Thanks for the continued feedback. It brings me incredible peace and I can't thank you folks enough.

As far as exposing the relationship. As I mentioned previously, my wifes parents relationship with her is somewhat strained since this began last year. My wife simply ignores their displeasure.

My wife is closer to my step-father probably then I am. Sometimes I honestly think she cares more about what he thinks then I do but as supportive as my step-father is of me in this situation, she's never rude with him and he's tried very hard to reach out to her just to talk but she just avoids him so she doesn't have to listen to reality and she can remain in her "Daddys little girl" dream.

The OM family is utterly worthless and frustrating to me. They are very serious church people as I understand. The OM's father and my wife were co-workers at one time and the OM's father introudced them a year or so ago while the OM was in the middle of his own divorce. I guess the OM's parents looked at it like "Our son is sad, lets introduce him to a married woman so he feels better about himself". Being a parent, I hope they can sleep at night better then I do.

I understand the concept of exposing the Affair but in my particular instance, it's not really a card I have to play at this point.

Regardless, I appreciate that input anyway <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Finding new uses for the term 'serious', I see... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

K,
I know my posts have been somewhat lengthy and I probably confused folks more then anything. But to clarify the current state as best I can breifly.

WW was home with us for 6 months, We finally found her a new job she loves thankfully in City A. The plan was for our family to relocate to City A with her to persue the career and get away from OM. After a trip up there by herself, she invites OM and they are doing whatever they are doing there. She travels home after her weekly work for 1, maybe 2 days. When she's home, she'll sleep in our bed and act as though things are normal. (drives me nuts...)

After I found out OM made a trip up to her new city. I told her there was no point to me moving the family there because she just allowed the problem to "follow us" instead of getting away from it.

Just so happened totally by chance I got a call after she spends a week with OM in her new town with a job opportunity for ME that I've dreamt of but let it go for the sake of my family in years previous. If I take the job, WW and I would effectivly be 1023 miles apart. Something that has never ever happened before, I've always been a phone call away and regardless of her situation with OM while I would never enter their home last year, she knows if she needed me I was there.. That wont be the case if I take this job.

Hopefully that makes more sense? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

It does make sense (and thanks for the synopsis!). But why wouldn't you consider her moving to the new city. She would have to give up her new job. She might not want to. And it might be a good time for Plan B...

I'd spend the $ and talk with the Harley's for a couple sessions. If she could acknowledge the following conditions:

1. Move
2. No OM
3. Counseling

Then it might be the start to a recovery, as opposed to a start of Plan B.