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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Can someone explain what plan A is, and how to go about it?

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Broken you don't get to plan A without exposing first, your trying to skip a step and this will not help you achieve anything.

You expose the Affair
You then plan A


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DD1November 22 2008 - DD2 October 2014
PA Duration September 08 - November 08
Second discovery- 6 online affairs 4 sexual one emotional. October 2014.kids: DS 17, DS 14, DS 12, DS 10 . Baby after divorce DS 18months

Divorced

Was misled into thinking we were in recovery for 6 years.

If you were shocked reading any of this, that this is the consequence of not following MB to the LETTER.

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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Yeah .. no kidding ... seen this mistake happen soo many times ... almost always the same result ... marital break down and failure.

Men need to man up more and stand up to their wives and stop thinking they are fragile creatures that will break if we stand firm! ... If WW's are so bent on having their affair .. THEY LEAVE! Give them a travel coffee on the way out. HECK .. help them pack the car! >.< ... ANYTHING but leave if your the guy.

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Drat ML .. you beat me too it ... >.<

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Not leaving our apartment was one of the best decisions I ever made.


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We seem to have ALOT of gullible men who have moved out of their homes recently to give their wives "space" to have her affair.


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Recently? From what I've read that's pretty much been the norm for a long time.

Pathetic.


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I don't get it myself. If I were the WW I would be wondering if he loved me at all. Which I think is the general thought around here too--a WW with a BH who moved out, will wonder if he loves her at all, or is willing to fight for her.


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Originally Posted by karmasrose
I don't get it myself. If I were the WW I would be wondering if he loved me at all. Which I think is the general thought around here too--a WW with a BH who moved out, will wonder if he loves her at all, or is willing to fight for her.
Which only solidifies, justifies, and rationalizes in her mind that what she is doing must be the right thing; otherwise, why isn't he stopping her? Yep, he never really did love me, so all this is okay.

Why is this so hard to get through to so many? It's not THAT difficult a concept to grasp.


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Okay. So, I never moved out.

But I haven't hopped back in bed since W has been back. Do I march on in, and if she's unhappy, let her know the sofa's available?


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Yes. The faithful spouse should remain in the marital bed

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Had a good night's sleep last night. Offered to stay on my side of the bed & no touching. She opted for the futon.

W grumbled, "I don't think this is something we've come to an enthusiastic agreement about."


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Originally Posted by Qoheleth
W grumbled, "I don't think this is something we've come to an enthusiastic agreement about."
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Originally Posted by Qoheleth
Had a good night's sleep last night. Offered to stay on my side of the bed & no touching. She opted for the futon.

W grumbled, "I don't think this is something we've come to an enthusiastic agreement about."

Good job! Just tell her you are not enthusastic about getting kicked out of your own bed! grin


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