I can see the anguish on her face. Did you go through this stage Mrs.W. Lala how about you?

Queenie - I did something for myself today... I made a nice chicken stew. I find cooking to be very distraacting from this, something to focus on.

Say hi to Mr.W for me.

P.S. I saw you picture on the photos list, you guys looks as great as you are!

p.p.s. I remember you had asked maggie to e-mail you. Do you know if she's ok?

Good job. You are doing everything just right. Keep it up, with no expectations. I think this is very hopeful, but don't let yourself hope just yet.

Thanks B,

No expectation is right... Mark has been keeping an eye on me for that and brings me back down to earth as soon as he sees that I even come close to thinking of expecting anything. When I do anything with or for her I tell myself that it's all about her so make it so. I am lucky in a way because she doesn't LB at all. I suspect this will change some when we get closer to the LSA, but by then I will have my Plan so well rehearsed that it won't bring anything out other the truth and only in a calm kind fashion... all matter of fact, no negative emotion.

I am the king of hopelessness, (Mark will vouch for me there), and so I keep on the same course and see what happens.

I pulled off another good on when she got up. I was talking to her about the plans I have for remodeling the basement. New ceiling, rewiring for better lighting new floor. The look on her face was priceless. The other thing that is bugging her is that she now has no say in what I do with the Kitchen (Which is priority one). She had ideas about certain cupboards and flooring, but none of those will be considered now.

"She had ideas about certain cupboards and flooring, but none of those will be considered now."

Ooooh, I don't know......... Talking about plans for the future is one thing that lures some of them back. I think I would ask for her input, go look at stuff (women usually love that), and be very interested in her input.

B,

I didn't think of it that way, good idea.

Thanks

Gotta start thinking like a female. LOL. I don't know your wife, but I know I would be interested in something like that.

Also, planning for the future nourishes healthy marriages. Can't hurt here.

I agree with believer...Just start making plans for the future that presume she is a part of that future...Get her excited about stuff...

To give you some idea of how that kind of thing worked with me...Mr. W knew that I really wanted a "tummy tuck"...He called and got a consultation with a plastic surgeon for me...He knew that the recovery time for that would be about 6 weeks, in which time he would be able to Plan A his butt off and insure NC at the same time...By the time I did actually have the surgery, the affair was over, however, I will NEVER forget how much he pampered me while I was recovering-NOT that I deserved it at all-which really makes what he did even more awe inspiring...

Mrs. W

P.S. Were you asking me if I went through the "cool, I'm a rock star" phase? Um, if so, I embarrassing admit that I did-I was just awful...<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

P.P.S. Thank you about the pic...Did you see the one in the main link (old pic) or the more recent one that is linked in one of my posts on that thread (new pic from this summer)?

P.P.P.S. Mr. W says "HI" right back at cha! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

You guys look great!

Your DD has her dad's eyes. Now I will have the picture of you frowning holding the 2x4 ready to swing at my head. LOL

Point taken, makes complete sense. She has always loved doing the decorating and renovation design. When I gutted the bathroom a couple of years back, I left all the design decisions to her and she just loved it.


Thanks,

Keep up the good work, TMTS...gonna be a long night on our thread <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />

And yes I went through that phase, too. "Cuz I AM a ROCK STAR" <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I knew that one was comming... I thpought of it right after I posted it. LOL

I've been following your thread, and I don't envy your decision. I just put something up.

Well... it's the end of the weekend and it's back to work! And gettin' up early, yuck!!!! I hate that! Wish the bus came closer so I wouldn't have to take the kids to school.

Oh, and I have tried Guitar Hero... I get laughed at everytime I try it.

Takes a little practice dear, that's all.

I'm back to work after a two week vacation. Not looking forward to it, I just hope the boys keep the ship afloat.

Hey TMTS...Q is still with us. She's using a different name, though. Looks like her crazy OW got in here and has been printing her stuff to use against her somehow..? Look and you'll find her <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

I saw that, is that really her??

Not positive, but pretty sure!

I don't know. I don't remember OW having a baby. Am I looking at the right one? A post to B.

Lala - is that code? I don't know what you are talking about????

That's the part I wasn't sure about...the OW having a baby and in school. So, maybe it isn't. Similar poster, though, using G-d and actually said "Queen OW" and such. Thought she was cluing us in. Plus she said people were still posting to her...I guess my PI skills are dull!

BK-No, not code, well, sort of, I guess. We have a former member who has had to change her name b/c her WH's OW found her on this site and was printing out everything she said to use against her somehow. I thought it was Queenie, but I must be wrong...

Geez and after that mix-up with your sitch earlier...I guess I better quit b4 I hurt myself! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

Nope! She's back...our skinsgal, that is!

Yep, I just posted to her, she's just fine.