is no advice for me right now and that TERRIFIES me.
as far as the OW in the pic...the only form that she is in the picture is thru work. Nothing more as of right now. I do not know how to change the work situation.
I guess I feel sorry for myself and am VERY sensitive right now and tend to take things a bit harsher than they are meant???
As far as needing help...idunno...I just need lots of encouragement. I think our situation is so different and delicate. And I constantly am wondering if I am doing the right thing by wanting to try? I constantly have questions but I have been told that I don't need to make things so complicated so now I don't ask a whole lot. I am the kind of person who almost needs things to be dug up sometimes. I don't always think to volunteer info.
Thanks,
Theresa

Glad you are here. All of this stuff is counter-intuitive.

Does your husband have regular visitation with your son?

Not sure what counter-intuitive means?
My H sees our son on his days off usually. he works 4 on and 2 off. he will have our son tomorrow and Tuesday. Goes back to work wed. afternoon.