Everyday I go to the bank to make deposits for work and one of the tellers there is wanting to set me up with her male co-worker. So far she hasn't told him that it's me that she wants to set him up with. He's given her his cell phone number for me to call if I want.

My quandary is this...How awkward is it going to be if she tells him it's me and he's not interested and I still have to go into that bank everyday to make deposits...or How awkward would it be to call this guy and tell him myself it's me and have him not be interested and I still have to go into that bank everyday to make deposits...lol. Then again he may be fine that it's me and I still have to go into that bank everyday to make deposits. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> ohhhh what webs we weave...LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Should I just forget the entire thing and not risk any awkwardness at all?? Oy Vey! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

You won't know if you don't try!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

He probably will want to go out with and probably is flattered that you are interested.

Then again, maybe he won't be interested. Does that mean you aren't worthy of some man's attention? No, it means that you may not be the type of person he is attracted to.

So... go for it!

Go for it!!!

Make light of the situation so that if it doesn't play out, there won't be that awkwardness that you are fearing!!! It's a first date, it's 20 questions and getting to know each other!!!!

Be glad that you have a friend that is able to set you up!!

Go for it and enjoy, have fun!!!

Dawn

You just go on going to the bank and being your usual self and don't worry about it. A date is not a walk down the aisle.

Okay so if I go for it.....should I let her tell him who has the crush or should I just call him and "wing" it. I can be so a$$ backwards sometimes...LOL

What backfire?
He'll know he has an admirer, and he can look at you in a new way if you let him know.
Got for it.

Talked to the girl from the bank tonight...We decided that she is going to call him and tell him tomorrow that it's me. (He didn't work today and doesn't work tomorrow.)

Soooooo Thursday will be the first day that I'll have to walk into the bank with him knowing it's me. YIKES!! But like everyone said...I just need to go for it!! It's his loss if he isn't interested!

Keep us posted!

Thanks I will and Thanks for your words of encouragement!

Due to a unforeseen circumstances my friend from the bank couldn't tell him a few days ago. They are going to Applebees for a Christmas "get together" tonight and she is telling him then...sooooo...it's his loss if he decides he isn't interested.

Good luck! Let us know how it works out.

Well.....I talked to my girlfriend and she has told him....and.....he's happy that it's me. YEA! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

She called him on his cell. He was in the mall Christmas shopping and they had a horrible connection so she's giving him my phone number tomorrow at work.

Hopefully he'll use it soon. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Thanks again for your words of encouragement to JUST GO FOR IT and I'll keep you posted! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

What happened to the longterm BF, Alluring?

AGG

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> Very happy for you!

AGG.....turned out to be not so long termed...blah!

I know I'm a little late in responding to your post..as your friend has already told him...but..

I'm curious, if you go to the bank everyday, why didn't you tell him yourself?

Or strike up a conversation with him on various topics while your there, and then as your leaving, say something like.."maybe we can continue this conversation over coffee sometime?" then the ball is in his court if he wants to meet for coffee..

he may not ask you out right away as he may need to get the courage, but the more you go in talking about various things with him..the more he gets to know you..

Obviously <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />. But I was curious about the "why" part - you had some 17 months invested with him, right?

I don't want to pry, I was just curious.

AGG

Curiosity killed the cat AGG...LOL

We met August 2005 but actually seriously dated for 18 months or so.

We have always had a relationship out of convenience for both of us. We have busy schedules and when we had the time we would see one another (there is also an hour driving distance between us). We would talk almost nightly also. It was working good for us but something in me changed and I realized that I want more than that. Nothing to take away from him...we are still great friends and he's a good person. He has taught me alot and gotten me through alot and I have great respect for him and always will. So see...nothing bad...he just wasn't "The One". <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

ThornedRose,

Because like most people I don't like rejection and I wanted to "feel" the situation out before I did anything. I was admiring him from afar.

His coworker/my friend came into my store one day and he happen to come up in conversation. I asked her what she knew about his personal life and it just kinda of took off from there.

I talked to him briefly yesterday. We'll see how things go. It's nice to have something to look forward to...especially over the holidays.

Turns out he is definitely not the one. He's 36, never married, no kids, no hobbies, no sense of humor, and the big flashing red flag.......he lives at home with mommy and daddy!!!!!!!!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />