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Hopefully she is just trying to hang on. That will be the best. But you are doing a good job. Be sure to continue being the sweet self that she fell in love with.
I would go heavy on the touching, back/foot/neck rubs, and stay completely away from any kind of sexual gesture, including kissing.
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See I kind of messed up the renter thing and agreed to $100 a week, which is what you would pay for room and board around here. That's not bad because she had originally talked about $80 but when it came down to it she gave me $100.
You know one thing I didn't or haven’t talked about much is how much I miss having her beside me in bed, and how much I miss SF. This is one other thing that is really weird in all this. I had no real experience and I was her first so our sex life has been getting better and better through the years. The last 2-3 years have been fantastic. It was like every week we would hit a new high, so I would hope that Mr. player (who from my understanding of most players) wont be able to come up to the plate and hit homers. (That one was for Mrs. W.)
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Renter thing? I missed that. Do tell.
Being along in bed is one of the hardest things, even for a woman. I finally bought a body pillow to lay against so the bed wasn't so lonely.
It is good that the SF has been good. That is another thing in your favor. Hope it wasn't just the pot. LOL.
But I would really let her take the lead in any SF hints.
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When she decided to she wanted to separate I had talked to her (With the help of some of my friends here) about still contributing to the finances. Basically I looked at how much our expenses were and took a percentage of salary to figure out the amount. I had originally agreed to $80 after asking for $100 but she has been giving me $100 per week.
As far as SF, I haven't even thought of brining it up (That's another one for Mrs. W.). I don't think she will because she sees it as giving me false hope.
Where are you Mrs.W? I'm on fire tonight. LOL
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Well, you could joke around with her and tell her that a little SF wouldn't give you any hope at all, so not to worry.
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I'll try that some night and let you know how I make out.
I cold have, should have the other night. I was on the futon downstairs watching a movie cause I couldn't sleep. She woke up at about 3 came downstairs and commented that she was cold... That was my oppening and I missed it.
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I'd missed your earlier post about touching. That where I'm concentrating my efforts, that and winks. I had been giving her kissed here and there, but I've stopped that unless it's while kidding around. I must admit that I have to refrain from putting my hands on her cute little butt, but so far so good.
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Well, I'm sure there will be many more chances. But I do think it is a mistake to badger a woman. Doesn't sound like you are doing that.
My ex's OW and her husband had a daughter, and the OW used to go stay the night with husband and daughter occasionally. Anyway, the OW's husband told me that she slept on the couch, and completely covered up when he went through the room. She wanted NOTHING to do with him. (And believe me, my ex was no great lover).
Anyway, the affair ended, and OW is back with her husband and they are doing fine. I don't talk to him like I used to because it annoys the OW. But he did call the other day and let me know that things are good again for them.
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Nope it's all kept very sweet and loving, I pay special attention to make sure my touch is soft enough to be just a little more than tickle stage. I know that with the neck rubs she usually closes er eyes.
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Keep up those neck rubs! I don't know, it is a thin line. But most women enjoy touch with no expectations of SF.
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And this in one of her love languages. That and affection, so I've been concentrating on those. A little back run here, shoulder rub there, hand through the hair. Very casual and loving. I think she's responding well, she has yet to pull away or say anything negative.
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I'll try that some night and let you know how I make out. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> Good grief, you ARE on fire tonight! Maybe it's all that guitar-playing that brings it out!
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Hey TMTS! How stuff today?
I just posted a little diddy to BA's ridiculous thread. Couldn't help myself...he had it coming and he jumped all over DH this morning and called him a whiner. What a punk...probably a priggish little frat boy or something (not that all frat boys are that way).
Anyways...hadn't heard from ya...wondered how it's going?
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I just finished reading that. I was laughing my head off, because I could picture you just loosing it. LOL
Single guy in his 20's on a Saturday afternoon. I would think he would have something better to do besides being on-line with a bunch of mid-aged married people. I think buddy needs a little SF. LOL
I'm doing well today. I'm not questioning the 'friend' behavior. I just work in ENs every chance I get.
There are about 10 little 'chicks' upstairs right now. It was my YDD's 8th Birthday on Wednesday so we're having a little party with her friends. Oh, there goes the pizza... I'll check in later.
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probably a priggish little frat boy or something (not that all frat boys are that way). *Snicker* Thankfully they aren't all that way...Mr. W was a "frat boy"...And I was a lil sis for a frat! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> TMTS...Our dd was 8 in November...It's so funny to have a group of them together-this year all the talk was of the upcoming Hannah Montana concert! We went-it was "ROCKIN'"-LOL! We had our dd's party at a place called Young Chef's Academy...Super Cute Place-they have them in Canada too-they offer cooking classes for kids-you should check them out~~~> Young Chef's Academy Mrs. W
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I've been subjected to High School Musical 2 played in repeat mode for the last 3 hours. If I ever meet this Zach kid.... well you know. The worse thing is we got our ODD the playstation game for the same stupid thing and not only do I have to listen to it, I have to listen all the neighborhood kids sign it.
We missed Hannah Montana. I have to admit that we watch the show religiously.
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TMTS,
I think you are doing wonderful with your Plan A. This was the sort of stuff my WS did last time we were seperated (10 yrs ago...its in my thread). While, WH had no competition at the time, it did do wonders....Besides, if it doesn;t help, you are least getting in some practice time....
You know what they say, practice makes perfect....lol.
Have fun with the party. My OD turns 14 tues. so I am sure I will be having the same kind of weekend you are next weekend....God help me....
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Morning TMTS, I am getting ready to watch the game, but I'll read back and catch up with ya. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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YHEA!!! Canada just scored in overtime to win the world junior hockey championship.... yes, like any good Canadian boy we watch hockey all day on Saturdays. LOL
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LOL.....
3 and out. Darn.....
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D-day 5-14-07, WH moved in with OW
Plan A 9 months, DARK Plan B 3-17-08 until 3-2-09
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