I'll get something a little better when YD and Papa has gussied up a little and I'll send it in for MB as well.

I hate when the stupid machine eats my pictures. I had a crash last year and it took me six months to recover most of my pictures. I lost literally thousands of them. Some were scans of some stuff going back twenty years or more. And some were pictures of our niece's wedding which I shot a month after D-day when our own marriage wasn't looking so good. and NC was about 3 days old. I just got the finished work to them for Christmas this year because it took me six months to find them on my drive and rewrite names for them all. I recouped 204 out of 220 originals.

I've only been working in digital for a few years. I did 35mm for over 40 years and 6X6cm for 30 years and 4X5inch for 20 years. Then I bought a digital SLR and Photoshop became my new darkroom.

I currently have about 40 CDs and a 500 GB hard drive that is about half full of pictures. And I never recovered about half of what I had originally.

Mark

TJ/

Aren't digital pics great? I also scanned all of our family pics onto our computer. What's cool is you can edit them. When DH and I were separated (remember I didn't know about MB) I took one of our family photos, edited him out, and put it on my desktop. It really freaked him out when he saw it. He commented, so that's how it is, you just erase me out of your life? I said, no dear, you're doing that on your own." LOL

I wouldn't do that again (cause now I know better) but it was priceless at the time because it made him think. His actions were erasing him from our family.

/TJ

PM,

I used to do my own darkroom work so when I changed over to digital, it took a lot for me to do it. I scanned a lot of my older work into my PC many years ago, but more to build a data base to find things than for manipulation.

I have now traded my darkroom for my desktop and am trying to get the subtleties of manipulation down so that I can continue to do the same kinds of things I once did with light and chemicals. For me, editing things in and out isn't really a part of the process, merely a diversion and something to play with when I'm not trying to make actual photographs.

I am used to working with negatives the size of most people's finished prints, so the kind of things I am used to doing are less about adding or subtracting than about cropping and density. I still convert about a third of my stuff to black and white before making prints.

From my film days, I still have about 5000 negatives that have never seen a print bigger than a contact sheet. One of these days I'll get a film scanner and see if I can do anything with them in the computer.

/tj

Sorry for the tj, TMTS.

Mark

Not a problem. I've been in the photo industry since I was 18. I work for noritsu, I know that we have many machines in Wal-greens and Costco in the states. So all talk of amnipulating photos are welcome here.

Mark - you got mail. 11-12 done...Wow.

Read it...Replied...It's in your inbox...

Hi all!

Tmts,

Hope the plan went well this morning. We still haven't been able to find a pic to put up, but as soon as we do you'll be one of the first to know. It is so nice to put faces with all the friends we have here on MB.

Unfortunately, the pc I had our photos on got a windows blue screen of death with an unmountable hard drive error. I still might be able to save the data, but I need to find time to take out the hard drive and try to recover stuff. This is the first time in 10 years of doing computer work that I've had a hard drive fail. I sure did learn my lesson. As soon as we can afford it, I'm going to get and external hard drive and run automatic backups every night. Luckily, I had backups of all my websites so the only thing that we lost was about 1 years worth of email and pics. I know I have more recent backups around here somewhere, I just haven't been able to find them. Good luck to night. Repeat after me... NO EXPECTATIONS!

/tj/
Mark,

Thanks for the compliments you have given myself and LaLa. We are both quite humbled by your appreciation of our contributions. You are one of a few posters on the board we have the upmost respect for. The insight and knowledge you have at recovering marriages is a great gift to the MB forum members. We still have a long ways to go, but with the help of people like you, I'm sure we'll make it. For that, I am truly greatful. Thank you!

On a lighter note:

It's kind of funny that you mentioned option #3. LaLa and I have this little inside joke going on about that. See, we have this family of ground hogs living under our shed in the backyard and I tease here every once in a while that she's lucky she didn't end up living with the ground hogs. Her little joke is that there was no way she would ever let me go. Instead, she would have tied me to the bed in my sleep. I think she's joking, but you never know. So if you ever notice that I've stopped posting on here send help...... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

W2S,

I find that humorous since so much of what I say is really only a repetition of what others have already said. There are those on here that I think have much deeper insight than I do.

I just use more words to say less than most other people do... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

But thanks...

Mark

Mark,

Yeah, I'm kind of notorious around here for being long winded too... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

TMTS,

This is my last night of work so I'll be around more Sunday and Monday should you have any questions. Talk with you guys later. Gotta go to work.

Want2Stay

Geez, I've been gone less than 24 hours and man, did I miss a lot!

Glad to hear you are feeling better TMTS. Don't give up yet!

RIM

Hi RIM,

Yes feel much beeter, once the meds kicked in and my brain didn't feel like jello I was ok. Funny how it just sent me right inot a depressed mode.

No I'm not giving up, the infomation about OM that I got yesterday was invaluable. She's chasing him and he don't care.

tmts.....hugs from the munchkin.....i wish i was in your shoes....my wh still is seeing his ow and doesn;t know what he wants

Well this is second hand information so I'm taking it with a grain of salt. I keep snooping but nothing yet. It is encouraging that she was pretty adamant about the amount or lack of contact there was, and that OM was not anywhere near "in love". she explained that he has gone wekks without taking to her, and when he did it was becasue she initiated the call, he didn't screen it and cut it short.
I'm just hopeful that she is right.

Great news TMTS!!! Keep snooping, but my guess is if she's acting desperate and his sister's telling her not to call-- that's good too-- because desperation is not an attractive trait, so she's only going to push him away more.... he's going to pull away more, and, you can just be there to help her and meet those ENs!

Glad to hear!

RIM

TMTS,

Just be certain that she sees you as her source of comfort as she feels him slipping away. No need to let her search out another OM.

Make her need you more than she needs her fix of OM.

Mark

RIM - That's the sense that the neighbor got, that she being too clingy for this guy. (I'll take clingy!), but she's not there yet. More good news!!! I figured out her phone password! I know my WW and she doesn’t have the greatest memory so I knew it would be some sort of pattern, well after plying around for about half an hour I got lucky. So now I think I know the number! And when I check it, there is nothing coming from there, and about 2-3 calls there, but nothing in the last week. All call lengths are under 30 sec. So even if she did talk to him, he got rid of her fast. God RIM I hope you and Lala are right on this and the fog will lift just enough to have her realize what she is doing and put a stop to it. I think the next few weeks will be critical. Still nothing on the recorder.

TMTS,

I am so glad you are doing better. You should know better than to "forget" you meds...very bad. It sounded like your Plan A was great this morning. You are a much stronger person than I am when it comes to consistancy...

It also sounds like you got some hopeful information concerning WS and OM. That should be the kick you need to continue with your A game...lol. Heck, you keep this up, and maybe she will be fog-free before too long...

Anyway, I just wanted to pop in and catch up on your end. Sorry haven't kept up lately, my stinking-thinking has been messing me up, but I am beginning to get back to where I want to be. Catch ya later....

not2fun

ps...say some prayers for my sis, she's having a bad night (fight with hubby), I told her to get on here and post, since I really didn;t have any advice (not sure what to say to a FWS, ya know). I told we could try to get word out to Resonance for help. Maybe she will listen to me....

TMTS,

My goodness, but you are doing quite well I see. Your strength is growing daily. Can't you feel it?

I miss talking to you, hopefully I will see you over the weekend. I had a nice day with JT, actually very fun day. But I am struggling with loneliness so bad right now. Not sure why.

I think I will go over and finish reading that book my WH says he is reading. He could be lying to me. Doesn't matter he is in G-ds hands....

Well the hammer just dropped.

She did the appartment and is moving on Feb. 2 (Her birthday).

I sat there with a look of shock for a little while, then she asked me if I was ok. I told her I wasn't, and that her moving was ripping my heart apart. It feels so real now.
I'm a complete mess right at this moment, so I'll be back after I've gathered myself back up. Time for an amerretto coffee.

OH TMTS,

We are right here with you. I'm sorry that you are going through it, but remember WITH G-D ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE.

Keep praying...turning it over to G-d and leave it with him. Did you ever get a G-d box where you can put your worries in there? I finally did and it truly helped.

I have MY MOMENTS but for the most part it's ok. Your WS is G-d's child too. He is hurting for her. Please let him do his work in her and you continue on your path of recovery.

If your Plan A hit a bump... Stand up... Dust yourself off... and pray for some guidance. I am finding that Plan A isn't always about actions as it is about seeking guidance from G-d.

Be still.......... pray...... and know you are loved on here......I want some of that drink. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />