booka, my brother did that same thing. Needy, neurotic women. He finally met a woman at a church who was funny, full of herself, strong, and could put up with his bs. Basically, he had to start looking at other kinds of people. He kept looking for skinny model types, but finally he stopped looking at those women, and realized how many other women there were out there. He had just never noticed them before.

I have always told my D17 to look for guys who are not 'all that' - not the model types, not the popular ones, because those kids have it easy, and it will show in their personality. I told her to notice the quieter ones, the smart ones, the ones who were successful in other ways, ways in which they didn't need popularity strokes. The ones who understand what it's like to not get everything you want handed to you just because of what you look like or how much money you have. I've been so proud that she has the best group of friends around, because she looks beyond the looks, you know?

If the man uses profanity and disrespect towards his mother especially, then that shows how he will treat his 'significant other'. If he can't respect the woman who brought him into this world and took care of him, then he will have NO respect towards any other female in his life.

I agree with what CatPerson posted:

"For one thing, meet their families before getting too involved. Meet their best friends. Go to their church. Meet their coworkers. Do whatever you can to see how they live otherwise from you. If they are not allowing that, back away. Good people have nothing to hide. And the one thing I keep telling my daughter - watch to see how they treat servants and other people 'beneath' them; a great indicator."

Also, be cautious about merely asking them about their lives, take time to observe them in their natural surroundings, interracting with their friends, relatives, coworkers, waitresses, etc. instead of just giving them the opportunity to tell you what they presume you want to hear.

My WXH didn't introduce me to his family until we had already been living together for 6 months! And then we spent most of our marriage not living near them so it took literally years to uncover all sorts of red-flag type info... Big Mistake I will certainly never make again LOL.

Oh, IMHO any male still (or back) living with his parents is not ready to get involved with a woman yet. UNLESS it is absolutely clear that he is capable and willing to support himself but chooses to live at home TEMPORARILY because his parents need him there. And even then, it would be best to wait until he in fact is in his own place and whatever dependency issue between him and his parents has been taken care of.