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but I have observed a pattern with you of very misplaced, selective "compassion" based on emotional immaturity. And this is indicated by your history of always sympathizing with the VICTIMIZER and never the VICTIM. If you have observed a pattern, then you should be able to substantiate the instances when I have done so multiple time, yes? I am still looking for the proof that substantiates the pattern of which you have accused me. In other words, you can't refute a single point I made.
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stop a mentally ill person from abusing and harming others on this board. This is it... Is the goal to stop BACK from harming others? Talking to HER about it is wasted effort and only makes it worse in my opinion. It's not going to STOP her. Been there done that in real life..zillions of times... We should leave this in the hands of the moderators and owners of this Forum.
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Why don't you just respond to the poster in question as you would like instead of complaining about the responses of others? You can only control you... Why would you put it in terms of "control"? That word comes up a lot with some people on the forum. Is that how you view respectful interactions? As an attempt to control? Reasoning and discussing a topic is not an attempt at control. It may be an attempt at influencing or impacting someone else's opinion, but disagreeing with someone and telling them why is not a form of or an attempt to, control. Your post expressed your concerns about how and what back has been posting - and my response to you expressed my concerns about how and what has been posted by others. Why would you give me direction that you have not taken yourself?
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and those of us who are trying to quiet back/Laura would be silenced, giving her free reign to continue to abuse and harm others. I guarantee you that what you guys are doing will not silence her. OK, I can't guarantee but I'm willing to bet...
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In other words, you can't refute a single point I made. Since my request for substantiation for your accusations of my pattern of behavior of defending abusers rather than the abused came several pages ago, I think the need to refute is in your lap. Once you substantiate your prior accusation, I will respond to your later ones. Your choice.
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Mimi...How is pointing out her other posting name and exposing the truth of why she is here "blasting"? The EXPOSURE is not what I am referring to as "blasting". It is how the EXPOSURE is being communicated. Mel, herself, said the aim is to run her off or something to that effect.
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Mimi...she should be run off in some fashion. She cannot be helped here! We cannot hold her hand to get her to therapy if in fact she isn't just a big fat liar. If she needs therapy, all the enabling in the world here is just going to make things worse all the way around.
Personally if I had the ability to do so, I would suggest that she get help...and then ban her from further posts on the board.
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Why don't you just respond to the poster in question as you would like instead of complaining about the responses of others? You can only control you... Why would you put it in terms of "control"? That word comes up a lot with some people on the forum. Is that how you view respectful interactions? As an attempt to control? Reasoning and discussing a topic is not an attempt at control. It may be an attempt at influencing or impacting someone else's opinion, but disagreeing with someone and telling them why is not a form of or an attempt to, control. Your post expressed your concerns about how and what back has been posting - and my response to you expressed my concerns about how and what has been posted by others. Why would you give me direction that you have not taken yourself? Graplin... As I told you before, your agenda here is clear to me...I do not think it is concern for others at all...I think it is about the fact that you don't like how some people here post...That is your issue to deal with...And when it really comes down to it, the mods here are the only ones that can control the postings of others... Mrs. W
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In other words, you can't refute a single point I made. Since my request for substantiation for your accusations of my pattern of behavior of defending abusers rather than the abused came several pages ago, I think the need to refute is in your lap. More diversion...... Still waiting, graplin.
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The blasting is on the other thread.
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and those of us who are trying to quiet back/Laura would be silenced, giving her free reign to continue to abuse and harm others. I don't think anyone has suggested that you and your fellow neutralizers should be silenced. What has been suggested is that the way you have been going about silencing people hasn't been in a particularly helpful or healthy way. And it hasn't just been the backs of the forum that have come under the silencing routine - it has been anyone that had the audacity to question the methods that some are using.
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Mimi...How is pointing out her other posting name and exposing the truth of why she is here "blasting"? The EXPOSURE is not what I am referring to as "blasting". It is how the EXPOSURE is being communicated. Mel, herself, said the aim is to run her off or something to that effect. Mimi, Do you think it's okay for an OW (mentally ill or not) to post here for help to Plan A a MARRIED man? Mrs. W
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graplin, and most of all, I would like an apology about your lie about driving Ace off the board. So I will repost: Your denial that you said we drove Ace off the board: And I never said she did![ACE] This is another case of you setting up your straw arguments. I was pointing out that she was falsely accused. Quote: -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The concern I expressed was that in the rush to call troll whenever the outside-the-norm story shows up, we have driven off people *who were not trolls*. Ace pointed out that when she first came on this forum, she was accused of being a troll. She left the forum. She did eventually come back. She was not a troll.
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Bottom line, I think it's best to ignore her..
But I have no control over others...
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Mimi,
Do you think it's okay for an OW (mentally ill or not) to post here for help to Plan A a MARRIED man?
Mrs. W ABSOLUTELY NOT...but I don't buy YET that she is Laura...I have to study and think on that some more...
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More diversion......
Still waiting, graplin. You accused me of having a pattern of supporting abusers, I have asked for your substantiation. You refused answering the question and went off on other topics. You attempted diversion. And I fell for it. Then I realized what you had done and what I had fallen for. So. You accused first. You can substantiate first. Or you can continue to attempt diversion first. But I will not fall for it again. So, do you have the where-with-all to actually try to support your first accusation or will you continue to play your power game?
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What has been suggested is that the way you have been going about silencing people hasn't been in a particularly helpful or healthy way. And it hasn't just been the backs of the forum that have come under the silencing routine - it has been anyone that had the audacity to question the methods that some are using. How are you qualified to discern what is or isn't "healthy," graplin? this is just getting more and more ridiculous, really.
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More diversion......
Still waiting, graplin. You accused me of having a pattern of supporting abusers, I have asked for your substantiation. You refused answering the question and went off on other topics. I have shown you 2 examples and you are diverting. This is another diversion, dear.
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Which abusers have I supported?
In what threads?
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Which abusers have I supported?
In what threads? More avoidance…….
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