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Are you following a plan, like Plan A or Plan B?

Kind of still going with plan A like being nice and civil and sweet no matter what. But also kind of doing plan B by not being the one to do the contacting first, and standing firm on my decisions.
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Where you live, can you get a court order saying that the OW can't "sleep over" while your DS is there?

As far as I know, no. MN is a "no fault" state. STUPID!!! So...neither parent can control how the other parent does their parenting and the decisions made. The only way it would be possible is if I went for full physical and full legal custody. That would give me the power at the hearing to suggest certain restraints for WH's parenting like, no drinking 8 hrs prior and during, bedtime at 830, no sleepovers till I know the OW well enough to trust her, supervised visits, etc... However, a judge may not go for the full physical and full legal. Soooo...other options are to just throw it out there in the full physical joint legal and see if a judge will go for it. I am not even sure that it is in my son's best interest right now to have WH making legal decisions for him. WH has proven in the recent past that he makes decisions for our son to benefit himself and give himself pleasure. So I may go for temporary full full and later switch it to full joint if he can prove he is making decent decisions again. Not sure. I will be going over all of this with my lawyer next week.
Thanks for all your concerns.
I have really come to a point where I feel divorce is the only option right now. The person I see now is not even CLOSE to the man I married and I have had too much too fast happen and I am just done being strung along for the ride just to pleasure him and "wait" for my "husband" to return. I don't have it in me to deal with all the drama anymore. I am going to concentrate on getting better, keeping my son away from as much of this as possible, and moving on to a better, happier life. And, hopefully along the way meet someone who adores me and my son for who we are.And respect my emotions for all my losses.
Luv YA!
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