You had mentioned the botch job they did a few days ago and it was bugging you then. Has it been getting progressively worse since then?

Guys I'm with you tonight. Take care as best you can. If there is anything I can do to put a smile on your face let me know.

So sorry to hear about your plight LaLa! I hope that you feel better tomorrow!!! I was gonna call ya, but if you aren't up for talking, I'll understand! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" /> Shoot me an email and let me know if there will be a good time tomorrow and if you feel like chatting!

Mrs. W

OK-thanks you all so much!! I'll shoot ya an email tomorrow, just not up for it tonight. I posted on DH's thread as to the full nature of the problem. BE WARNED- not for the faint of heart (or stomach!).

You've got mail!

Mrs. W

Well, I called the lawyer and got my answer. Just as I thought- medical malpractice could not be proven here. For it to work, you must be able to say (and prove) that you would not be dealing with this if the surgery had not happened. Since my problem was pre-existing, I would have no case. The fact that I split open means nothing. The woman (who is nurse) said any surgery runs this risk. It all depends of the type of tissue you have and all kinds of other things that do not make him negligent. So, basically, tough luck chuck! Oh well, at lest I asked/tried. And I don't have to worry about whether it is a possibility any more.

Thanks for all of your thoughts and concern last night-I really appreciate it. You guys are the best!

How you feeling tonight? It hasn't get worse since this afternoon I hope.

It is actually much better today, thanks for asking! Weird how one day it is horrible and the next it is just a slight discomfort.

When I got up this morning, DH had cleaned the whole house, kept the laundry going, did the kitty litter, etc. He is the most wonderful man!!

Sorry about your Lowe's thing! Is she still going to the hag's house? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/mad.gif" alt="" />

Hag... LOL that’s pretty much it.
No she had a headache when she got home. She's had sinus headaches now for about two years, she's suppose to stay on meds but only takes them when it starts to bug her. So I made a gourmet dinner... That's Kraft Dinner with salsa and tex-mex cheese. She's napping right now and been very pleasant. But then again, she's been pleasant for the last few weeks. So that's why I have a tough time... Mark is right though, she acts like she already gone and I just play along. She's like a roommate. I touch and rub and do things for her and she doesn't pull back at all, so I guess that's a good sign. I'm sure she'll go visit the hag sometime this week.

The Lowes thing was funny actually, and will work out better, because she seemed interested in going, not like last night... But we'll see what actually happens. I still have a tough time not over thinking, and as much as I appreciate comments from FWSs that are encouraging, in my head I have a tough time not thinking that it's over. But you know what I will make it even if it doesn’t and probably will end up in a stronger relationship, so all is good. Don't get me wrong, I am no where near giving up or moving on, but I accept that I can’t control what she does and doesn't do.

LaLa...

U have mail! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Mrs. W

Back atcha!

Hey Res,
Sorry to jump in and TJ. I just wanted to say thanks for your effort to reach out to Mrs Rock on her thread.
I read through a lot of your stuff and all I can say is that I respect you and your recovery efforts.
Thanks,
Rock

Thanks Rock...that is really eerie...I was just on your thread in the recovery board two minutes ago! I've never read your stuff and I wanted to get an idea of your sitch in case your W has some questions or needs some help.

Saw RIF in there, too! I was saying last night that I missed him! Haven't seen him around much lately and was wondrin how he was doing.

BTW..T/J's always allowed here, and you are very welcome. This place was the final nail in my "justifications" coffin! I hope she finds as much help here as I have.

I sensed you reading my thread, so I had to post to you. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
Yeah, RIF has been my calming influence. I see that he has helped you as well.
I wish that she would find some help here as well, but we shall see I guess.
One thing that I liked about your thread was how you didn't quit or bail out when it seemed to get a little hostile.
I've seen many posters cut and run in the situation that you were in.
Keep going, and thanks again.

Rock - don't be too discouraged OK?

It's a process. My wife didn't want anything to do with the MB site although she enthusiastically embraced the principles.

It got to a point where she knew that she couldn't do it on her own and needed help and started reading. She still doesn't post here very much but she has many friends here.

Your wife starting that thread is a good start. It will take her time to feel comfortable.

Thanks bk.
I'm not too discouraged. It's been a roller coaster for sure. She is good for a bit, then she goes bad.
I know that her thread is a good start.
Thanks for the encouragement.

Hi LaLa,
Just stoppin by. I'm glad you're doing better!

DM

Thanks DM!
Just got on for the day so I'll stop by and say HI in a bit, and see how you are doing.

thanks for all your support.... i wish you could tell me if my WH is going to come back or not i wish from your perspective you could give me perspective but i know no one has a crystal ball to tell me what is going to happen or how things are going to be.

I am cheering for you and your hubby and know that you are one of my heros right now.... you and all the FWS. You guys are great and need to hear that as well.

Thanks bella! That's so sweet...I am cheering for you as well!! Did you get a chance to read Serenity's post that I put up?

Noone has a crystal ball, and I know how strongly you wish he would come back. But you know you can only control what you do, and I think you are doing just terrific!!

I'm gonna take the night off from the boards. Some days it really cheers me up, and then other days it doesn't help my "mood" at all...I think I tend to get a little too caught up in it sometimes!

All the Goddesses will be happy to know- hair and make-up are done... and DH noticed, of course (he is such a wonderful man). I am gonna spend the evening with my 2 boys and then veg on the coach and have some wine. I hope everyone has a great night!!!

Yes i know about the crystal ball thing and i know no one can tell me he is going to come back but this time when he left he seems to be more bothered by it.

He did send me a text message to see how i was and all i wrote bake was "ok...thanks for asking" he knows i care about him and want him home but i dont' want to bother him. My counsler told me to act aloof so he has a chance to see what life would be without me and our DD in his any more. It might do him some good.

I hope you have a Fab night with your boys and the wine... hehe have a glass for me. I am going out with friends for awhile tonight and i will hopefully be home to get some sleep then.... hehe would be good to get some rest in there.